Hi to eveyone ,How would you react when you have a fight with your husband and he says all those things which hurt you real bad,when you care for him,cook and take care of him .
He does not bother how much ever good things i do for him,he says so what if you cook and take care of me but still you are dumb coz sometimes i dont act like dumb but you know somewhere we dont understand some things,so i just expect that he should tell me ,he will just laugh and say you are so dumb.
I just want he should tell me what he wants,he does not even like when i change the tv channel and put on some thing which i like.
Now i have stopped watching my tv programmes.He feels that i keep on interfering.I do not interfere infact i ask him everything,Sometimes i cry so much i dont understand what shud i do,it just hurts.When we had a fight then i came to know what he really thinks about me and that really hurts.What should i do i dont understand?
2006-08-18 07:24:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband wouldn't dare say something mean to me. He values his life too much.
2006-08-18 07:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be in a relationship with somebody who, not only fails to appreciate the things you do for them, but actively undermines your confidence and self esteem. You are being controlled and manipulated by this guy and in my opinion you should get out of the relationship. Please try to realise that what this guy is doing is wrong and that you are worth more than this. Don't wake up in five years time in the same bad relationship and wish you'd left years ago. Ask a friend or family member who you trust to help you do this, and don't go back to him and his bullying ways.
2006-08-18 07:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by bertha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that its right or wrong, but people say things when they ar arguing that they dont mean. When they say those things they are doing it to hurt your feelings that why they call it fighting. What you need to say is, " I try to have respect for you to not call you dumb even though you really are" let him know how childish he is by calling you names and that it bothers you and if it still persist leave for a couple days stay in a hotel and let him think about what he is doing wrong. If you allow it he will do it
2006-08-18 07:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by Robyn D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's particularly stupid. in case you 2 had the abilities to talk good, you'll not be in this mess. You adult men have tried and it truly is only not operating. it truly is not as user-friendly as you telling him the way you experience. you may want to tell him and he might want to stroll away or ignore you or a slew of different issues. he's already left you and positioned you able the position you should confirm out what he needs and how you'll remedy issues. in case you're saying the incorrect element, he might want to go away you for solid or carry it against you. There are too many disadvantages sharing your thoughts with someone who would not understand you sufficient to stay with you and artwork it out. you're sparkling interior the actual undeniable reality that your communication needs help. If he received't flow, then you ought to flow on my own. it truly is going to fairly help you sparkling your concepts and style issues out for you. a minimum of one in each and every of you'd be on the right song.
2016-11-05 02:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two need time apart so he can learn to appreciate what he has in you.
Alot of men take that for granted and need a sharp boot in the *** to learn a little respect and what marriage is all about...working together.
Don't lose yourself...once you do it's much harder to find yourself again. And you are close to it....
Tell him to leave or you leave if only for a week.
2006-08-18 07:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation some years back. We are no longer together because of his abusive behavior. If this man is set in his ways then you need to think about moving on and leaving him behind.
2006-08-18 07:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what you are going through. my ex fiance was like that with me. i would do everything for him to take care of him and even go out of my way for him and he never appreciated it at all, no thank yous or good job, it hurt my feelings so badly. when we went anywhere he would always treat me like i was stupid, and i'm not at all stupid i'm actually quite intelligent. anytime i did say something a little bit out there or wrong he would point it out at the time and later on. we would fight all the time and everytime he would say something so hurtful, calling me names, telling me i was to fat for him and should be lucky i got such a catch. stupid things just to get at me and never not even once did i ever call him a name or call him out on something because i knew how bad it hurt. eventually it got worse and one day he hit me and grabbed my neck and left bruises. thats when i started my plan to leave him. a few months before i left i started talking back to him and calling him out on everything, embarrassed the crap out of him everytime. i ever corrected his grammer or when he misused a word i corrected him. when we got in a arguement i started calling him names and told him that he was never going to find a girl as good as me, and he knew it. when he had to go out of town for work one weekend i got all my friends together and we had a packing party and i got the heck out of there. i found a place with my bf and now i found a really great guy who i am now married to and have never been happier. you should leave him or at least talk to him and tell him how you feel before it gets worse. there are lots of marriage conselors out there that can help. good luck and i hope everything works out. if you ever need to have a packing party to get out let me know and i will be your body gaurd and back talker to you husband. trust me i'll put him in his place.
2006-08-18 07:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by ~Saratini~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your smothering him. And, your life sucks.
Start exercising & wear skimpy outfits. Make him see you for the vivacious woman that you are.
When he begins to come to you...start getting him to share the load around the house...and of course, fulfill his fantasies.
2006-08-18 07:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"When we had a fight then i came to know what he really thinks about me"
So, what do you do now?
Sometimes we have to make a decision WITHOUT enough information to make a decision, don't we?
2006-08-18 07:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider the source and know that his mother raised a jackass.
2006-08-18 07:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋