why do pepole get married to get divorced?

Question

i would never get married cause it leads to divorce i don't know nobody that got married and stayed togeather

Answer 1

For some reason women push hard to get married and the guy feels like he has to do it. Other married friends and family also push for it, making the guy believe he is doing the right thing. Later, the guy learns that women that want to get married so badly are crazy and all those other married people just wanted to see you miserable like them. Guys, beware! Don't fall for the marriage scam!

Answer 2

Nobody goes to the alter and says I'm only doing this so I can get divorced. I will admit that there use to be quite a few "shotgun" weddings where the girl was pregnant prior to the vows. Some guys will even tell you they felt the girl trapped them into marriage. Some men will talk a woman into marriage.

The way your looking at this you might as well say "why do people have babies, their just going to grow up and die some day anyway".

My parents have been married 53 years this month. Both my brothers and sister have been married 30+years. My niece even said to her parents when she was growing up that she felt like a minority because all her friends had at least 2 sets of parents.

When you find the right man and you feel he is the one to spend the rest of your life with you will see love is worth all the risks.

Answer 3

It's not that people get married just to get a divorce. You get married cause your in love and want to spend your life with the other person---I think a lot of the divorces today wouldn't end in a divorce if the ones involved would just work at the relationship--it is so easy just to give up---and that's what they do. Don't forget you don't know if it will happen, it's a chance you take.

Answer 4

Then you need to broaden the people you socialize with. While divorce rates are at an all time high thats because people get married for the wrong reasons. A lot of people get married today because they are in love with the idea of marriage as opposed to the people they are marrying. That's not to say that they don't love the person they marry but do they love them enough to commit to them for the rest of their lives. Marriage is hard work and some people today don't realize just how hard it is. Marriage isn't just about love its also about commitment. Its about being able to work through the hard times and remember the good times. My parents have been married for 43 years and while both of them will tell you its not been a walk in the park they are still very much in love. They hold hands, go on dates, and are an inspiration to most everyone who knows them. I'll tell you this. I do know a lot of people who have been married for 20+ years and would you like me to tell you what they all have in common? God. When you have God in your marriage there isn't any situation you can't get through. You may or may not be religious however if you look at the majority of people whose marriages last a lifetime I guarantee you 90% of them are Christians. Its something for you to think about.

Answer 5

It is a terrible thing that people get divorce, being one of them I wanted to make sure that my kids understood that it was nothing to do with them. That we just fell out of love. But we are good friends and still do things with kids together, like going out to celebrate a good game that they had or birthdays, and even christmas I know most don't end this way but some do. Also just so you know I do have friends that have been married for 21-40 years so it does work. Don't give up on the one love that can make you happy for the rest of your life just because someone close to you may not have the happy ending.

Answer 6

Not everyone who gets married gets divorced...people these days get married for the wrong reasons and they dont date long enough they think they are in love and that alone they think is enough. or they get married cause they have a baby together. Some women get married just for the thought of being married .
I think if people took their time dated for awhile more marriages would work out and last.

Answer 7

ever heard the famous quote, "The best laid plans of mice and men..." ?

No one who marries intends to divorce. But people tend to rush into marriage due to immaturity, stupidity, or societal pressures.

Unmarried young people tend to have a rose-tinted view of marriage and child-rearing, which is funny because their entire lives they have been surrounded by the reality of marriage, being their own family.

I also think people don't talk enough before they get hitched. Because often, people will find out very important things about their spouses, such as "she spends too much money" or "he is a cheater" or "he is an alcoholic" or "she is a workaholic", AFTER the marriage, not BEFORE. it's like buying a car without test driving it, going online and researching it, comparing prices at other dealerships, checking the gas mileage, comparing it to other similar models... you get the idea.

don't let the failures of others discourage you- just take your time to find the right guy!

or maybe you're like me and you know that you could never stand to put up with a person for that many years w/o getting bored or miserable.

Answer 8

That is a stupid statement. Not everybody gets divorced. Can you predict the future do you know what's going to happen in life. I can't stand people like you. You set yourself up to fail. People get married because of many reasons. No 1 LOVE. I am in the middle of a divorce but it happened for a reason. i learned alot about life and myself. We are not fighting we made better friends than lovers. He still loves me but that isn't everything. Both people have to WORK. If you are not working together it won't work. Marriage is great. I am getting married again and know I know what not to do and especially what to do.

Answer 9

People don't get married specifically with the intention of getting divorced...Why go through all the trouble of planning a wedding and a life together if you honestly thought it would end up in a court battle?

The thing is that over time people can change especially after they have lived with one another for a long time and kids can make things more complicated because they add to the stress of the environment. Suddenly you have to deal with lack of privacy and finances are more strained...the dynamics of the marriage change. You have less freedom....

Some people can weather through such changes and deal with arguments over finances, kids, careers, lack of intimacy,etc and others grow apart....

We are not in the days of when our parents were married though when they considered marriage a permanent thing. Now people consider it For Better or for worse, in sickness and in health or until one of you is sick of the other one.....lol that's just the change in society and how it views marriage...

Answer 10

People NEVER get married to get divorced. They fall out of love and/or cannot deal with the strains of that particular marriage and want out, so they divorce. As for not having met anyone whose marriage has lasted, hi, how are you. The 28th of August my wife and I will have been married for FORTY-ONE years. Plus, I know many who have been married for over 25 years as well. So, don't be afraid of marriage if the right person comes along.

Cheers!!