I live in Florida,im 20 years old, i go to commutnity college but still live with my parents because if u work u know that it is almost impossible to live on ur own for 7.50 an hour, I am a really nice guy and possibly to nice, and yes i still am a virgin, i surf its my life and i love all sports, im pretty athletic, but here is my problem i have never had a steady girlfriend for some reason i can make friends with girls but when it come time for me to build up the confidence to ask them out i say no because if they say no then i feel i will lose there friendship. the longest i have ever had a girl friend was a month, but for some reason i am just way to shy to talk to the ladies, but i have alot of self confidence, can any one give me any tips on getting a girl, for some reason ever girl i seem to get attracted to they already have a boyfriend and im not the type of guy to steal a girl away from another guy, i have class, i for some reason can not find a single girl in my town
2006-08-18 05:47:26 · 15 answers · asked by surftight 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No im not gay, and i never will be, and when I said that i dated a 16 year old in another post i was not contradicting my self, i never said i have never had a girlfriend i just havent had really much luck and i didint walk up to her and say hi my best friend introduced me to her,
2006-08-18 07:54:15 · update #1
Kyle, I'm going to give it to you straight. You will have a girlfriend when you really want one. Right now, for whatever reason, you are ambivelant about the opposite sex.
Girls are naturally attracted to guys, especially an athlete. My suspicion is that many opportunities have presented themselves, but at an unconscious level, you are rejecting their advances.
Search your soul and ask yourself if there is a compelling reason that you do not want to enter into a relationship with a woman.
Resolve this issue, and let nature take it's course. You'll be surprized how approachable women are when they know you really like and care about them.
2006-08-18 06:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by Elwood Blues 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you are afraid of rejection. That's it. You said so yourself, in so many words.
Who puts a limit on your actions? You do. Break this cycle and you will see that it is after all a normal thing to get rejected. Stop being so sensitive and grow a second layer of skin. It should be like the rain off the duck's back.
Ask a girl out. Any girl. The worst that can happen is a NO. 3 out of 5 will actually feel good about being asked. Don't rush or advance too fast in your relationship. It is not necessary. Genuinely, I mean - genuinely, deep down in your heart - be interested in what she does and what she has to say. There is no magic to this.
Look in right places where single girls hang out. Give it some thought and you will be alright. What you are going thru is normal for a guy your age.
Masterbate. It is healthy. There is nothing to be ashamed of, and you will not go blind. Trust me on this.
2006-08-18 06:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great guy- hardworking, athletic, fun and educated.
If I were you, though, I wouldn't back out to asking a girl out because you're afraid of being turned down.
(don't live with regret- always wondering "what if?")
If a girl really seems like she's interested, go for it- if you wait too long she may lose interest- and then you have a problem, because she won't want to date you anymore- and there is where you get hurt.
Be yourself around a girl and thoughtful, but not too desperate appearing with a ton of gifts and flowers- that just gets irritating and kind of creepy. Eventually you will meet someone who
enjoys your company as much as you do theirs.
If it's obvious she likes you after hanging out a bit ask her out.
If you're not sure- wait a little longer - then try. Hopefully she won't turn you down, but if she does-play it cool- and say "that's alright- thought i'd ask."
If she's a true friend- you guys will be fine and any awkwardness will pass. (Plan a group activity after a rejection- so you can still hang out- but it's not weird, because your mutual friends are there).
Well, there's my opinion. Hope it helps- and Good Luck.
2006-08-18 06:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to contradict your-self in one post you told a person you dated a 16 yr old.. but how could you have if you are to shy to ask them out on a date .. so what is the real question your trying to get at?????/
2006-08-18 06:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude if you like to swim so much go teach swim lessons they make almost 10 bux an hour or better yet lifegaurd you can make 14 and dont be afraid of girls i mean the only way your gonna get through is if you take a chance
2006-08-18 05:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No cute single girls in college? Since when? You sound really sweet. I'm sure the right girl will come along someday. No rush, enjoy being single.
2006-08-18 05:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
'normaly' the girls find you, you 'dance' as you are and one day they come............if you go after them, and look for more then a friendship you will find all kinds of problem later. The girls will come....... focus on building the foundations of being a man, because ultimately that is reallllly important for the best part of the girls.
2006-08-18 06:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Stef S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask, ask & ask. If they say no the oh well. The first person you ask out most likely won't be your ms right. So don't look for the girl with everything perfect. And don't be afraid of the word no.
2006-08-18 06:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~*~*Jenny Anne~*~*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not about having class or not it's about if you want something bad enough you do what it takes ..... another thing most women don't like the whole too much of a nice guy because then the guys seems fake
2006-08-18 05:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by vivi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋