my boyfriend treats me like **** and weve had so many problems weve broken up b4 and he said he would change idk what to do i hate all the fights but i miss him when were broken up
2006-08-18 04:06:55 · 23 answers · asked by jenn c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
move on and leave him....it is not worth all the problems
2006-08-18 04:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jenn- I think in a situation like this you have to ask yourself: What is more important to me; a guy who can't treat me like the deserving and wonderful person that I am or my own self-worth and sanity? The fact of the matter is that you miss the idea of having someone to care about you, someone to call your own but you don't miss the abuse... even if it's passive and only mildly verbal it's still too much because we were each wonderfully made and there is better out there for us.
Going back to him can only foster the treatment that he gives you. In his mind you aren't serious about being treated better because you keep coming back to it. But you and I know better. It will hurt when you leave, lets be honest, it won't be easy. But once you have separated yourself from that environment and you have cried it out then follows the feeling of the weight lifted from your shoulders, your personal freedom and just to be able to feel good all the time and not just some of the time.
Trust that little part of you that says... this just isn't right.
2006-08-18 11:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by blkprincess_d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is so much drama between the two of you. If you feel like you should move on, then do it. Only you will truly know. Maybe, depending on your age, both of you are not ready to be in a serious relationship. Enjoy the time you have with him but remember, no matter who you are with, people fight and that is normal, (but not normal to fight all the time).
2006-08-18 11:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sapphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. I have a friend who repeadtly goes through this with her boyfriend, and she's constantly on egg shells and miserable.
What do you miss about him when your broken up? Look for those things in other guys, and remember what I said about time, yeah it hurts to break up at first but just wait, you'll feel better in the long run.
End it with this loser.
2006-08-18 11:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by KLD it. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong. I know you miss him, but that will pass in time. Keep yourself busy. Go out for a run, join the gym, read a book, go out with friends...
Don't forget their are so many guys in this world. Guys who won't treat you like ****. My dad treated my mom liek **** when they dated and she thought he would change if tehy got married. Guess what...34 years later he still treats her liek ****.
2006-08-18 11:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by princesscutesmile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be lucky you're not married to him. He won't change unless he really wants to and it seems like he doesn't really want to that bad. I say, stay away from him...you'll find someone 10 times better. You may miss him a lot right now but if you channel your energies elsewhere instead of obsessing over him, you'll soon enough be rid of these thoughts. Trust me!!
2006-08-18 11:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea sometimes people say that fights show love. know take a good look at him decide if its just fear of bein alone or if its truly love. and if it is not love walk away and leave him. but if it is then try to make it better. i know people who fight a lot but stilll love eachother. maybe thats the case but if u just miss him when u break it off well thats normal and u just gotta find another guy. a better one.
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2006-08-18 11:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont miss "him" you miss the bond of the male. this is quite common when a girl is not close to her father or her father is abusive. she goes looking everywhere and finds the worst jerks to take the place or the role of the father she either did not have or did not bond with. (im not saying that this is the case with you, but is very often the root of these kinds of "trauma bonding"
Leave this guy. search your heart and soul and get in touch with what you really want and who you really are.
2006-08-18 11:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by Shamus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend treats you badly then why the hell are you still with him? i know you probably say that you love him...but how can you love someone that treats you like crap. if he says he'll change he wont. its just not gonna happen. maybe the real reason why you are with him is because of your own insecurities. you dont need him. there are tons of guys out there and trust me, one day you will find one that will make you forget all about this guy. i say leave him and go on with your life. stop letting him bring you down you dont deserve it!
2006-08-18 11:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by lindz_marie06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone act that way is because doesn't want to be with the other person. I think you should give it up and take your life back. After that you will miss him, but you must be strong. You deserve to find someone that care about you as you care about him, remember that there are many boys around.
2006-08-18 11:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by madness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what happened with me and my boyfriend the reason why he treated me like that was he was always so jealous about everything you just have to reaasure him that he is the only one for you and that you really love him, when you feel yourself getting angry, don't , now we fight a lot less, we separated but did'nt date anyone else we just spent less time together, I guess we were getting in each other's way from doing anything and just started getting angry because we were'nt able to do things for ourselves, We are still together now and things are fine sometimes we just need time to ourselves.
2006-08-18 11:14:18 · answer #11 · answered by sweet shy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋