My wife and I have been happily married for 3 and 1/2 years now, and she had always told me she was never interested in other men. But recently she admitted she has been attracted to other men after we were married. It wouldn't bother me so much, but most of the guys she was attracted to (is attracted to?) are very different to me in personality and demeanor. Should I be worried, or is this normal?
2006-08-18 06:26:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's perfectly normal. Don't you get attracted to other women too? i wouldn't worry about them being different from you. She probably just noticed it as variety. But since she is being so honest with you then I wouldn't worry about it at all. Remember she married you, and if she hasn't changed her behavior towards you then no biggy.
2006-08-18 06:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife is emotionally cheating on you. She has found a man that is first acting like a girl friend to her but your a man, you know what he is really after. Its time to put an end to it or get a divorce. You have to lay down the law and tell her she can't have her cake and eat it too. Suggest couples therapy or at least make 2 night s a week were you have plans. She can plan one night and you the other. Make your public places. Movies, walks at a local park. Dinner at crowded spots. In other words, places with a public view. If she shuns from such public places (where you may run into this other guy) then you know she is seeing him b/c she doesn't want to get caught with you. You sound like a good man that wants to provide for his wife and wants to be in a faithful marriage. if it doesn't work out and you get divorced I doubt you'll be single for long. A good man is hard to find and there are a ton of woman who would love to take your wife's place
2016-03-26 20:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. The only thing that matters is how strong your relationship is. If certain needs are not being met by you these men that she is attracted to might start filling in the gaps. Men are attracted to other women besides there wives all the time. It is no different for women. If the marriage is not strong an afffair could be in her future.
2006-08-18 06:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Esoteric 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be concerned, Honey the truth is all people are attracted to anyone who is attractive it's just that in a committed relationship or marriage we promise, vow or whatever we profess Fidelity to that person meaning we won't share our mind, body, or love with anyone other than you! So no don't be too concerned however that doesn't mean be naive. If your intuition says otherwise it's probably so!
2006-08-18 07:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be attracted to other people. And yes, sometimes it does happen that one's attracted to something their current mate does not posess. It's not something to worry about, necessarily. There's a wide gap separating a fleeting attraction to someone, and a life-long committment to your mate. The fact that she felt comfortable enough with you to admit this attraction may mean that she doesn't place much weight on it. Unless you have other reasons to doubt your wife's feelings for you, I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-08-18 06:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if YOU are not doing what it is that you are supposed to be doing in your relationship with your wife.
Are you?
I was just reading about some women who had or were thinking about cheating on their husbands. The advice given from the therapist was to bring it up to their husbands that they were finding other men attractive and that they wanted to start dating again............Their husband of course.
The point was to bring it up so that their husbands could jump on the "adding excitement to your marriage" train; before there was a real need to worry.
2006-08-18 06:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by Indypendence 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u should be concerned. I am inlove with this very amazing person he is sweet handsome and loving but im also still attracted to other men. at first i thought it was strange but being attracted to someone is different from having interest in that person. no matter how attracted i am to another man i can only imagine spending my life with my bf
2006-08-18 06:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by ice solid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Completely normal. It's not like you stop noticing other people when you get married. You married her and you got her so relax. In fact, my wife and I sometimes joke about who we think is cute or attractive. It's natural.
2006-08-18 06:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. This is normal. I'm sure that you find yourself attracted to women who are not like your wife. Don't worry about it unless you begin to see signs of foul play.
2006-08-18 06:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by Amazon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being attracted and acting on it are different things. Why she is telling you that....I don't know. Women do "look" at different guys. That's normal.
2006-08-18 06:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋