2006-08-18 04:25:51 · 4 answers · asked by amarachi elendu 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
There is no such thing as "one true love." The sooner you realize that the more likely you are to have GOOD, happy relationships.
What there are is a number of people out there you can love deeply, some of whom you can make a decent life or marriage with, and most of whom you cannot. Love isn't rational and you can feel it with someone right or wrong.
Someone recently told me that once they shifted their thinking..they met the most perfect spouse. What she did was sit down and really decide what SHE wants her married life to be like. Will it include children, what kind of financial security does she want, what kinds of things does she like to do for fun, will religion be in the marriage, how does she want to feel (things like supported, adored, independent, etc.)
Once she formed a picture of what SHE wants in a marriage, then she sought out people that wanted the same thing. Soon after dating someone, at the point where she knew there was chemistry that could blossom into love, she'd share her vision. Soon she found a man that said "wow, that's what I want too." They've been very happy for 10 years so far.
Note that none of this was the typical checklist that many think of like "hot, rich, or drives a nice car." She wasn't listing the person she wanted, she was listing the lifestyle, values and feelings she wanted.
Most of us find someone we fall for, then we try to either make them fit our mold, or change to fit theirs. Neither works well in the long run and the 55% divorce rate pretty much proves that this way doesn't work.
So figure out what you want your life to be, then look for someone that shares that vision. THEN you will have your true love.
2006-08-18 04:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth you think about this person and they think about you all the time. when i meet my husband a year ago he was in a relationship and so was i. But when we had to in the back of our friend house to chop some wood for the fire pit, he kissed me. we know then that we were meant to be together. Now i practice Wicca and i was told that my true soul mate would come to me in a time when his heart was not free to love. And truth be told he came into my life. Now remember that sometime we think we are in love and really are not. if you have any type of dought that this person is not right for you then they are not.
2006-08-18 11:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by prrprrkitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the right person comes you will just feel, well right.
2006-08-18 13:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by eatmydinosaur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just know
2006-08-18 11:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by idontkno 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋