Would you rather have a husband who provided for and protected you or would you rather ...?

Question

be in relationship where you split everything like working, chores, child care equally? don't say both, you can't eat your cake and have it too.

Answer 1

Wow, this is a tough choice. I am so used to either splitting everything or me taking care of it, that I just naturally go that way.

However, the idea that a husband would be there to protect me is great. I am so tired of taking on the world alone - even when I was married I was the provider and protector. I would like to be taken care of for once.

I chose door #1 please. A husband who is a provider and protector.

Answer 2

Well you had better have both or your marriage isn't going to work. There aren't "men jobs" and "women jobs" in a marriage. Marriage is 50/50 and that involves every aspect of all the things that you mentioned. There is no reason why the man and woman can't both work, share the chores, and child care equally. I wouldn't suggest getting married if you think otherwise.

Answer 3

You actually can have both. What's the sense of having a husband who split everything down the middle with you if he is not a supportive, protective provider for his family? It would be like living with a roommate. Don't you think?

Answer 4

You can have your cake and eat it too. A husband can be a provider and protector in a equal relationship. To provide does not have to mean "money". There are lots of ways to provide that do not include money such as provide love, respect, honesty to another does not cost money. Let go of the material view point and life will be so much better and rewarding.

Answer 5

I would rather be in a relationship where we split everything equally. Working for me has to do with self-esteem -- and to work full-time, then come home and have to do another 4-6 hours of work in the house -- cooking dinner, taking care of the kids, cleaning up, etc. -- seems inequitable.

Besides which, having someone "protect" me is archaic. I stand on my own feet. A marriage partner should be someone who supports you emotionally, not someone who "takes care" of you in a paternal (or maternal) sense. You are marrying someone for companionship and love -- not to replace a parent.

Answer 6

Well, I was married to a man who split everything down the middle. For two years it was like living with a boarder instead of a husband. (The divorce was a relief) My husband who died three years ago loved me and protected me and tried his best to be a good provider. Which would I rather have? My late husband, no contest.

Answer 7

I am a very independent woman but I have to admit I like the comfort of knowing that my husband can provide for me and there is nothing safer than knowing he can protect me. In a 50/50 relationship you usually spend more time keeping score rather than appreciating what the other is contributing.

Answer 8

I was in a marriage where I always felt that all the burdens were on me. He made more money, but never brought it home, or did when he felt like it. I work full time, have three boys and have been carrying the majority of the weight and stress for over 7 years now. I would love a break. To be able to let someone do it for me would be an awsome change.

Answer 9

My husband provides for me and splits all the chores. I can have my cake and eat it too. I'm just special that way..

Answer 10

I would rather split. I would prefer a husband who spends time with me and not work day and night to provide for me. That is not a marriage life!