Can a boy and agirl be friends?

Answer 1

The age old question!!!

I would like to think so but it is not so easy for the guy. Unless he is gay... and as Seinfeld would say, Not that there is anything wrong with that...

I had a woman friend for around 10 years. When we went out together everybody assumed we were a couple, which we weren't. I did develop feelings for her but never acted upon them. But she figured it out eventually & it weirded her out. Instead of sitting down & discussing it & telling me she didn't see me as anything other than a friend, she completely freaked & stopped talking to me........ not only hurt my feelings but it still pisses me off she would do that to her "best friend".

But now I have another best friend who is a woman. I even told her about the other former best friend. She was up front & we had the "just friends" talk & so far we are still good friends. She tells ne everything....... sometimes way more than I want to know!

Answer 2

Yes, I KNOW that males and females can be JUST friends.

Explore the possibilities and advantages of male/female relationships that are platonic in nature; for one thing, each will tell the other things that other same sex friends won't. Also, they will tend to look out for your best interest and tell you things that you same-sex friends won't (if your boyfriend/girlfriend is faithful) and will do so without ulterior motives or hidden agendas! But, there's more, strict platonic relationships often help in other ways. I have a neighbor, bless her soul, who knows that I do not cook or sew... and I know that she's going to college and needs help with some of her assignments (I have a college background) and we do NOT trade favors, we simply do for one another simply because we're FRIENDS. I have other platonic relationships with other women where they will often help me pick out clothes or come over and cook for me and I will often assist them in their academic pursuits/assignments or go and take photos of their children for graduations. And the best part is that there's never any kind of "competition" or ego situation.

Sometimes I see that my neighbor is in the "dumps" or she'll notice that I'm in the "dumps" and we invite the other to a cup of coffee and we sit down and chat for hours. There's no emotional involvement other than pure friendship and genuine concern for the other person. We're both quite aware of our gender differences but it never gets in the way of our friendship. She does not interfere or intrude in things that she feels I don't want to discuss, and I reciprocate the same courtesy. She's met the ladies that I've dated and I've met her past boyfriends as well as her current boyfriend.

Sometimes, for no reason at all, my friends will show up with a small frame or some other household decoration. I often look into shops and if I see something that one of my friends likes, I buy it and drop it off, without an excuse or reason or any kind explanation because none are required. My friends, who are females, have met one another and some like one another and some have not... and that's OK since we're not meant to like everyone we meet (personality differences, chemistry or whatever) and there's no law that says we have to.

I've had my lady-friends get jealous of my friends and act suspicious and go through the jealousy-routine... which I abhor... and since I do not tolerate much in the way of discomfort in relationships I usually put an end to it.

I guess the best relationship scenario is when one's spouse is one's best friend, where one can speak about anything under the sun without fear of being judged or criticized... those relationships, by the way, usually start off in friendships and remain in friendships, too.

Answer 3

Yes, so long as clear boundaries are set that both can come into total agreement on. And it must be agreed in advance that if one seeks to cross those boundaries, then the old boundaries must either be enforced, or new boundaries established. Nevertheless, in any male/female relationship boundaries must always exist in order for there to be mutual respect for one another. When boundaries break down, then abuse introduces itself.

Answer 4

Yes of course they can. Boy and girl are friends it doesn't mean they are in a relationship and the guys who say no are probably ugly and desperate but think highly of themselves.

Answer 5

Yes but only if they realise they wont be as close as just a girl-girl friendship or a boy-boy friendship. Instinctivly we tend to sympathise more with our own sex but we can still be friends with the opposite. I have tons of really good male friends but they all know they wont be as close to me as i am to my best, female friend. Apart from this one guy who we dont really like because he tries to be 'one of the girls' an it realy doesnt work, he's jus distancing himself from us, an its kinda creepy.

Answer 6

Opposite pole attracts..Similarly any gur or girl would like to have friends of opposite sex.It s quite natural and there is no doubt about that and nothing wrong..

Answer 7

Practically, it is possible.
But when you go talk to a boy & suddenly notice he is attractive, Itsn't possible.....
All my good friends are boys
Basically, I think girls are kinda egoistic.
I find boys more reliable.
Although there is both disadvantage & advantage in both cases

Answer 8

Yes with a+

Answer 9

Only if the boy does not find the girl in any way attractive. Boys are pigs its in our nature.

Answer 10

of course a boy and a girl can be friend . friendship is the first thing which can tie up two persons deeply.