2006-08-18 03:20:28 · 19 answers · asked by mackey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your wife is probably exhausted. This is a very common problem for women. She probably feels like she gives and gives and gives all day long and by the time you get to her she doesn't have anything left to give.
Are you being as helpful and supportive of her as you can be? I'm not aking that to be judgmental, I'm asking because I have experienced this very same situation. My husband complained of the same thing and I told him I had nothing left for him. We worked everything out because he and I realized I am not Superwoman and NOBODY can be. She cannot do it all by herself. If she is a stay at home mom she has to meet the demands of your children ALL DAY LONG, plus take care of household. If she works outside the home its just more stress for her. Try to be as helpful around the house as possible, don't ask her what she wants you to do. If you see something needs to be done, do it. Let her know what a great job she is doing as a mother and wife. She needs to hear it once in a while.
Good Luck
2006-08-18 03:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by lolo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... newsflash...
She's the mother of two children ages 2 and 4.. There is a MAJOR possibility that she is very tired and her schedule is wearing her thin. If she is a devoted mother and has all of the duties and responsibilities that comes along with it, she may need a break at least once or twice a month in order to be rejuvenated.
Try getting her to relax and go out alone or receive a massage at least once a month. Or if you can step up your game and really make the flow of work around the house and with the kids a bit easier, she may have the extra energy to be her old self. Also, exercising together and taking vitamines will help.
2006-08-18 10:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman I can tell you that I get turn on easier when I am well rested. With 2 small kids to run after, your wife might be too tired all the time to even consider having sex. I am sure that if you took the kids to grandma or someone for the day to watch them, prepared a warm bath with oils for your wife and gave her a nice massage while she is in the tub she would want to jump on you in no time.
2006-08-18 10:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by Martha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she work outside the home. too? Do you ever help her?
And even if you've put in your 8 hours, I'm sure you could still play a game of basketball or a round of golf. Men were made stronger for a reason.
She may be just tired. You'd be surprised what some time to relax can do to rejuvenate a woman. Also her hormones are starting to change. They could be imbalanced enough to cause the decrease. Have her talk to her Dr.
2006-08-18 10:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having kids that age can be draining. And sometimes it's hard to knock the pressures of the daily routine and relax enough to enjoy sex.
I'm sure her sex drive can be rekindled. Maybe you could take some of the pressure off. Take care of the kids one afternoon, and give her a gift certificate for a massage and/or a pedicure. Then make arrangements to take the kiddos to visit grandma or someone you trust, and have a romantic candlelight dinner waiting on her when she gets home.
Believe me, she'll feel loved and more than likely, very attracted to you!
2006-08-18 10:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a mom to kids that young pretty much saps you dry. Its hard to feel in the mood when you are up to your elbows in dirty laundry and toys and kids constantly wanting your attention. Does your wife work outside the home? If she does, then you need to be nice and ask her if there is something you can do for her. Even if she doesn't work outside the home, she still deserves a break. When she feels appreciated--and the little things do count--then she might start to get her libido back. If none of this works, then she might need to see her doctor. Could be hormonal in which case all the TLC in the world won't fix.
2006-08-18 10:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex drive can be heavily influenced by our mood and energy level (I once was depressed a lot and had NO desire for sex during that time). It's entirely possible that, with two little kids, she feels tired, stressed, and grouchy. You should try to help her be happier and more relaxed in general, then work on the bedroom stuff.
I doubt it's the fact she's 30.
2006-08-18 10:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worn out and bored with the drudgery of daily life and have become unfit then your motivation for sex takes a tumble too. You need to give her some help to back to health, fitness and relaxed - you should also make the effort to make things more enjoyable for her. The rest will follow.
2006-08-18 10:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a truly onest person sow you must treat her onestly too tell her you are nothing without her, go somewhere alone and tell her how much you love her, spend some presents on her all she is over tired and please be gentle and passion I think she loves you too She needs some rest
2006-08-18 10:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by maria_carmen77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inform her politely that yours is and in order for your marriage to continue on normally that you need to work on this together.
2006-08-18 10:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by mimalmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋