someone who cry too much. how you deal with that?

Question

i have a friend who would cry at comments that would be so minor and she cried. to her she finds it so much that it hurt her. she was not trying to find attention tough. she would diseppear out of no where then she reappear. i ask her wher she went to but she never mention she cried and its so convincing cause i dont see that she look sad or eyes sollen until she told me lately that some comments would hurt her and she just sunddently cry and she cant seem to control it. she told me she had seen a specialist but it dont seem to work. any professional out there that could help my dearest friend. i know here since young and i never know this side of her.

i mention earlier she came to me and ask how she can stop crying cause she doesnt know how to control it.

i told her and i did mention above that she did see a doctor a specialist on this area a psychologist.

my next question would be how to get rid of her depression then to stop the crying. she is an active and healthy girl who play sports.

Answer 1

I wonder if the friend is yourself.

Without trusting somebody, it is difficult to find help. Sometimes you look for a quick fix, but there is no such thing. If your friend refuses to be honest, help may be impossible to find.

Answer 2

"Dear ♥ turkey piz., I feel the deepest sympathy for your friend and you. By what you write she is in pain and unable to solve her delimma by herself, so far. Its undeniable that you have been of some help to her. She does, however little, confide in you. It is obvious, by what you write, that she seeks attention from you and a specialist that she "tried."
I am no professional; however, I've had therapy for years and have been made aware of single, double and triple "binds" we impose on ourselves. The professional she reported to have seen, knows much of her problems already, but, simply must be consulted over a period of time commensurate with her self-disclosure. If she did not disclose, some of the basis of her problems, the professional will not be able to modify her reactions to the stimulus which "sets her off." A good professional will spot these areas, if disclosed by the patient; however, the patient may have difficulty in the catharsis to resume her behavior in a "new self" because the change from the old to the new is "depressive" in nature. This "depressive" nature will follow her until she is reconciled to the "new her." This takes time.
I propose you continue to support her friendship and disclosure. Please mention to her that it takes time and a further relationship with the professional she has been seeing to overcome excessive depression.
mitch, janine T, devangel1980 and trulyone50 had good things to say to you. Consider that almost everyone on yahooanswers wishes you and your friend's success and wellbeing.
Best wishes!"

Answer 3

Continue to be her friend. Her world is dark. She is depressed. Keep trying to get her to talk about it. What she is crying about, is something she is embarassed about. It could be so small to you, but to her it is a mountain she feel is impossible to move. It will takes time but she can get over it. This can happen to the very old and the very young. In some people it takes medication. In some people therapy. Not all therapy needs to come from paid therapist. Sometime the best therapist will be a non-judgemental friend. Someone who does not have anything to gain, other than someone who just want to be there for her or him.

Answer 4

First of all,you say that you are this girl is your dearest friend.That is god to hear, and I hope you will help her,and not get frustrated and leave her alone.
Evidently, she is reaching out to you.Go to a private place where you two can talk without being disturbed,tell he to to inform you on why she is so sad and emotional.Let her know that all the info she trusts in you will be a secret.Please,listen to what she has to say without interruptinher,and if she asks you questions answer to the best of your ability.Let her cry and and alow her time to get it out of her system.If the therapist that she is currently seeing, isn't helping her,help her to find another one more qualified, ask around, make phone calls.Something,definitely has changed in her life, and it is affecting her from functioning.....for instance, maybe she was raped, or someone is threatening her, you won't know until you can get her to open up her heart.Please, help her,and stick with her,she needs you.have you noticed any other changes in her: Is she : loosing weight,or gaining weight,is she getting along with her family,how about a boyfriend is he doing something
like pushing her to have sex with him or he will break up with her,our other people in your peer group being nasty too her,etc....observe her and maybe you will find the problem.is she suicidal,if so tell an adult you trust,this is a cry for help,and you can not be with her 24/7.let her know your door is "ALWAYS" open to her,and so is your phone.I would suggest to your friend to get a journal(better yet,you should surprise her with a journal) than tell her to write everything god or bad in it.(ask if you can read it, this may give you more insight to whats going on with her). I hope that you will get to the bottom of this and soon.Always tell her that you love her and care for her and want to help her...over and over again so that she will see that you mean what you are saying...I feel for your friend and you too. Let me know how it is going,I am very interested in her well-being.You have my e-mail thingee.I wish you and your friend the best...you are a good friend,always remember this...please do not give up on her,no matter how frustrating it may get..................

Answer 5

It sounds like she is definitely dealing with some depression. I would say maybe she is just an overly sensitive person, but if she hasn't been like this before I would bet on depression. If nothing else encourage her to go to a another doctor. If she has already been to one tell her to try another. I had a problem finding a doctor who listened to me when I told them how I was feeling. But now, I found a really good one who cares. Obviously she has to do this on her own, but from my personal experience it helps when you have friends to support you, and that is the best thing. Advise her to get professional help.

Answer 6

Sorry some people do cry a little too much as they are too emotional.

Most mammals will produce tears in response to extreme pain or other stimuli, but crying as an emotional reaction is considered by many to be a uniquely human phenomenon, possibly due to humans' advanced self-awareness. Some studies suggest that elephants and gorillas may cry as well.

In nearly all cultures, crying is seen as a specific act associated with tears trickling down the cheeks and accompanied by characteristic sobbing sounds. Emotional triggers are most often anger and grief, but crying can also be triggered by sadness, joy, fear, humor, or other strongly-experienced emotions.

In many cultures, crying is associated with babies and children. Some cultures consider crying to be undignified and infantile, casting aspersion on those who cry publicly. In most western cultures, it is more socially acceptable for women to cry in public than men, but this is certainly not true for all human cultures.

Emotional tears contained more of the protein-based hormones, prolactin, adrenocorticotropic hormone, and leucine enkephalin (natural painkiller), all of which are produced by our body when under stress. It seems as if the body is getting rid of these chemicals through tears. That explains why we usually feel better after a good cry. So, there you go. Cry as much as you want - it is probably good for you. But no cheating by inducing crying with onions. Your tear glands know the difference.

Answer 7

Self-control is something that one developes with age.
Your friend needs to learn to toughen up because there is a big bad world out there.
Do not worry too much though, because nobody ever died of a soft heart.
I used to be exactly the same way but age helped to harden me up a little. I still cry easily, I just learned to hide it even better.

Answer 8

1. If this woman is crying all the time, something is causing it (i.e. trauma, chemical imbalance, etc.).

2. Whatever it is, she needs to see her physician, go with her to make sure she fills in all the blanks. You already mentioned she is evasive, so she may not spill the beans to her physician, so someone needs to be there to make sure she does, plus things you have noticed about her.

3. The physician can refer her to a specialist, who can get to the bottom of her problem, hopefully.

4. If she is passive-aggressive and won't seek help, you have to move on. Unfortunately, these people tend to become psychic vampires, and drain all your energy with their problems.

5. You live your life. She lives her life. As a friend you offer help. Now it's up to her.

6. If she threatens suicide, call the police. I am not kidding. I once worked with another man, who's girlfriend threatened to kill herself if he broke up with her. He called the police, and that was that.

Answer 9

If she saw a specialist, and that "didn't work", she either needs to give them more time, or else find a different specialist. Random crying DOES sound depressive, but I don't know her or what else is going on with her, so do beware of online diagnoses. There may very well be a lot more to it.

Answer 10

Leave her crying. That is the best for you. She is attracting your sympathy and manhood to take care of her, using tears and vulnerability as a tool. You should not have a relationship where you are blackmailed by water.