My best friends think Im conceited. My best girlfriend (robyn) is always telling me that her other friends dont like me cause they think Im conceited. I talk about working out alot, my personal goals and the goals I've achieved and they interpret this as being conceited..>?? I dont understand that... && My best guy friend (roy) says the same thing.... that I act like Im all that when I go out.... Well... I get out there and dance and talk to people, and Yea, I think I'm hott, but I dont go around telling people... HEY LOOK AT ME>.. IM SO HOTT!!! Thats not me... Why do they think I'm conceited??? Real answers only... PS: Im 26, no kids, I know I look good, and Ive had a great life... so why not brag a little! I think some of Robyns friends are actually a little jealous since they are all older, have kids, cant go out and have fun, and have jobs that arent going anywhere, and most of them are over weight.
2006-08-18 06:14:22 · 16 answers · asked by Angel Eve 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
PS: Yes... Ive completed more than just looking good with my life. I have a degree, a husband, and a full time job, and Im STILL going to school... So Im NOT a party bunny! I DO NOT talk about myself all the time- But when others are talking about their goals, If I just talk about mine, somehow its interrpreted as conceited. Maybe because Im truly happy with the way my life has turned out, and have never had to struggle... IDK... I just dont know what to say when people say they think Im conceited when I dont actually think I am.
2006-08-18 06:43:33 · update #1
I honestly think that you're not conceited. You should find some friends who are doing the same thing you're doing- single, no kids, has excellent paying jobs, whatever. People in general will do whatever they can to bring you down just because they're unhappy with their lives. If there's unhappiness, change it- don't complain about it. You have very high self-esteem about yourself and the last thing that you want right now is to have negative people in your life. Sit down with your girlfriends and tell them openly and honestly how you really feel. If they're your real friends, they'll stop. If not, find new friends. I hope my advice helps. Good luck.
2006-08-18 06:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lady S 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It all boils down to what have you actually accomplished in your life for yourself, others, and your community. If you have actually achieved something with your life, then I agree with you...you do have a right to brag a little. Of course, the key phrase is "a little." Nothing spoils victory so much as someone who chews all the flavor out of it.
Given that you the only accomplishment you mentioned was "looking good," the chances are likely that you have not even begun to fulfill your potential, much less earned the right to think so highly of yourself. Actions speak louder than words. Do something important with your life while you can. We each get one life only and that is it. You are capable of achieving so much more than just being a disco bunny.
2006-08-18 06:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny because as soon as I saw your picture, I knew you were and I didn't even know you asked this question. I bet your husband is as conceited as you and loves that you two can be conceited together.
Sounds like you like talking about yourself a lot. (Conceited)
You don't say "look at me, I'm so hot" and yet that is exactly what you are saying with the picture you chose.
I can tell you think that you are better than people who are:
1) locked down with a family
2) older than you
3) heavier than you
I've only read your bio and this question and I am convinced you are. I'm sure it would only take a few minutes for anyone to figure this out in a conversation with you. My advice, go see a therapist. They will be better at point out the signs of conceitedness.
2006-08-18 06:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
It is really great that things are going so well for you and that you take care of yourself. However, people can and will perceive you as being self absorbed when you are constantly talking about yourself. Have you taken an interest in your friends lives? Their goals, their problems, dreams, hurts, pains? Why is it that this is the crowd that you hang out with? A little sensitivity goes a long way.
2006-08-18 06:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by Annie R 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Okay maybe your not conceited but, you like to have the attention from other people but thats not bad, because if your still young and beautiful you have the right to have fun. Maybe its not because you act all that, maybe cause you are and your friends are just jealous of you.
Maybe you should talk to your friends and explain to them that your not conceited,
2006-08-18 06:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by SMILEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with blowing your own trumpet (as they say) no one is going to do it for you, You sound proud of yourself and what you have achieved and there is nothing wrong with that. The only thing i would find annoying is if someone talked about themself all the time b/c no one wants to keep company with someone like that but you say you don't so good for you! Who cares if they think your concieted if you who your not then thats all that matters!
2006-08-18 09:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just the way you come across ..You may not think it but it could be ......also statements like ...I know I look good !! Thats conceit..Yeah you may look good but telling others thats a no no..Bragging isn't good yes you may be hot and had a good life but why brag about it..Others who havent had it so easy take that as conceit
2006-08-18 06:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have been called conceited and arrogant. My response is it would be pointless to be one without being the other.
All I can say is, be yourself. It is hard enough to live up to your own expectations of who you want to be. Don't even think about the expectations of others.
2006-08-18 06:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Paul K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends are saying you're conceited, and you've heard it over and over again, then you'd betta check yourself. Obviously, you are doing something wrong. Go to one of these friends...one you trust and ask for specifics. Take a good look at yourself and don't be defensive. Sounds like its time for a personel inventory and a BIG change in behavior.
2006-08-18 06:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by P. C 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
who cares what other people think about you? you are an eyeful, very good looking - people are going to think things about you even before you open your mouth - there are girls who looked at your avatar right now and started hating! Confidence is a very sexy quality in a woman and it's not hard to see that you got it going on - be yourself - some will like it and some will not - stay true to who you are and don't compromise
2006-08-18 06:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Big Buddy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋