Hello to everyone I have been taking everyones answer into consideration to my decisions,I make I finally found out where my husband is staying I don't believe it is anyone he is banging,he hid from me like he was hiding something but he did not want me to come to where he is at because of the type of people he is around. So I made him tell me if he wanted a divorce or not the person he was standing in front of us who he stays with,she is Gay no doubt. He still acted as he did not want to say,she said you have to tell her something. So he said yes,but I will be by the house to see kids later he came by,but to late kids were already sleep so he left. But for some reason he is going to call me before he gets home, to tell me he is almost home he just wanted to call and say goodnight and what am I doing? I said I am about to watch this new movie I rented and going to bed.He says don't watch it until I come over to see the kids tomorrow we can watch it together after what he said.
2006-08-18 06:43:27 · 9 answers · asked by crystallynbell82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, if you believe this, then I have some ocean front property in Arizona that I'l like to sell you. He's lying....big time and now that whatever it was that he was doing has come to an end, it's time for him to work himself back into your good graces. So far, it seems like it's working. You're talking to him, accepting him and actually believe his story. You are smarter than this. You, of all people know him better than we do, so it should be clearer for you to see. Nobody hides from their spouse unless they have something to hide honey....think about it.
2006-08-18 06:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We men have an awesome ability to ignore our problems, short coming and ultimatley our selves. When we think our woman is at home fumigating over some issues that really need to be worked out, we just avoid the fight and the drama all together nothing gets solved but we just don't like the confrontation.
Women aren't geard that way for the most part. So if you kind find a way to be gentle, calm nice relaxed and easy him into the conversation. No angry eye's or waving fingers or disapproving tone of voice. Alot of times We feel like we can't say what we feel due to how you'll react and we keep it in.
It may sound wierd but it's so true. So when he comes thru watch the movie maybe cuddle up a bit and talk to him and fight like hell not to get angry and be soft and sweet no matter how made you are. He wont trust it at firts but treat him like you would a 6 year old that is a lil scared to tell you something and before you know it he will open up. But if you trick him and get angry once he's opened up he may never do it again.
2006-08-18 07:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a very dysfunctional way to deal with relationship problems. He *may* be confused, yes; it's a difficult thing to end a marriage. But unless the problems are addressed in a constructive manner, they are bound to persist. Leaving and coming around only once in a while to watch a movie and have sex is NOT constructive. Marriage counseling might help - but it can get expensive, and it takes a lot of committment. Try to shepherd him into the constructive mode of resolving the problems; ask a trusted friend for input; this kind of situation cannot last forever - he can't continue to avoid dealing with issues by staying away.
2006-08-18 07:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit having him play with your feelings. You are letting him have this hold on you and it's NOT good for you or your children.
MOVE ON....you cannot let your kids grow up with watching him leave you all the time. They are gonna grow up learning to resent you, because they will feel it is your fault that he keeps leaving!
Don't let him come back, FILE for divorce and then let him have his visitation when the court tells him he can.
You are being used and you are also at risk of getting HIV because you have no idea what he is doing and with whom.
Smartin up. Hard but true.
2006-08-18 07:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be careful you need to think of you kids and see the hurt he is doing to them telling them he is come to see them but he waits till they are in bed asleep think of the kid first
2006-08-18 07:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no person can use your weaknesses against you. yet yeah... it relies upon on what you're hiding and why, and what the outcomes are. i do no longer choose to undertaking myself onto you. We may be speaking approximately completely rather some issues.
2016-09-29 10:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by wardwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He not sure what he wants. Be careful
2006-08-18 06:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on.
2006-08-18 06:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him go.he's not right one for you
2006-08-18 06:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋