My boyfriend and I broke up because of his control freak parents...he has been completely brainwashed by his parents that are no future for us.He is British and I am an Asian.I flew down to see him but his parents were extremely harsh towards me and even threw me out of the house.As for my boyfriend he said he would only be with me if his parents accept me.I am professional mind you and his parents claim im out to get him for his british passport and citizenship.It is not true at all...I love him deeply but he didnt even want to see me off at the airport when I left home with a broken heart.I still love him...what should I do? I am trying to date others but I could only think of the beautiful memories we shared together.
2006-08-18 05:30:26 · 6 answers · asked by Peacelover78 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I'm afrad that those beautiful memories are all that you will have.
You can wait for him, but it won't do you any good, unless he can grow up from a little boy who does what ever mom and dad want, into a man. He says he loves you, but was not willing to fight for you. I know you love him, but is that the kind of man you want in your life? At the first sign of conflict, he ran away, into something he thought was more secure than your love.
You sound very bright and intelligent. I am sure you are a lovely woman. He will never understand what he has given up, and that is a real pity.....for him.
Please don't wait for him. Even if he (briefly) comes to his senses, you will always have to wonder when he is going to run away agian. You are worth so much more. You deserve someone who is going to value you and your relationship, and who will be your partner in life.
It will be hard for awhile, but please be ready to move on. Take some time for yourself, and time to heal from this...and when you are ready to start dating, you will know.
Best of luck.
2006-08-18 06:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'm sorry honey but things won't work out ultimately in the end with that guy.
His parents are jerks, and an even worse sign, he lets their negative and racist outlook influence himself. Find a nice guy with a good family where you are welcome and not ostracized, no one deserves to be treated that way.
For a while you may still think of him, but it's best to move on. Gradually you can learn to love another man. I’m sorry things didn’t work out with him, but heartbreak is a chance you take when you fall in love.
2006-08-19 18:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loves come and loves go... let this one go. Sounds like nothing but problems. I mean, they threw you out of the house and he didn't want to see you off at the airport. Just let it go. You need to move on. No more contact. None. Cry and lament and heal, reach out to your friends, you'll be surprised how quickly you'll start to feel better.
2006-08-18 12:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by jamie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make people like you. Obviously, he thinks that his parents have to approve of you. I dated someone ezactly like that. We tried to make it work, but his parents got into his head. I still kind of miss him. It still hurts. The problem is, you can't change his mind. You can't make him want to go agains his parents to be with you. Trust me- it will cause you less heartache to just try and let him go. It will hurt, but it will hurt more if you try to hold on.
2006-08-18 12:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by rainthatwalks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and move on.......thats no way to treat people you love. If he loved you he'd stand by you...
2006-08-18 12:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mz Bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. He has no backbone.
Hey i'm Asian. I know what you're going through.
2006-08-18 12:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by wisechineseguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋