My husband left me for another woman and I am scared I will meet another man who will do the same thing. Do you just take chances and hope for the best?
2006-08-18 04:10:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you find the answer to that question, call me.
Now seriously, I will tell you where NOT to find trsutworthy men: in clubs you will not find anyone worth your time, so spare yourself some heartache.
Good luck
2006-08-18 04:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish there were a good answer for this. The truth is, you can find Untrustworthy men anywhere, yes, including church, and you can find trustworthy men anywhere, too. At the risk of being obvious, consider the internet. You have a vast number of men you can sort of cull thru, reject the obvious goofs, and then check more promissing guys. It does work. I know a couple that met on the internet, they were very cautious (which you should be, too!!!) but eventually got married and now have as wonderful a marriage as it is possible to have. Thats the best I can come up with, good luck!
2006-08-18 04:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately all you can do is take your chances and hope for the best. I know that is harsh, but it is true. No one can give you a guarantee that the person you get involved with will always be faithful. That having been said, try not to punish the next guy for the sins of the last one. What happened to you sucks, no question about it. In response, however, the worst thing you can do is let your fear that it might happen again paralyze you socially. Life, particularly in the context of relationships, involves risk. Try to remember that if you aren't willing to put yourself out there and take the risk, you won't find the happiness you seek.
2006-08-18 04:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about communication.
Man or woman...We all come into a relationship with expectations. You may not underestand what you want, but you know when you don't have it.
Make sure you tell the guy what you want & get him to tell you his wants, needs & desires.
Once you get everything out on the table, prioritize & cooperate.
This may not sound passionate, romantic or impulsive...but no one can read minds. Hollywood gives us so many false impressions about what love is supposed to be. When it doesn't live up to the billing...we leave. Movies only last 90 minutes for a reason. Reality lasts a lifetime..& takes hard work.
2006-08-18 04:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about the divorce.The fact that he left shows that he does not respect/value you enough,and hence is not worth it.You deserve something more than that.You are important,special in the presence of God.I believe if you sit down and re-appraise your relationship with your ex..you will find out exactly what went wrong.If you need to make changes you will deal with them before entering a new relationship.Spend time to pray and to know and understand peoples longterm goals and motivations before u open up/commit to them..Learn to value yourself more and keep an open mind.You will have laughter again.
2006-08-18 04:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by Covenant Family Network Intl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes unfortunately. You never know if it's going to work or not with someone. You just need to meet the right man. Cheating happens sometimes but I believe that if you have it good at home then why go out and look for it elsewhere. Maybe we should talk.
2006-08-18 04:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey no never take chances everyone say"s take a chane no never and never just seattle for anything cause i have a problem in life with just seattling with things a old lady said once o well if they think ur better than them well maybe u are honey,and never just seattle for a man u get u one that makes u happy and be very skeptacle about him if u love ur self u should have someone who loves u like u love ur self,,never take chances trust me i took to many in life time its not worth it. stay alone untile u find someone nice dont stoop as low as the others u'll pay for for the rest of ur life straight up believe what i say .....u always have god if u have no one else...peace
2006-08-18 04:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baloney ^. Christian men cheat. Catholic men cheat. There is no guarantee, but that's why it's called falling in love. You can never know for sure, but don't let your past ruin your future. Instead become wiser, not suspicious of someone whom has not done anything to warrant suspicion. Follow your heart and your gut, but don't "expect" the next person to fall out of love with you and in love with someone else. It happens; it doesn't happen. Enjoy the moment as much as you can, or you'll drive the next person away with your fears. :)
2006-08-18 04:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to STEVENKRAY. He is an @ss. But yes you have to take a chance even if you can not predict the future you never know what is going to happen unless you try honnie and life is all bout taking chances. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-18 04:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you look for men that have deep involvement in their faith and that this faith they have is not much different then your own (meaning there isn't much difference between a methodist and a baptist vs a muslim and a hindu). Men who consider their faith as an important thing are less likely to stray imho then those who don't consider a moral code as being important went it comes to such matters.
2006-08-18 04:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where to meet trustworthy men???
Straight men-At their funerals, they can only be trusted if their mouth isn't moving.
Gay Men-can be trusted to tell you if your outfit looks great or like crap.
Just don't set yourself up. Get your life together, and make it about you, if another man comes along, make him make it about you as well.
2006-08-18 04:16:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋