2006-08-18 06:11:39 · 43 answers · asked by Pooh Bear 2 in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
You may get married now but wait until you both have a master's degree and a good job to have children. After some time and some struggles you both will adjust to your life routine and to each other. Having children before this time is stressful and not a good environment for the children.
2006-08-18 07:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT FOR SURE
1. You think you have seen and done all you need to do but you haven't.
2. As the person said before you will do a lot of changing in your 20s. Wait till you are 21 and can go to bars!
3. Why rush it. If the other person loves you he'll be there to marry you later on.
4. What about college. If you are going to college that is away from your significant other you can basically forget about your relationship. There are tons and tons of amazing people you will meet during college (If you are planning on going).
5. What does being married at 18 do for you? Answer=NOTHING. In fact your even better off filing taxes separate usually.
6. Do you have a job? Do you know where your job might take you? or where your significant others job might take them?
7. And finally the best answer. The number one reason for divorce is disagreement over money. I doubt either of you are making your full potential wages and that you have even considered how you will deal with your finances.
Do a lot of thinking here. You have your whole life ahead of you. You have so much time to experience other places, people, activities etc. Besides at 17 you probably still fight over nothing. Wait till you both have simmered down and the hormones have slowed up.
Just my opinion here.
2006-08-18 06:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by rweasel6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely, positively you should wait. 1st thing is, because marriage is a LIFETIME commitment, you have plenty of time to get married. why don't you go to college, travel, or do a little soul searching first? if after all that is said and done, and you still want to get married then do it. also keep in mind, most of us grow up and look back and realize that we were different people than we were at 17 or 18. what we may have wanted and liked at that age may not be what we want as full grown adults. bottom line,go out and experience the world, and most importantly, get an education, then make you decision about getting married. if you're that serious about each other, you can wait.
2006-08-18 06:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by Peanuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age it's extremely hard to tell that you really should go for it. In marriage there are many things that you may not understand (i am not calling you stupid) but i am call you young. But it will take only few more years (of experience) to understand. Before you do it though you should consider many things, here are some: what kind of future did you assure yourself? do you have any degree or a job that can support your future with you spouse? did you talk about kids, how many you will have (or not have)? did you talk about religion? do you trust him in everything?
The reason you should reason all this before hand is because at your age a lot of factors are involved that you aren't aware of, such as hormones. Also, a lot of people at that age "think" they're in love, but in reality it's just a physical infatuation. The real love will appear when real problems arise, and especially financial.
You seem like a mature person though so if you do decide to go for it i wish you the best in your conjugal life :)
Good luck.
2006-08-18 06:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by American Wildcat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait. I couldn't imagine still being with the person I was with when I was 17/18 .... You will change so much in the next 5-6 years... i would wait ...
But then I am not you. I hope you make the right choice for you :-)
2006-08-18 06:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by Jellybones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd reccommend waiting at least a few more years. I'm 23 and got married last year -- many say I'm too young. Make sure you feel absolutely ready -- my husband and I have been together 9 years, living together for 3. I highly reccommend trying to live together before you tie the knot, you might find you two just can't stand to be together 24/7. There shouldn't be any rush anyway :o)
2006-08-18 06:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by thatgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes wait to be married after 18.
2006-08-18 06:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by John Luke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes. Although a little different, I had a child at 17 and it really puts limits on you. You should get out and be..you. You have to learn about yourself before you can become a "we". Besides if he really loves you he won't mind waiting--makes for a better life together. One that can w/ stand any battle that may come. Good luck
2006-08-18 06:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by ms.chvus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that its great that you are engaged-CONGRATS! But its also OK to hold off on the wedding. Stayed engaged for a while and see what happens. There is a lot of world out there after high school. Take your time!!!!
2006-08-18 06:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you want with your life and if that person is okay with you having those hopes. It also depends on the reasons why you are getting married (religious purposes, pregnant, etc).
All in all, don't get marry someone because they asked you, your friends are getting married, or you feel it's the 'right age' (there is no 'right age'.) Marry because you love the person and can imagine spending 80+ years with that person.
If you have doubts, you should wait.
Good luck!
2006-08-18 06:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by DClegalaide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋