What's the attraction that women have for older men?

Question

Is it the father image? Money, stability, sophistication? Power, status? I'm talking 15 or more years older! Are Paul Neuman and Cean Connery still attractive in their 70's to women under 40? If yes, why?

To Gonzo Zappa: Although I was looking for the ladies' point of view, good answer. You should be the "WiseVibes." All women should read your answer.

Answer 1

It all depends.. I'm a college student and my boyfriend is seven years older than me. I like it because he's passed that get-drunk-and-be-an-asshole stage that most guys my age are in. He also already has a job, a place to stay, and he's a very respectable man.

Girls tend to like guys that other people respect too because it makes them proud and makes them feel like they've got a good guy for themself. It's not too often you see that big of an age gap in an abusive relationship, right?

Answer 2

I was always really bummed out about that when I was young. I couldn't figure it out, either.

Now I'm older, I guess it's because I always tried to lay so much horse-sh!t on women when I was young. Now that I have nothing to prove, I can finally be myself. Either a woman likes me or she doesn't. If she's looking for something I don't have, I don't try to lead her on that I do. I'm secure in myself, too. I can laugh at myself when I say or do something dumb, and she'll appreciate it. I was always so worried what everyone thought about me back then. Now I don't care. If she has genuine feelings for me, she'll take me just the way I am. And I always return the favor.

I realize women are just people, too. And they treat me much better when I never forget that there is a real person in there with feelings. Always. Women are not just objects. They usually want the same things we do, and things like respect, consideration, laughter, and attention. I'd rather hear what they have to say. I already know all about my life. If a lady wants to know something, all she has to do is ask or show an interest. I've led a very interesting life. I've learned a thing or two.

I almost always put her first, too. When I was young, I thought I was so selfless, so giving. True, I did a lot of really nice things for the women I cared the most about, but I usually had selfish reasons, or so I was hoping. Women pick up on that. Now everything I do is straight from the heart.

I made a lot of mistakes in my youth. Now I'm finally good at it, nobody seems to want it much of the time. It's not always as rosy as you think, my friend. But it's sure better than when I was inexperienced and I always took everything so seriously and had unreasonable expectations. For her and myself.

Now I'm just happy to have somebody. Now the only turn-off is if she's too perfect. If she seems to be, just wait.

Everything up front, that's my motto.

Answer 3

I am currently dating an older man (7yrs older) and have been for 2 yrs. I dont think I would ever date anyone my age again (23) and I will tell you why. Older men (and this is just my opinion) are much wiser, goal driven, cultured and have allready been through so many more experiences in life. They are stable and know what they want and in most cases are past all of the dating games, cheating, lying etc. Also they are over the whole frat party, college life, lets get plastered lifestyle. Its refreshing. But thats just me. I dont know why women in their 30's and 40's do it though. I would think it would be for money haha. Because if I am single when im that age I am definately going for a younger one. Like the gardener on Desperate Houswives....hello! : )

Answer 4

I think that the attraction is for older men to be attracted to younger women. It is a rather silly attraction, based mostly on the man's need to discount his immortality. By having arm candy, he's assured of a long life. 'I think young, therefore I am.'
But there are some good, honest May-December marriages out there. I'm looking the other way. I think younger men are much more attractive than some old geezer with bowed legs and wrinkles and viagra. lol Course, I haven't found any yet. And that's not fair - I'd be considered a cradle robber if I went out with a guy who was 30 years younger, but I'm talking about ten. I look and think young - *sigh* the old double standard.

Answer 5

It's most of the things you listed, but a big portion is stability and security, both in themselves and in the way they relate to others. They're old enough to have gained a bit of wisdom, and they don't have unrealistic expectations of women.

As far as Paul and Sean are concerned, oh...you betcha they're very attractive to women of most any age. Again, for the reasons you said, but also because they have marvelous senses of humor. They've learned to laugh at themselves as well as to see the mirth that living in general can cause.

There's just something about knowing, laughing eyes, with a smile that's genuine and real, that really turns a woman on. Plus, let's not forget the fact that these men are both gentlemen, and that goes a long way in knowing how to treat a lady right.

Answer 6

It is some of the above, and also that in their youth most boys are so much less mature; i.e. through grade school and high school boys don't catch up until their mid 20's. By that time most girls have made up their mind that an older man is better cuz he isn't always farting and being a pig or spending all night at the tittie bar.

Answer 7

I think it is the maturity issue, although money, power and status might be a factor in some of the cases.

I am a female, and lately I've noticed the samething in reverse, younger man have been hitting on me. It is sort of strange to me, but it does make me feel good,

Answer 8

I am old to most of you and do have many offers. I know it is not because I am so hansom. It can't be that I am the life of the party either. Yep, it mostly comes down to money in one form or another. Where I live I am considered quite wealthy. Well they think so any way. I am not though. I do have enough but not rich. Where you are it may be different.

Answer 9

One of the attraction are muscles
and only very few men in their 70s are still attractive 2 women in their 40s

Answer 10

it the stability an the girls kno that he wudnt want a "younger woman". me wud not want sex as often or a freaky as a guy her age wud. THAT HARASSIN SOMTIMES.

older is not Paul Neuman niether Sean Connery.

more lik Tom Cruise and Bruce Willis

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