Can i forget him???

Question

i'm damn a stupid women that thought he really love me. where are all your promises to me that no matter what happened you will luv me and nobody can separate us. you told me that you love me more than your wife.i felt cheated and guilty towards my hubby and kids.my hubby do not know that i'm having an affair for 3 months with a married man with kids also.but i'm too deeply in luv with him and can't forget him. even on the way home from work i'd cried inside the bus. do he still luv me? i knew if his wife is at home he can't call me at all because afraid that his wife knew it.inside me saying that i have to carry on with my life but on the other hand i can't i really luv him and don't know how i can face the coming days.i miss his kisses because my hubby won't kiss me that's why it's hard for me to forget him.i'm lost and don't know what to do.i think it's best for me to ask him whether he still treasure this relationship or not? please help m!!!!

Answer 1

You're not a stupid woman...you're a woman who's in love. All the feelings you are having is a normal process of grieving. Deep down inside, you know for yourself he will never leave his wife and family. The hardest part is to accept and deal with that fact. Right now you must be feeling empty inside and your heart is hurting so much. Talk to him about how you're feeling to allow yourself some closure. Give yourself the time to grieve. In time the pain will lessen and hopefully you will be able to recapture some of the love you had for your husband. Good luck and take care of yourself!

Answer 2

Married men are a dead end street the second you know they are married. Sometimes they come across as being single. They will give you every excuse in the book.
1) I love my wife but I am not in love with her.
2) She doesn't give me any sex. (most likely they have the best sex in the world)
3) My wife doesn't listen to me the way you listen to me.
4) I love you.
5) I just can't afford to get divorced right now.
6) My wife is sick.
7) We have grown apart over the years. She is doing her thing and I am doing mine.
8) We are staying together until the kids leave home.

Think about this. How many men are going to get sex from another woman if they woman thinks things are great at home? What if the man said, I just like a variety on the side but I love my wife and have no plans on leaving. That is what men do to arrange it so they can keep coming back. Married men usually don't have intentions on leaving a marriage to be with the other woman.

Answer 3

You got what you were looking for.

Get it thru your head: he is not going to leave his wife and kids for you, no matter how much you cry and whine, is never going to happen. He used you for that and that was all. He got what he wanted and moven on. You should do the same.

I know you feel lonely, but you cannot depend on others to feel happy. You have kids on your own and cannot afford to break down like a teenager.Your kids are your resposability, so suck it up , put yourself together and move on.

Yes, is going to be hard to forget, but at least you had something that made you feel loved and alive, at least for a little while. Treasure those moments but don;t look back. I know that it hurts and it probably will for quite sometime, but you will get over this.

Good luck

Answer 4

I think you must make a decision - do you want to stay with your husband, if you do then you need to stop with the other guy and talk through your relationship problems with your husband. If you are truly not happy then you should leave your husband but don't expect your married lover to do the same. This is so cliche - all married men say they will leave their wives for their mistress and it is never true!

Answer 5

I'm living the same exact thing, only i'm missing the woman and I'm the man. It absolutely sucks. Find another guy to have an affair with, you'll forget about him. Or divorce ur husband and start dating again.

Answer 6

You both are cheaters.....and you get what you deserve. Do you really think he will leave his family for you? Smartin up girl. A piece of a ss is what it is, a piece of a ss! People think by putting questions like this on answers, they will get sympathy. You don't deserve sympathy, you are trying to break up a family...
and you know he's a cheater, do you think he is going to change!?!?

Maybe your husband won't kiss you because you pine for someone else......if you think that he can't feel it, you are soooo wrong. You'll probably end up losing him and your husband!

Then come back and sob to us about your divorce, we have more sympathy for the divorce questions.

Answer 7

You said, "inside me saying that i have to carry on with my life but on the other hand i can't i really luv him and don't know how i can face the coming days."

So, let me break it down for you to understand your own question easily:
1)
You said, "inside me saying that i have to carry on with my life"
You actually mean: You have to carry on with your life
2)
You said, "but on the other hand i can't i really luv him"
You actually mean: you cannot love him, in fact you don't love him (see below).

3)
You said, "don't know how i can face the coming days"
You actaully mean: you still love your family and cannot bear to hurt them.

Can you see from your own words that they carry the same focus?
That you don't love him, as in your own word, "i miss his kisses because my hubby won't kiss me that's why it's hard for me to forget him.i'm lost and don't know what to do."

- Do you know the difference between lust and love?
- And do you notice that in your question you never spell love as in l-o-v-e, but l-u-v
- because subconciously you know its not love, but lust and you just change the "st" to "v".

Answer 8

This is why I am scared of marriage. Did you honestly think he would leave her for you? You have a husband, and he has a wife. Take time with your husband, and teach him things. Besides your husband is too good for you.

Answer 9

To you it was love, to him it was just an affair. Sorry, but always keep in mind, there are many people out there that will tell you what they think you want to hear to get what they want then discard you.

Answer 10

there is no merit in continuing this relationship,if he has not courage to show his love in public,surely he is playing with your emotion.you better get out of this and cocentrate on your hubby,.