I am 18, work at a law office, in college, and should graduate with two balchoers when i am 22. However, I go to a community college right now in my hometown, i am want to move out of my house due to major family issues. However, my parents do not believe i can do it, nor do they support me. They tell me that i am not going to be able to make it. I want to move in with a roommate, but they want me to move in by myself (which will cost me $400.00 extra each month, so i will fail and have to come back) What do I do?? Why don't they support me? Why does it seem like everything i do is wrong, even my education? Is it just me?
2006-08-18 06:38:12 · 10 answers · asked by popoamanda06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would like to thank everyone for the help. For some of the questions you all have asked, here are some more of the details. I plan on getting two Bachelors in Criminal Justice and Business Administration. Also I already have a potential roommate. My approximate cost for rent and utilities is $250.00, which by the way is a good deal. Also by living on my own I will be able to get finical aid in paying for college, so I can fulfill my dreams. I believe that I have a plan that is well thought out. So therefore, I do not understand why my parents are not supporting me.
P.S. I apologize to mollyneville. I am sorry my spelling was not what you expected. I am having a terrible day, which includes many people making my life more difficult than it should be. So next time you are having a bad day, I hope people do not criticize you for the minor details.
2006-08-18 07:08:38 · update #1
Prove them wrong and that will shut them up... i been on my own for 7 yrs. W/ a child!
2006-08-18 06:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved out when I was 17 for school. I even moved 2 hours away to the college of my choice. While my mom "supported" my decision, I was never financially supported. Now I'm 23, have a house, a family of my own, a degree, and I'm working on grad school. If you work at it, things will happen, but you have to take a chance. If you choose a roommate, choose very carefully. Roommates can ruin things very quickly if you choose the wrong one. You seem to have good judgement, just make sure you have a plan B if something doesn't work out.
If your family has problems, they probably want you to stick around because you're the one rock in your family. If you move out and become successful, it would remind them of the opportunities that they've squandered in their lives. It sounds horrible but alot of parents do it unknowingly.
It doesn't matter what your parents think, the important thing is that you believe you can do it. Non-believers can be a HUGE motivator. You can prove them wrong; just take that step.
2006-08-18 14:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you have a major family issue that is a good reason to move out.
I think you should find a roommate, for safety reasons as well as financial ones. Is there anyone at your college or at work who needs a roommate? Maybe you could just rent a room in a friend's house.
By the way, if you want to be successful and well educated, you need to learn to spell. You misspelled bachelor's (maybe you just were being informal because it's on the Internet, which is fine)
2006-08-18 13:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parent's just don't want to see their kids move out. And then there are some parent's that just aren't supportive.
My parents felt I should not go to college, I did, they have never liked anything I did or do. Don't worry about them.
You seem like you have a plan, are you working FT. Can you really afford to move out? It always cost more then it looks like it will.
LIve your life, I joined the military to get away. Then I had the GI bill. It might be an option you have not considered.
Good luck...btw Bachelors is the proper spelling.
2006-08-18 13:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by starting over 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nah they are parents. You are 18 and should do what you feel is right. But remember, the last thing you want to hear from them is "I told you so" I would really think about a decision like that. No one really knows what it take to live now a days until they actually do it, and it is hard. You would have to work full time just to keep up with the minor bills, utilities, insurance etc.
2006-08-18 13:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by metalicgirl69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are being the same way! I'm 20 and they are like that! They always tell me that I can't make it on my own if I leave and if I fall flat broke then I can't come back home and all this crap. I don't know what to do.. I suggest you move out and prove them wrong. That's what I'm gonna do!
Good luck!
2006-08-18 13:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18. If they aren't paying your bills, do whatever you want, but think it through before you move out. They may be so angry they won't let you back in if you couldn't handle it on your own.
I left at 17 & never looked back. They probably put you down 'cause they don't want to let their little girl go.
2006-08-18 13:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, bro. it aint only you...it's everyone...they need someone to push around...but your 18 if you think you can do it...do it..your old enough to take care of yea self..aren't yea lolz...prove them wrong...and if you want break connection with them...
2006-08-18 13:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Envi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it to prove them that you can actulaly do it.
2006-08-18 13:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by sellatieeat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
2006-08-18 13:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋