I will not go into the details of what I did but it wasn't good or healthy to me or my relationship. I have been told I was forgiven the minute my transgression was discovered... I am still loved and I know that. Do I pursue forgiveness? I am trying not to push him.
2006-08-18 04:26:09 · 13 answers · asked by fullofsugaw 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HE said he forgave you....keep it up and he might change his mind. Just display your love and loyalty, actions speak louder than words. If you lost his trust in you....earn it back...words can't do that for you.
2006-08-18 04:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Amy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do the same thing. i pursue forgiveness until i hear the words, " i forgive you" even if i don't believe it at the moment, whether it be the size of the transgression, or the tone in their voice that makes me doubt it. then, i try to take a break, let time heal things, and try to stay off the topic in question for a time. it's hard to do, but i find that leaving it alone makes it much easier to determine whether or not you've been forgiven than when you actively pursue it.
2006-08-18 11:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if all is forgiven and you say you know he still loves you and you truly are sorry then don't push it... What your feeling is guilt and you should ,but don't keep reminding him of whatever it was that you did wrong ...learn from it and thank god that you have a man that loves you and is willing to forgive you however do remember he forgives you but he will never forget... let it go and enjoy your life with the good guy you have....
2006-08-18 11:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by tinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're not completely open in this annonymous forum makes me wonder if you were reluctant to be so when your "transgression" was discovered. Have you come completely clean with him, or are there still things you have not shared with him about what happened?
If you've come totally clean, then what needs are you serving by seeking more forgiveness when he already gave it to you? Do you trust him?
2006-08-18 11:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by Whattodo? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also did something VERY bad to my marriage a couple of years ago. We seperated for a while then realised that we still loved and needed each other. My husband didnt trust me for a long time, and we had to work at it for a long time to bring things the way they are now. I had to put up with a lot of snipes at me and words that hurt, but i had to remember that i was the one who did wrong.
If he did the same to me i wouldn't forgive him. What does that say about me? i am now so thankful that we are still together and have a beautiful 22 month old.
Dont push him. He needs to heal, and so you need to be ready for a lot of anger for a long time. But it does get better, trust me.
2006-08-18 11:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said that he has forgiven you then you should believe him. Anything further you do is going to come across as begging. He might need some time to absorb what you did and get over it. Your actions are the important factor right now and showing that you won't ever do what you did again. Right now I think you need to forgive yourself.
2006-08-18 11:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push him. He'll let you know if forgiveness is needed. But I'd do my best to be on my toes and totally upfront about everything you do, like where you go, who go with, that sort of thing. Don't make him wonder what you're doing. But you could show him that you love him, do something nice for him. :)
That's a great guy you have, that he forgave you like that. He's a keeper. ;)
2006-08-18 11:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you really sorry to shawn? you really love him and you told him he the one to be spend the life with?? Seem, I don't know the answer for you becasue you don't want to go in details. but that it a shamed because did you cheating on shawn, did you say something really hurt him, did you say tohim that you are pregnant or something. so much to know detial for me to help you. I am sorry that you did lost Shawn for what ever is the reason.
I guess you learn the hard way and who knows someone come along and you found true love and knowing you mistake the past and try to fixed it future smile.
2006-08-18 11:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course you pursue forgiveness, but always remember that youa re the one that screwed up, no matter what the reasons you did it, not him. So you also need to let him be angry and heal.
2006-08-18 11:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already told you that he has forgiven you. So now you have to rebuild his trust by showing him that you are worth to be trusted again.
You have to notd o it again and avoid at all costs being around the person(s) and/ or circumstances around your trasgression.
Good luck
2006-08-18 11:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋