Is being gay a choice or not?

Question

I know this set of twin males, both are gay, I have always thought being gay was a choice. Now I question the fact, any idea?

Answer 1

No, its not by choice. Did you choose to be straight ? I'm sure u didn't, it all comes natural

Answer 2

It's never been a choice to be gay...the only choices in the past have been to hide it, deny it, live a lie, or admit it and be a freak/outcast. My hope is that both these twins have a better go of it than I did!

Answer 3

I am with you. I also too used to think that being gay was choice but im starting to think twice about it. I mean...was i really born this way....but then again I have had an attraction to guys for a very brief time and then once i CHOSE to be with a girl i felt like i really belonged and this was me! Been a lesbian ever since because i felt comfortable and more attracted to women. It felt right. i really dont know if its a choice or a gene.

Answer 4

Do a google search for the kinsey reports.

Being gay is how you are born. You can live in denial - but you'll be miserable. Many people who say it is a choice might be those that have some bisexual tendencies. You are born straight, bi or gay. Some people born bi are usually are only slightly attracted to the same sex, or are more attacted to the same sex. But people born gay are not sexually attracted at all to the opposite sex.

Answer 5

Being gay is not a choice but whether how you face it is the choice. Do you be open and free or in denial all your life.

Answer 6

its not a choice its called human nature.Just like some people like vanilla and some people like choclate are some people like both choclate in vanilla, so all this is is human nature the way things appear, but for a fact you where not born gay, its just something the way human nature works made you attracted to men instead of wemen, but its not a choice

Answer 7

Every form of scientific research indicates that homosexuality is inborn, whether for genetic or chemo-genetic reasons. Homosexuality is sexual attraction to the same sex to the exclusion of the opposite sex.

Homosexuality is as natural as any other form of sexuality. The traditional natural law argument maintained that homosexuality did not exist in nature, and therefore was unnatural and chosen by individuals. Now we know that to be totally false. Decades long in-depth studies have revealed that in fact homosexuality exists in all of the hundreds of species studied; furthermore, among those with pair bonding, homosexual pair bonds occur to the exclusion of any heterosexual mating. The seminal study in this field is by Dr. Bruce Bagemihl and is titled "Biological Exuberance" it is published by St. Martin's Press and may be available to purchase online used.

Of course there are other equally ridiculous anti-gay arguments:

The argument that it is communicable -- one of the traditional anti-gay arguments -- is demonstrably false. People may deal with their sexuality later in life, but sexual attraction to same sex members combined with a total lack of sexual attraction to opposite sexed members cannot be spread from one person to the other.

Traditionally (pre 1970s) psychology treated homosexuality as a pathology (disease) and attempted, though admittedly without success, to "cure" it -- that changed in the 1970s, partially as a result of political action, but mostly as a result of a series of studies that convinced most psychologists that homosexuality was, whatever else it might be, neither a disease nor curable. Hundreds of peer reviewed studies since then have supported the progressive conclusion of the 1970's psychologists and psychiatrists.

Today we have a movement that claims it can cure homosexuality. Some of what it uses is pop psychology, most of what it uses is religious. The reality is, now being established by study after study, despite bitter opposition from the practicioners to any studies being performed; that it doesn't, and in fact can't change anyone at all.

That is not to say that a gay person can't pretend to be straight. Can't marry a woman, presuming that we are talking about a male (which will ill serve the woman, because real attraction will never be there) and can't father children. The whole process of living a secret life of one night stands and hidden trysts while pretending to be straight is the very closet from which gay people are escaping. It doesn't change what you are -- only lets the bigots feel more comfortable that you are "like everyone else," at the cost of your self-worth, dignity, and character -- and most of your female partner's dignity as well. To be in the closet is not to be straight, it is to be unhappy, perhaps even more unhappy than being celibate. It is also not to say that a gay person can't decide to live without sex, anyone can do that. A gay person however is a gay person; and cannot be anything else, not because of pathology, which has been rejected now for over 40 years by the doctors that study homosexuality, but because it is what is natural to him or her.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
Schenectady, NY
http://www.rebuff.org

Answer 8

I believe Jesus Christ lived in the flesh. Say this to all.

It is a choice to be gay. Yet there are many reasons a person may make this choice. So many people believe they are born gay, and many people do believe that it is a choice. Yes I want to explain some reasons it happens and some reasons that it does not happen as well.

I will first say, you are not gay if you think a person of the same gender is attractive, or if that person makes you feel butterflies sometimes. It is an attraction, and a strong attraction. Yet if a person continues to allow the attraction to continue they will find themselves thinking in was of homosexuality often. Then it could happen that a person may make a choice to do homosexuality. Once a person does homosexuality it does not mean they are a homosexual, it only means they have done the act of homosexuality and they could then choose to accept to continue or try and get help to change this way they have chosen.

When this involves young children, it is often kept quiet. Many children can not tell their parents. Many children do not know that there is help for them else where, other than their parents. This help could come from a counselor in school, or it could come from the best help of all. They could ask Jesus Christ to help them change.

All a child need do is ask for help in Jesus Christ name, they would not have to even know Him, because Jesus Christ knows that child. Yes, Jesus Christ knows every child.
As for any adult, the same goes for them as well. Anyone who asks in the name of Jesus Christ will be helped, anyone.

Yet many children are not aware how to ask, so if you know a child that is thinking of acting out homosexuality, or you know a child who has and does not feel it is the best choice, but can not find a way to stop. You could tell them, " Hey, I do not know much about God Almighty, but I heard if we ask in the name of Jesus Christ to help all concerned, He will help anyone." " It may seem odd for me to say this, but lets try it"
Then watch what happens. When a child learns to ask for help in Jesus Christ name, and does not even know Him, and it seems to help in matters concerned, maybe they will start to ask him for help in other concerns as well. School issues, family issues all sorts of issues in fact.

The fact is it may seem sometimes the help is not coming fast enough, but not all things should be changed as fast as someone else thinks it should. There is a lot involved in peoples lives for all sorts of problems, but it will change. It only takes ONE TIME, thats right, ask once and the ball starts rolling. Change will happen for the good of God Almighty, and that is for the good of all concerned.

Check out my website bellow for other reasons it can happen to a child.

Answer 9

It's is a choice. No one is born gay, I don't care what all you wierdos think. It's a way for homos to justify their sin. God wouldn't say to put them all to death and then have people born that way. It's as much of a choice as what your going to wear each day. It's not natural to be attracted to the opposite sex. God put man on this earth to be fruitful and to multiply and gays can't do that. If it was normal, there wouldn't be so much fight about it. You don't see people fighting over whether or not a man and woman can get married or have kids, or get insurance or anything else you people fight for. You all are sick, twisted individuals.

Answer 10

Will you turn gay ? If the answer is No, then you think it's a choice ?

Answer 11

I have been a gay for 8 years and now for 15 a fanatic straight. Yes, definitely IT IS A CHOICE