I got discovered at 19,a model its hard for me to meet anyone without them saying how beautiful i am,its hard to find guy to settle with,have friends,even my aunt who saw me after years recently went into raptures(im not vain or shallow)but i would love someone to love me as person without my looks how?again im not boasting,vain,shallow.I know 1 person who loved me for who i was before at times i feel bad about it whenever i meet any person they say im beautiful even without talking to me.Please tell me what to do.
2006-08-18 07:37:47 · 26 answers · asked by abeautyqueenz@gmail.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think love happens when two people have been through alot first of off not every person in your life even if they like you for your looks are going to be there when your in need thats not possible so when you go through things in life one day youll realise one man has been with you through everything good bad ugly thats the one for you and make sure you dont let them know how you look until ofcourse your sure they like you for person you are!
2006-08-20 08:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a model too, and I'm going thru the same thing you are!!
I get told all the time that I'm beautiful.
However, I can't find a guy who likes me for who I am.( no, I'm no B****, I'm intelligent, and very well educated)
A close guy friend told me that guys are intimidated by pretty faces. Since you are pretty all the other guys will think that too and your "boyfriend" will have to compete all the time. If he is a jealous "boyfriend" your pretty face can cause you and the other guys hitting on you some serious problems.
It takes a special guy who can put up with the competition....this guy is secure with himself and feels "lucky" you've chosen him...when you could have any guy you want!(at least that's what HE thinks)
Keep looking he's out there. I'm going to continue looking for Mr. Right...until then...I'm single and loving it!
Hang in there you'll find him.
2006-08-20 15:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by valeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abeautyqueenz, from your yahoo name you have seemed to have taken it upon yourself of love you for your looks, so that probably projects unto other people. If you are continually preening, spend hours trying to look good, stand around in a posing position, and just act in a manner that says "I am good looking and you are not" then you will never have anyone love you for being a person for you are not being a person you are being a trophy. You want to see what it is like to be treated like a person, why don't you go to a makeup artist and have them put wrinkles, zits, moles, etc on your face, give yourself a double chin, some fake teeth, and then try to meet people using only your personality and see what happens.
If you are beautiful it is natural for people to admire your beauty first for that is the first impression. What happened to the person who loved you for who you are? Did you scare him/her away with your ego?? Be honest with yourself, act yourself not as you feel other people think you should, try going into the world without a false front and maybe you will discover another side of yourself that you will like better than the beautiful person you claim to be.
2006-08-18 07:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by white61water 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you could always dress down a little baggy clothes and such no make-up, camouflage your looks a little. But the truth is it will be hard to know. But the ones that stand by you in a bad situation or crisis, are more true. The ones that can ask you more questions about the real you, not just what it is like to be a model. Hope this helps a little.
2006-08-18 07:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by tbhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety,
I really answer many questions similar to yours but I think you have this problem seriously.
The shallow peoples only see your outside beauty and forget your inside beauty and your lovely soul.
Other peoples in contrary see your lovely soul and sense.
And only few peoples ( honest peoples) see both.
The problem is that you can't see the right person who respect you and see you both sides then he have to respect you as a human with flush and soul not only sexy style for pleasing .
Nobody can see these more than you because simply you know your self and know what kind of people you need to be around you.
You have to be careful and watch your steps in your relation with your friends so you can see who deserve to have a great friend like you.
If you are looking for true love you have to be sure that your lover know the meaning of true love and it is a one soul divided into 2 bodies.
Finally you can test them by ask them for some help in any thing hard for silly people to do and check who will give you a real support and who will run away. then you can judge them.
All my best wishes for you baby.
2006-08-18 07:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is a strange predicament. I surely hope that you don't just make friends with everyone you meet. Choose the right people. Find out what they think about you, by creating various scenarios. Make sure that they understand the REAL YOU. And then you'll know if they are your real friends or just fakers.
Good luck.
2006-08-18 07:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i think maybe somebody would like you for who you are if they aren't afraid to comment on your not perfect sides (nobody's perfect.). second, i would say the internet isn't a good place to look for a guy who loves you from the inside. one would have to get to know you and spend time with you. don't be afraid to receive complements on your looks though, even a guy who loves you from the inside should think you are beautiful from the outside too. and don't expect even a good guy to just ignore your looks. you cant just tell if somebody likes you from the inside. go with your heart and try it out. he should be able to look you in the eyes and not always the rest of your body. i would also say that kissing somebody tells you something about them. see how and what you feel. good luck.
2006-08-19 02:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by wad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay attention to the way they act around you. Are they looking out for your best interests? Do they enjoy simply being around you and talking with you? Those are indicators that they want to know you the person, not just the body. May God bless you and grant you discernment in your choice of friends and relationships. http://www.christiananswers.net has some articles on this topic, I suggest reading them to gain insight into your problem.
2006-08-18 07:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by STEPHEN J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into a relationship with someone you like, and then surprisse them one day by meeting them without dressing to your fullest. Pull your hair back in a ponytail instead of combing it. Put on sweats. Don't bother to put on any make-up. Then see if he likes you that way. If he does then you have found someone who likes you for you, and not because you're a model. If he doesn't he's not who you're looking for.
2006-08-18 07:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by purple_jj6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're no beautiful than the average "beautiful" woman and just because something's beautiful to one person doesn't mean it's beautiful to the next. Your friends are probably your friends because they like your personality or whatever, not your looks.
2006-08-18 07:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by dreamee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋