im 17 almost 18 and my b/f and i wanna have a baby?

Question

i dream about having a baby boy everynight what does this mean ???

im still in school and yes i want a baby

im still in school and yes i want a baby

Answer 1

You are still a kid yourself. Give yourself time to enjoy being a kid and having fun without adding the HUGE responsibility of raising a child to your life right now.

We're not talking about playing with dolls. You're talking about a living baby who needs to be fed and changed around the clock and won't let you sleep. You're talking about a baby who one day will be crying from teething pain and only want you to hold and comfort him. You're talking about paying for thousands of diapers. Someone you need to be a role model to. A child who will want, need and deserve parents in a stable and committed long-term relationship. A child who will pee, poop and puke all over you. A child who will need you to provide a safe and loving home, food to eat, clothes to wear, medical care, etc.

At 17 you cannot possibly be thinking realistically if you think that you and your boyfriend are ready to set up house and have babies.

Answer 2

I am sure you are tired of hearing you're too young. Let me tell you, when I was 18 I thought I knew everything. I would suggest that you volunteer to work with kids somewhere regularly. Also, talk to other young mothers. Lastly, be sure you are in a committed relationship. An 18 yr old boy doesn't always have the capacity to stick around once there is a screaming baby in the house. The idea of having a baby is a beautiful one but the reality if you are not prepared or able to take care of the baby is a nightmare for you and the child. I would definitely suggest that you do more research, go to college and then make the decision to have a baby. Besides, by then, you will see if your boyfriend is even still around.

Answer 3

You would have probably encountered some good memories of babies during the day and thats bring it to your dream at night.

Seriously ask yourself what makes you think of having baby -- u will be the only one that know this answer ? Just because it looks cute in movies or poster or .... Did you own any pet ? Keeping a baby requires so many time and effort and $$ and love and sacrifices and ...... than having to own a pet. If you find having the slightess feeling of NO half way through the process of keeping pet, then don't think about having a baby.

You may not have come across the following questions before :

Are you ready to sleep only two hours a day and having to wake up every three hours interval to feed a baby ?
Are you ready to touch and hold shits with your bare hand when a baby **** 5 times a day ?
Are you able to sacrifice your disco and movies and yur friend's invitations and so on.... to stay at home to take care of your baby watching all your peers still enjoying life ?
Are you ready to spent almost all your time hearing what your baby got to say ?
Are you able to take your baby to the clinic what he is not feeling well --- immediately I mean ?
Are you able to withstand and continuous cry generated most of the time without knowing what it means ?
And so on.......

If you have a slightess "NOT able to" for any of the above, then you are not ready to have any baby at all. That is why it usually requires an older age adult to have baby. When much older, you are more likely to be mentally and financially prepared. Even so, some adults do face problem. Bare in mind also that if you are just having the liking for baby, then you can only "play" it for one to two yrs then it is no longer a baby anymore. Then another big headaches will come -- worst if it is a boy. And then next would be the upbringing, nurturing this kid and so on until they are independent to have their own family.

Actually having baby is not suppose to be the immediate stage of discussion. You have yet to go thru having to stay together with your b/f and getting to know more of each other. The topic of baby only phrase in after you are able to stay in good long term with him.

Answer 4

It doesn't mean anything except that you want a baby. The only thing I can say is you are still to young. I'm not saying this to be mean (I had my first child at 18 and my 2nd at 21) When you have a child this young you lose the fun of being a teen. You can't go out with your friends if you want. When you have a child it is your reponsablity not anyone elses. I see to amny young girls having babies and thinking it is okay to have their parent or other people always with their kids because they still want to be a teen and have fun. That all goes away when you have a child. You can still go out but only once in awhile. I am 26 I go out with my friends about 2 to 3 times a year. Childern a great but only if you are mentally and finacally ready.
Please think about the pro's and CON'S of having a baby at your age.

Answer 5

I have a friend that got married at 17, has 2 kids (boys) and is now 23 years old and she and her husband have seperated a long time ago, around when the second baby was born. He wanted to enjoy his life and not be tied down to a family. She would of wished that she waited to have committed at such a young age and not of had children at such a young age. She is now going to school and taking care of her 2 boys alone, and she wished her priorities were in the right order, but they aren't and now she's all on her own.
My fiance and I have been together since we were 17 and now that I'm 23, I have gone to college, bought a house, have 2 cars and I'm now ready to start having a family of our own.
I would really think about it twice before you make such a huge decision, because you and you b/f probably haven't been together for very long and you haven't been through the stresses of life. Good luck with your decision!!

Answer 6

You are being selfish and desperate. A baby will REALLY change your life forever. This is your time for your life - you need to spend time building up a good solid grounding for your babies - and you don't want to have regrets. Don't get caught up in the emotional feelings with your partner - think rationally. Do some research about young mums. And the dream you had is because it's on your mind and you don't know what to do. You can always have a baby later, but you can't have your youth back.

Answer 7

First of all, for the negative comments, be real. If she wants a baby she is going to do it regardless of what you say. A dream of having a baby can mean that you have a longing, a wanting for a baby.
Many people may judge teen moms. My mom had me when she was 16. She is the greatest mother and I wouldn't ask for another. By bringing me into this world she learned HOW to be responsible. Also, every mom makes mistakes with a child no matter how much experience. It's called life, you live and learn.
Good Luck.

Answer 8

I got pregnant when I was 16 and had her when I was 17 (one week and 2 days after my birthday) She was a blessing. I kind of wish I waited because during that time I was in the 11th grade. I graduated and everything with the help of my mother. I didn't get the help form my daughters father at all, even after he begged me to keep her and everything was going to be okay. And now that she is four I'm still not getting any help from him. I really couldn't go out to the clubs when I turned 18 and now that I'm turning 21 next month its still hard. I kind of wish I had waited till I got older. So my advice to you is to wait live your teens wait till you turn 21 and make sure you and your B/f really really really is truly ready for this child physically, mentally and financially. And as far as those dreams you are having is natural I had them cuz i went through those stages when I was younger than you ( with wanting a child) and by you thinking about it all the time and I'm quite sure that you think about it when you go to sleep.

Answer 9

Wait till ur done with school/college and both are finacially stable to afford having a baby and also to be more mature to take on the responsibility involve with having a baby. It's not all fun and games. Don't you and your boyfriend have goals in life to do more then want to have a baby already?

Answer 10

i had a baby at 18, and let me tell you that it's not what you think it will be. while all your friends are out partying, you will be home smelling like baby vomit. my son's 3 1/2 now, and looking back, i would have waited at least 5-10 more years to have a baby. you better think really hard about what you are doing and make damn sure this guy you are with will stay with you!