She has a massive gag reflex, and gags on bananas. I really would like some oral lovin, but she is just not interested. Serious answers only please. Any advice on how to make thw whole process easier on her. I think it is seated deeply in her mind that this is nasty and gross as well, but she will let me perform on her anytime, and loves it!
2006-08-18 04:45:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am a female and you know i was not to keen about doing it either but after my first time when i seen how it made him react i went nuts my self. Be sure that you let her know how much it pleases you.Also she dont have to put your whole penis in her mouth tell her to use her mouth and use her hand where she cant use her mouth but be sure to keep her mouth and hand close toghter and keep her hand wet with the spit, now as she is doing it be sure to make her know you know shes there touch her where ever even her head. I swear the more eroused you get the more she should get into it and go down a little further with every stroke make sure at least goes a little bit past your head with her mouth. and let her use he hand to i swear you wont even be able to tell and it will be better and eaiser for her. My boyfriend of 7 yrs loves it when i do it which is avout every time we are intamant and i usally use that when i am getting tierd and he never even knows.
2006-08-18 05:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by ladyindispair 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I know KImberly was being funny, but wine or a drink will relax her and while the oral job might not be her finest, her gag reflex won't be so strong either. ALso try a throat numbing drop or spray before (think chloraseptic) to help numb. Also, make sure you are very clean and trimmed or shaven (hairs gag too!) and ask her to just lick (try a flavored gel or whipped cream) not actually put into her mouth.
Also, there are ways she can give oral sex without actually placing much in her mouth....try this website.
2006-08-18 05:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by Amy B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many thing to help with that problem now.. flavored lotions, creams.. or even use chocolate or jelly..or something like that.. Communication is very important...explain to her that this is what gives you the most pleasure and that you love her and enjoy very much when she does it. Tell her it is important for you that she is comfortable doing it too. She doesn't have to like it, giving your partner pleasure can be very exiting. Go to an adult store together to find options it might be fun.. But if you are too embarrassed...Try going on line and find the web site for Adam & Eve. It is a very respected company that I have used for a long time. Request a catalogue to be sent by mail.. They are so discrete no one will know what you order or even that it is an adult product..(Even the cataloge comes so plain and simple). Belive me. There is a product there called Deep Throat..and it numbs very well, the taste is not the best , but I think this can help you a lot. Good Luck... I hope my advice helps!!
2006-08-18 05:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by ..Luna.. *.. ) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of women have the same problem. I would ask her to return the favor. It's only fair. Tell her she doesn't have to go all the way down, and that you like it just the same. Make her feel better about the situation instead of embarrassed. Talk with her about it, and tell her that you need that every once in a while. If all else fells you can ask her to lick off chocolate. It will take her forever though. Good luck
2006-08-18 04:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by Crazychick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the people! They are right. Communication is key. let her know that you do love her, and you enjoy everything about her. Let her know you would enjoy the oral, and would take it slow because of how she feels. Try a flavor. Have her start at the head. Have her lick and tease. Let her know that you are enjoying it. Then, return the favor. Tenfold. Let her know that she made you feel good, and ask her how she felt about it. It's your job to make it as easy on her as possible. Good luck, and if you get it, enjoy!!
2006-08-18 08:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her and that you're frustrated that she takes it from you, yet won't/can't/isn't for you.
If she had fairness in her heart she'd stop you from giving it to her, or start trying for you.
Personally I think a girl should because we're cursed with this hunger most of the time. You may or may not want to do anything with her during the 1 week of crying when aunt flo visits.
2006-08-20 17:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Benjamin W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to relax when she does it. Not to think about what she is doing. And you cant try to shove it down her throat because she definitly will not wanna do it ne more. But jus tell her to relax her throat and her mind and she will get over it. Or tell her not to put it all in her mouth only half way and stroke the rest of it with her hand. I am sure you would like both so either way.
2006-08-18 04:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a bummer. She's pretty well covered all the excuses. You might want to do it during, instead of foreplay. Make sure she's worked up first then let her go at it, but that's no guarantee either. Good luck.
2006-08-18 07:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i used to have that problem too and was very embarrassed about it!! but eventually i started w/the head and went slow about it. then w/lots of practice got really good at it. ask her not to take it all in and just to start "the baby steps" of taking it nice and slow. hey, maybe some whipped creme might be a nice enticement. good luck w/that man!
2006-08-18 05:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered trying chocolate body paint? Or chocolate syrup or whip cream? Just put some on the tip and try to make it fun. Don't try to stick your member into her mouth or make her try to put it all in at once. She can just lick around the tip and gradually put more in her mouth as she becomes more comfortable. You can make it into a game - she can put chocolate on any part she wants and you have to lick it, and vice versa.
2006-08-18 04:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋