We are newly-weds. He spends the whole day (6 days wkly) working. We're looking for a new house and fixing up our old one to sell so I can understand why he's so busy, but I am lonly and I miss him so much. It's effecting our love makeing. I find myself overeating because of his absence. I have many hobbies but none of them can take the place of my husband; what should I do?
2006-08-18 04:48:01 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it's hard when your first married, but you have to realize that he is trying to make your life better. Tell him on his day off that you would like to spend the whole day with him. You could plan to do something together, go out to eat, see a movie, or go to the beach. Then be patient with what he is trying to do.
2006-08-18 05:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap! You've gotta let him know how you are feeling!
When he goes to the othe house to work on it tell him you'd rather go with him so that you can spend a little time with him.
Try to rmember that this period is temporary and that he will not be gone this much after the other house is sold. Maybe he is feeling the same way you are! You've gotta give the man credit most men don't work that hard or would even care about the other house that is being sold.
2006-08-18 05:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA THERE!!!!!!!!! Get a handle on that now!!!!!!! It may be a self esteem thing too. You feel that he isn't attracted to you right now and your fall back is food. STOP for your sake. If you gain too much weight it will have serious repercussions later. When you are feeling down hit the gym, go for a run or a walk, anything but overeat. Do you work? That could help keep your mind off of things. Most importantly you cannot depend on him so much for your feelings of self worth. Love yourself and enjoy your life. You have the rest of forever to be with your man. Believe that and don't worry so much.
2006-08-18 05:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just sit him down and have a serious talk. Also, you need to lay some ground rules. My husband works a lot of hours too, but the rule for us is that he cannot bring work home. When he comes home, work has ended, he cannot take any more work calls or do work. And we have at least one day on the weekend for "us" time. You can also try scheduling a date night.
2006-08-18 04:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, after I got married the same thing happened... I gained about 20 pounds. Well, I had to sit him down and tell him straight how I feel a relationship in a marriage should work. and that your lonely and that he is your best friend. Best friends should hang out all the time. Of course work is probably a huge priority to him tell him you want to go for a lunch date... then you walk to meet him, if possible. I started walking just around the block for like 20 minutes and I felt so much better afterwards... if you need anymore advice feel free to e-mail me... I'll help ya out. amanda_orum@yahoo.ca
2006-08-18 04:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make small compromises with time and just ride it out-eventually you guys are gonna have a nice set up and you had a little extra space to keep the spice and mystery alive-it'll take you longer to get to the typical hum-drum stage of relationships. And think, it could be worse, you could be single. I'm jealous that you have a good man that you love and that he's working that hard to make you two's dreams a reality.
2006-08-18 05:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't put that on your husband. He is going off to work to provide for you. You need to feel better about yourself or your marriage will fail. How would you feel about your husband if he were setting at home all day watching TV and your electricity is cut off because the bills are not paid? Stop being foolish and selfish.
2006-08-18 05:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree you need to let him know how you are feeling, but in a way that doesn't make him feel attacked or defensive.
Once he really knows how you feel, perhaps he can ease back on the working, and be there for you.
Of course, in his mind, he probably is doing this for you....he is trying to show you his love in the way men often do, by working their butts off to get us a better future. But for us, we often feel abandoned while they work away!!
So cut him some slack for trying, and have a good heart to heart!
Good Luck
2006-08-18 04:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by rachprime 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you could take the load off of him and also get a (job) or second job, and it would take less time to get the money together for your new home., then when you have enough money put aside you can work on the house together.
2006-08-18 04:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that you need some "me time" him and you if he love you you will get it so plan some thing nice for the two of you and have fun dont talk about work or that is what he will end up doing
2006-08-18 05:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋