Ladies who have been divorced only?

Question

Now that your divorced do you want to meet a man to marry again and if so what will your standards be this time in picking out a mate.

Answer 1

This time around I am taking dating slow. I'm not rushing into sex b/c it clouds emotions and decisions. He will have goals, ambitions and actively working toward them. He will have the same moral, spiritual and family values. Also believe in and practice open communication. There are some other must haves, but I think you get the jist of it. Best wishes!

Answer 2

I'd been married twice before, and I'm getting married again next month; I don't really perceive my past marriages as "failures" - at the times they happened, it seemed to have been the best course of action. As one matures, one does learn more about themselves, whether or not one had been married or not; now that I'm in my 30s, my requirements for a mate are certainly different than they were when I was in my 20s. Financial stability and a successful career, as well as emotional maturity, are more important than ever. But it doesn't have to do with the past marriages per se - simply with the changing priorities.

Answer 3

I am divorced and now engaged. This time around I'm with a man I respect and that I find extremely attractive. He also has a good job and an excellent work ethic. And the most important thing....common sense! Those are all the qualities that my ex was lacking.

Answer 4

I am divorced and now engaged. I have found someone that has everything my ex lacks: common sense, respect for self and others, financial stability, excellent wok ethic, great self esteem/worth, a great sense of humor, grown up (not a child), knows how to be serious when he needs to be, doesn't get angry over anything (especially small things) and just lets things roll off his back, doesn't believe in lying, cheating, or abusing, is a great father to his 3 teen girls (has a few things to tweak when it comes to being a father to them, but his ex and I are working with him on that), we have pretty much everything in common (what we don't have in common compliments each other and gives us more to talk about), talks with me--not at me, etc. We are true soul mates and soooooooooooo in love! He shows me and tells me every single day how much he loves me, no matter how busy he is with work and his daughters.

Answer 5

Been divorced twice. Probably won't ever make that trip again. I'm currently in a relationship (1 year), and we've discussed the fact that I do not see myself getting married again. He didn't run away, so I guess that's good. (I'm 32 and he's 38, never been married).

Answer 6

I would look for signs of selfishness. If found, I would stop the relationship.
I would wait until marriage before giving myself (that would prove that he loves me and is not addicted to certain behaviors).
Other standards would include, but not be limited to:
* Must have accepted and have a personal relationship with Jesus
* joy of sharing one another's company
* similar likes and dislikes
* allow time spent away from one another for sharing with friends and other family members (such as children, siblings, parents).
* good health
* stability
* good job, been there a while, good benefits, excellent pay
* established savings
* good credit
* not currently paying child support
* preferably no children (may consider an older man with grown children -- I wouldn't make them call me mom; that would be weird).
* his parents are not strange and if they are, we don't have to spend a lot of time around them.

Answer 7

It depends on the situation. I was divorced and was not looking for a new husband. I was out trying to enjoy my freedom. BAM out of the blue Mr. Right came in a swooped me off my feet.

If it were to ever happen again, not that I think it will. I think I would stay single and just date.

Answer 8

Been divorced twice now. I very seriously doubt I will remarry until my kids are grown. Its just too hard on the kids when relationships come to an end.

Answer 9

I've been living with a guy for 2 years now, and we aren't in any hurry to get married again. (We're both divorced)

Answer 10

well in my situation marriage is out the question now. I was being pshyically abused. But any new potential mate will have to be thoroughly screen a few things that are important to me are how many kids you have, how many baby mothers you have, his history of violence, how many times you have been to jail and for what... and the list goes on.