My friend passed away in December?

Question

we werent best friends
but we always talked in school
about stuff she never told anyone else
we hung out a lot
i was closer to her than some of her
other friends.
i keep having dreams about her
and it just hurts really bad
i miss her to deathe
she was my age, and her bf killed her
i cant get over this

whats the best way to stop thinking about it so much
im guessing time..

Answer 1

Sorry for your loss sweetie! A lot of people say time, yes. However it is almost 6 years ago since I lost my mom, when she passed part of me emptied. Almost 6 years later that place is still empty and I miss her just as much! I still have dreams about her and have my bad days and good well not so bad days. Holidays are not what they once was etc. I do not believe time heals all wounds.... I think what you could try is that when you start to miss her, make your self think about the good times ya'll had together, things that made ya'll laugh, and that kinda stuff. You are going to think and dream of her, yet you can control what your experience is like some of the time. I hope this helps!

Answer 2

I'm very sorry for your loss. Losing someone close is not something your just ''get over" it's a process and everyone grieves differently. Your dreams (depending on how you believe) could be her spirit reaching out to you. since she had a tragic sudden death, she may not realize that she's dead. The best way to stop thinking about it so much is to perhaps see a grief counselor. You also may want to consider seeing a Shaman or spiritual adviser who can help your friend let go of the earthly world and cross over. (again, It depends on how you believe) I'm not trying to push my beliefs on you, this is just what I know has helped other friends of mine in their grieving process. Best wishes.

Answer 3

I am soooooooooooo sooooooooooooo sorry. i know just how you feel, my mom died suddenly at the age of 64 years old. she went into surgery and was brain dead the next morning. i had my son 4 days later. it's been really hard and she died in january...it is 7 months later and i still think of her every day and cry about every 2 weeks for her. My daughter who is 8 lived with her and me and my dad for 5 years so me and my daughter were espically close to her!!! It is time but you will never be whole again...there will always be that part missing from your heart!!! Damn that boyfriend, i hope he is paying big time and rots in hell.

Answer 4

Yes, my dear. I lost my husband 3 yrs ago and I still think about him every day and sometimes I miss him so much I just ache. You will never stop missing your friend. But..one thing that might help the pain would be to look for ways to memorialize her. Like donating to good causes in her memory, etc. It really helps.

Answer 5

Wow.. compelling and tragic!

Your thoughts about her resonate in you for a reason.
It's a mystical magical way for her to be still recognized, through you! Sounds like she confided in you, something that she might not of been able to do with others.
A power higher above has granted you a gift!
Nothing to be scared of.. but commend yourself for having the honor.

I'd recommend accepting the thoughts as they will eventually subside. Yes..time!

And compelling that the pain you have, really shows the love you have/had for her! As she looks down from heaven, she really appreciates what you provided for her.

In time... in time. Hang in there!

Answer 6

Time is the best. But you can also try and not let it be in vain. Does your town have a group for people involved in violent relationships? Set up hot lines, get churches involved. Domestic violence is a silent killer that no body talks about until it is to late.

Answer 7

i lost my grandmother who i was extremly close to two years ago.i still think of her but it doesnt feel like an ache anymore.it feels like i know shes in a better place and that shes happy. maybe in time u will feel the same way. but everyone grieves in different ways. when my grandmother died i dont think my brother even cried. so in a way turn the ache that u feel into a sortta happiness. it might not hurt as much in a year or two.

Answer 8

im so sorry to hear that, but we cant juz bury the memories rite especially the good memories. i think u have to keep on telling ur self that she is no more here in this world, i dun meant that u have to forget her but there's time when u have to accept that that is the fact of life. my advice for u is, find a lots of new friends, share wt them ur burdens that will help u to step by step let go all the bad memories abt her.

Answer 9

you will eventually get over it to grieve is normal,the main thing is to never forget her,and soon you will be ok i lost my best friend and what really helped me was to remember all of the good times we had,sounds odd but it makes things better give it a try.

Answer 10

I know this may sound weird but I would say it would probably work it you talk to her. Let her know how you are feeling about what happened. Keep in your heart that you will see her again someday.