My wife is 30 and we have 2 kids 2 and 4. Just the other day she said her sex drive isn't there any more.

Question

Now should I worry and think it's me or maybe she is into someone else ?

Answer 1

It happens to every woman starting around that age but is only short term no need to worry

Answer 2

Hey relax! Kids can really wear a woman down and sex just happens to be the last thing on her mind!

I'd say get a baby sitter and spend some romantic time together once a month. Take the kids off her hands and let her have some me time once a week (get her to have a relaxing bath, get her hair or nails done or get a facial etc) not extra housework time!

A woman can stop feeling sexual and sensual after becoming a mother as all her efforts become so concentrated on the job at hand. Remind her what it's like.

Answer 3

There are lots of reasons her sex drive might've dropped that have nothing to do with you or with her cheating on you. For one, you have two young kids. Maybe she just doesn't have the energy to get into the mood. Maybe she's working too hard. Maybe she feels over-whelmed by her day-to-day routine? She might also be depressed, or not getting enough exercise or something.

If you've cancelled out all those options, then maybe then you should worry it's something you've done (or not done).

Why not ask her why she's feeling this way, and if there's anything you can do to help. Why not try to rekindle the romance by taking her out on dates again (without the kids) and basically just make her feel special.

Good luck!

Answer 4

This is not unnatural at all, especially with two children of those ages. More than likely, your wife is worn to a frazzle. I wouldn't worry about this being anything other than what happens to most women at this age & under these circumstances.

Talk to her, and try to help her get more rest. Sometimes seeing her doctor can help too just to make sure there are no underlying medical problems. The doc might also prescribe medication that can boost her levels.

If your wife is generally healthy, then it's just a combination of factors that are contributing to this difficulty. A few modifications from both her and yourself, along with any treatment the doctor orders, and this problem can be eased.

Answer 5

You should be very concerned. Why is her sex drive down. 2 kids could make that happen. working all day and coming home to clean and take care of children is hard on a women. Do you help her out with the chores or do you just sit around and watch tv? Be honest with yourself. If you don't help her out, then that is part of the problem. She could be angry. Our 30's are our most sexual years.

Answer 6

That happens, it doesn't necessarily mean she is in to someone else. Two kids both young and a handful I am sure!

There are a million books on how to spice up your love life! Most of the boil down to treating your wife with respect, giving her time to talk with you, and getting away from the domestic situation for at least a few hours a week.

Sex drive ebbs and flows throughout life. Communication is important!

Answer 7

It probably hormonal. A woman's body chemistry changes slightly after pregnancy and certainly as she gets older. This hormonal shift will end in menopause in about 15 - 20 years and is perfectly natural. Also, raising two kids can be a handful, so if she's exhausted, that can compound her loss of sex drive.

However, this should not be taken as an indication that she's not interested in you anymore or doesn't love you anymore.

Answer 8

Oh dear people your age will ususally fool around 2 or 3 times a week. Maybe she is just worn out. Try to encourage her to nap if she is home when they are taking a nap. Sometime you cook dinner and put them to bed early and spend time with her alone talking first and holding. Good luck. Make sure she gets enough rest.

Answer 9

Normal. Two toddlers, unless she's a fitness buff, 30yrs. old tends to take a toll & then if she also has a job outside of the home.........when my kids were younger: By the time I picked up the house, cooked dinner, did dishes, took out trash, bathed the kids, put kids to bed....who the hell feels like having sex?! She probably has very little time to herself to make herself FEEL sexy yet alone give you some. Try giving her some alone time & helping with chores, it may help.

Answer 10

Talk to her about it in more detail. Im sure its still there, its just not as high as it used to be. Maybe you two should try some new things to keep things exciting and to avoid the same ol boring sex.