Years???, how many???.
2006-08-18 06:32:28 · 14 answers · asked by inlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I waited 6 months for the first husband, and it was a terrible decision. I am on year 6 of a committed relationship and marriage may be in my future someday, but I am in no hurry. Due to unusual circumstances, my children are better off if I do not marry at this time, and my kids come first.
First, make sure you are compatible, want the same things, and are good friends. "lovey dovey" feelings do go away in time so there better be more to the relationship when that happens! If you are a hard worker, make sure he is too. If you are a slacker, be well matched. If one is a worker ant and the other is a lazy grasshopper, you are doomed! Be aware that you don't marry for Love. Love does not declare a destiny that you cannot deny!! Marry because you fit well together in personalities and goals, you can trust each other (AND HAVE PROVEN THAT MORE THAN ONCE TO EACH OTHER) and are in love. Love is secondary to compatibility and trust!!
2006-08-18 06:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by starshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my husband for a year when we got married, but that's not usually advisable. It all depends on the maturity level and how well you know each other. Some people aren't ready to be married regardless of how long they have dated someone. They don't have the maturity for a serious relationship. Some people know what they want and know exactly how to handle it. It all depends on the two people that are involved. You can't put a timeline on something that there are so little facts to. Sorry.
2006-08-18 13:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by gupidcap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there is no specific time period in which you should marry. For some, it is a matter of months or years. However, prior to getting hitched, there are some questions you two should ask yourselves and eachother. Why are you getting married? Are you really ready for the responsibilities and changes that comes along with marriage? Is there any unfinished business that needs to be resolved? Are you both financially secure? Marriage is like a long serious date. It is something that should be taken seriously...best of luck...
2006-08-18 14:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by La Nubian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different answers to that for different situations. You will never REALLY know someone for a very, very long time. But, if you are both ready to make a lifelong commitment to each other, no matter what may come, then, that would be the time. Think of every possible situation, and whether or not you think you'd be able to continue to live with yourself and that person if that would happen.
2006-08-18 13:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no "magic" number... If both people are confident they're making the right choice, and are ready to be in a serious relationship, it can all happen very quickly. My personal feeling is that, unless both people are satisfied with the status quo, anything beoynd a couple of years is too long to wait.
2006-08-18 13:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We dated 6 months, we have been married, happily15 years, but I wouldn't recommend that. Maybe like a year or two.
2006-08-18 13:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it just depends on the people. Some people take things very slow and some fast. I would at least know someone or date someone for a year or so.
2006-08-18 13:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I dated two years before I proposed. Gave me time to see how she and I reacted to life events.
I recommend 2 years. Just my opinion.
2006-08-18 13:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Vosot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 to 5 years and then it can still end up falling apart.
2006-08-18 14:22:10 · answer #9 · answered by Madeamove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is no real time limit. I think you should get married when you think that person is marriage material..
2006-08-18 13:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by Feelsolost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋