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Question

i broke up with my boyfrield 5.5 months ago and i still really love him! i also know he still really loves me!
we broke up coz i am english and he is muslim and he wouldnt tell hes family about me and wouldnt commit to me coz of hes family not knowing!
i really really miss him and we spoke the other day and i want him!
is this a bad idead or good!!

can mixed culture relatonships work?

Answer 1

They can for yourselves but not if you expect support from the family.

Answer 2

Mixed relationship can work but they have more pressures can an `normal` relationship . The Muslim community as a whole have great respect for their culture and would prefer for their children to marry within the community .His family will probably not like you but if you see a future with this man then you may have to convert ,but are you willing to give up your own beliefs ?UIs this man really serious about you?? has seen given you any choices ???Being a muslim will always come first over being a husband .There will be a huge culture shock for you and your life as a woman may be seriously curtailed ,If you have children then they will be brought up as Muslims how do you feel about this ?You need to seriously ask yourself how much your life will change is you get back with this man and embrace your new life are you willing to give up important aspects of your life ??Try and go online and discuss this with women who have converted but examine the postives aswell as the negatives ,Talk to your family and see threir views.Best of Luck

Answer 3

mixed culture relationships can work but they can be real hard work and stressful. I know we all take it for granted that people should be more tolerant this day and age, but some people are set in their ways and have such strong beliefs in their religion and you cant change them. I know of muslim guys who have married christians or non believers and are very happy. Its your boyfriend who needs to take a stand and say to his family this is what I want! talk to him and dont ever agree to be anybody's little secret, you are better than that. If he wont stand up and be counted then you will have to leave, harsh as it may sound but its better than hearing he has marrieda muslim girl behind your back! thnk about it and all the best.

Answer 4

I dont know about muslim and English, but I have tried, or I should say in the process (3 years) of having a relationship with a spanish man, and its going down hill very quickly... Cultures are too diferent. But hey, if hes not willing to tell his family about you, i dont know, sounds pretty bad. Does he live in England, and obviously his family live in England, so I dont see where the problem is. But thats me. If he loves you, it shouldnt matter

Answer 5

Well It isnt a bad thing to fall in Love.

Cuture shouldnt be a factor or a barrier to love between a man and a woman. Its Love Its the feeling that you have for each other.
If you really love him you can commit to him, (Getting Married)
Because in Islam getting intimacy is unlawfull, without getting married.
I would suggest you to ask him out, if you really love him that you want to be with him.
If you want any more advice feel free to mail me [e-mail]
Bye.

Answer 6

Do you think that he has changed and would be willing to rebel against his family for you?

I had a friend in the same position, discreetly dating this man for 7years. In the end, even though he said that he loved her, he didn't want to "hurt" his family and married a Muslim girl.

Weigh up the pros and cons. I personally think you'd be making a big mistake going back.

Answer 7

Mixed culture relationships can only work if both parties are willing to work at it and compromise when necessary.

When someone has a strong faith that overtakes their life it is their partner who ends up doing all of the compromising and unless you are willing to accept such a lop sided arrangement steer well away.

Answer 8

Love doesnt count on the your religion, culture and race. If u truly love this guy, go for him. Expect he's not in love with you--- he wouldn't commit himself. Work things out with him. call him again, ask if he still loves u. Ask if he wants things to work out well between the both of u, ask if he's willing to commit to you. If his answers are positive, maybe ur relationship can still work out for the better.

Answer 9

Maybe you need to sit down and talk things through with your ex and let him know how you feel.It could be that your ex does want to be with you but what you must realise is that if he fully committs to you he could loose his family as they will possibly disown him.If a muslim person marries or lives in sin with a non muslim person it brings shame on the family and they disown them and completely cut them out of their and their siblings lives.And as your not aware of this maybe that is what your ex is trying to avoid by being with you but still having his family.Ask him to explain what he feels.....Good luck.

Answer 10

oh yeah! ur boyfriend is not serious at all. islam allows a man to marry of any faith except a non believer. again these days no culture is hidden under this sun for one to be completely ignorant of the basics, so? confront ur man and find out wat he means, if he's not interested in u anymore then pick up the pieces of ur life n move on. always bear in mind that wen a door closes on u, the windows are there for u to breath thru. best of lucks

Answer 11

If he won't commit because of his family, it's a bad idea. I think mixed cultures can work though. It depends on the people.