Ok im 13 and i feel like my parents dont love me, there always to busy to look at me, when there home im like there slave, and they pretty much ignore me. My brother just left for collage, i feel like i could run away and never turn back, im all broken up inside,i ve tried talking to my parents and it doesnt work, i have a mentor to talk to , what should i do i have people who would take me in if i came to them, i just wanna get out of this house, what should i do, i really need help.
2006-08-18 05:56:16 · 17 answers · asked by Me 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Your parents love you! Tell them you feel ignored, and you would like them to spend more time with oyu.
Everything will be okay sweetie, I promise!
2006-08-18 06:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, your at a tender age when everything in your life is magnified 10x. I realize that you said you have tried to talk to your parents and it didn't work, but that's not an excuse to stop trying.
Whether you need to jump on the couch and scream, "I need help!" or schedule an appointment with them a few days in advance so they are fully aware that there is an issue that needs to be dealt with, you have a better chance of being heard if you talk calmly and patiently when you do meet with them.
I understand that so so soooooo many parents and families are busier today, and it's my personal opinion that technology does not bring families together, but build walls of miscommunication instead.
Even though you have places you can move to, I really wouldn't leave the house, because it doesn't help your situation at all. "Running Away" would only expand the gap that's forming between you and your parents, which is really crappy and you should be more focused on closing the gap and expressing in a positive way how you and your parents can make efforts in managing their home time better.
The lack of communication in your family is not your fault, I think your parents are kinda not doing their job, but don't know it.
Most parents think as long as they are providing food, shelter, clothes blah blah blah they are doing their job and forget about the bonding process that really needs to take shape, especially at the age you are now when a fork in the road pops up to you.
Remember parents don't have all the answers but really do try to do their best. It's weird because when your young you can't see the whole picture just a small panel of what the photo of your life is heading. it's kinda like each birthday we get another panel and grow with each life experience. it's really awesome and I'm loving it.
good luck with your parents and be persistant in trying to talk to them. If it starts to sound like a broken record talk to a teacher at school and just tell them that you need his/her help in getting your parents attention. Nothing will grab a parents attention then a personal call from school.
2006-08-18 13:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will not like the anwsers you get bc they are probley true...
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stop tryen to grow up so fast, you will look back at this and lauph or look at differently, i am sorry they dont treat you the way you want to be treated. maybe they are tired from work, maybe they are haven problem with there bills, they should not take it out on you, but maybe they are stressed.... and they can not help it. clean the kitchen for them and cook something nice for them have a family dinner. maybe thats all they need is some help with things so they can have some breath slow down time with you.
good luck, and dont run away, all that will do is make things worse, and stress them out more. just pray and give it some time.
good luck
2006-08-18 13:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by april 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go 2 those people who would take u in, hun! if u tried 2 talk 2 ur parents, and they didnt listen then i would just go 2 the people who would take u in, but make sure ur parents know ur safe! im soo sorry, hun. i hope ur parents notice how much they love u. maybe u moving out is what they need 2 notice how much they really love u. again, im very sorry for u! if u go 2 church, maybe u could talk 2 ur pastor. he/she might be able 2 help ur family.
good luck!!!!!! and God bless u~
and try talking 2 ur parents one last time before u do this. they do love u, and maybe they dont realize EXACTLY how u feel. tell them what u have told "us." they'll listen.
2006-08-18 13:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by clueless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone you trust to talk to, there are alot of bad people on the net that may not have your best interest at heart i have been where your at i left home at 14 it was the worst mistake i ever made, hang in there your parents may come around and if they don't, its better to have parents that take care of you than people you think are your friends who will use and abuse you.
2006-08-18 13:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by Cassandra S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should run away. You should stick it out for the mean time and see whats new. Did they ever show your brother any attention? If so then we have a serious problem. If that's the case do something dramatic they will notice then
2006-08-18 13:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...i dont know the whole situation so i cant comment or advise you fully
Give you parents a chance..maybe the reason that they're busy is because they want to prepare for your future...and of course, they're going to be tired after coming home from work...Just bare with it...there are a lot of things (things you can gain to mature) you might miss if you're just going to run away from the problem..
I'm saying these because I had the same problem....My parents used to just go to work ....work, work and work...They never had time for us (I have 3 brothers) that's why we grew under the care of our nannies...at some point, i loved my nanny more than my parents. and of course, there came a point that my nanny had to leave...
I grew up having this hatred and loneliness inside me...but you see...i realized something while i was growing up and that something made me stronger...made me the way i am now...And i'm happy with it
my advise: Dont run away from your problem...You might miss things along the way...you might regret someday that you weren't able to learn it...
sometimes...you just need to smile...
2006-08-18 13:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jacky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh honey, sure your parents love you. Have you tried talking to them about it, telling them how you feel? Maybe they don't even realize what they are doing to you. Sit them down and talk to them, maybe even print out this question with all the answers you get and let them know how desperate you feel right now.
Just cause we're parents doesn't mean we're perfect - we can screw up you know...
Take care sweetheart & please, talk to your parents..
2006-08-18 13:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to go up and sit down by them and take their hand and just say I want you to know how much I love you. Start showing them attention and they will probably show you attention back. Showing someone else attention is the key to them returning it.
2006-08-18 13:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by kb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey ur parents love u u r there child just sit down and tell them how u feel if they want listen talk to ur brother and c if he will talk to them good luck
2006-08-18 13:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by greyeyebeauty81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋