who else is doing the divorce drop off with the kids this weekend? My three kids live with me, but they have weekend visitations with their mother down in Oklahoma, I always hate these weekends (the children were finally taken away from her and I was given custody, I always worry about their welfare when they are down there) , just wondered who else was in the same boat.
2006-08-18 06:15:36 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you are the custodial parent you ALWAYS worry. You don't say how old they are. Do they know what to do in an emergency? Do they know how to keep themselves safe? Stay away from dangerous places? Not go with strangers?
If they know these things, then I would try to relax a little; tho' since they were taken from her, I know it's much easier said than done. Does she drink, do drugs, have men over, neglect them? If this is the case then I would work extra hard to have limited visits or supervised visitation.
How do you feel about calling down there & talking to them? Is that a possibility? This isn't an easy situation, and you're just gonna have to go with the flow right now......and pray.
2006-08-18 06:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not going through it, but I see it happen alot. Depending on why the kids were taken away from her, petition the court for supervised visitation. That doesn't mean you have to be around, it just means that you could have the kids go to her mother's house and she has to see them there. That way they are safe and she still gets visitation and the kids keep the relationship with mom.
Or, you could always ask the kids what they did, grill them a little without being too obvious you are wanting information. Maybe you are worrying over nothing.
Either way, I feel your pain. It's not a great situation, but it is what it is and you have to make the best of it.
2006-08-18 13:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How happy I am to hear that someone is on the same boat as me. I was married to a crazy psycho abusive husband and my kids were emotionally traumatized....the two I have with my ex are 5 and 3....he was incarcerated for about a year and in that year they didn't see him or so much as mention his name...they also grew to be better children through love and much needed care...now he is out and we recently started weekend visitations....the first time was horrible because they came back completely emotionally withdrawn....the way things are ran in my household are totally different from his...I'm stern...they can only watch G rated programs on TV...we never curse at all and we have strict rules about violence and hitting......when they are there they are subjected to drugs, violence, cursing, etc....it terrible as a parent to not be aware if your children are being cared for properly...you can however petition the courts to have social services come in as an intervention ....they will make sure the mother has clean and orderly living conditions...that they are being cared for and not abused when they are there and so on...I did now he can't see them until he gets transportation...a job...and his own place(he was living with his mom)..contact your judge and get the ball rolling
2006-08-18 13:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced a year in half!! and yah..i worry about my kids welfare when he's with them!! I know exactly how u feel..i just call often and talk to the kids..that sure helps they'd tell me if i had something to worry about,or if something was wrong.
2006-08-18 13:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by chas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I feel ya. I have my two boys with me, but next weekend is my weekend off. I used to worry because of her boyfriend. But as time has gone on, it's gotten better. I figure I have them most of the time, so my influence should rule.
2006-08-18 13:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what happen, your ex would always be your kids mother ! While you worry about your kids when they are with their mother, don't you think the mother also felt the same when you are surround by you kids? Please don't pressure the loving kids, they already the victim of your failed married ! let them enjoy their mother's love occasionally
2006-08-18 13:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by ng 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did with my ex. I have custody of our 12 yo and she our 10 yo. I am just working out the logistics of trading.
2006-08-18 13:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by swelter_skelter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the kids might need to talk to somebody and get out there feelings...divorce is tuff on kids and sometimes they hold a lot of stuff in and dont tell anybody
2006-08-18 13:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by baseballjedi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through it and it sucks, he has them every other weekend and he has terrible judgement and I worry a lot about them when they are with him. Hate it.
2006-08-18 13:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too damn many, dude.
2006-08-18 13:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋