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Question

My boyfriend is communicating with his ex she lives 400 miles away from him and we live together they have been calling each other and emailing each other, but now i definetely knows he is erasing calls and emails since i found out but theres no way for me to find out i check his email there is no evidence there but i know from his expressions. Do you think i am overreacting and should continue my relationship with him even though i feel he is doing wrong? How do i get over the past of him hurting my heart calling her and this is his ex that he left for me do you think he is communicating with her since we fell into a fast relationship, he is 48 years old. What should I do? I need honestly advice and i am not getting to many responses, i need alot of responses, He is a good man and does give me what i want and need but i know he is doing wrong.

Answer 1

This one is so funny,you have decribed what has happened to me!This man is almost 47 amagin that!What is with these men?I told him if shes what he wants then he needs to move on,because I know I deserve better and can have it!You can too.Its all in your hands.He"s still here.And now I am unsure that I want him here or will ever trust him again because he has betrayed me and lied so much.E-MAIL ME and i can tell you what i did.

Answer 2

OK distressed do you & ur boyfriend spend alot of time together the fact that u both live in the same house does not mean that ur spendin enough time im talkin abt QUALITY time here spend time doin things u dont normally do mabe u dont wash the dishes together or cook tohether you know those simple things leave lasting memories so im sayin if the both of you spend enough time together he will not be strayin if you know what i mean dont let the man think he made a mistake in dumpin her for you dont leave him just yet mabe he feels comfortable tellin her things he feels uncomfortable tellin you you need to change that talk to him if he works make sure wen he comes ome if ur home greet him wit a kiss ask him ow was work if he feels tired you give him a masage you know pamper him you need to develope a sense of openess between the both of you the whol aim is to make him feel that he can tell you any & everything if ur a jealous person ur goin to feel threatened by the least little thing try to controll yourself its nt easy but u can do it,if you decide to follow my advice dont expect to see changes overnight it might take sum time remember patience is a virtue all the best now

Answer 3

Do you KNOW he is doing you wrong or do you think that you may have some fears that he is doing you wrong? I think that you definitely need to sit down face to face and have a talk about this. Try to control your emotions, as a woman I know that can be very hard to do sometimes. Especially when you feel that the person you love is messing around or even thinking of messing around. This is a very difficult situation, but don't set yourself up to be hurt if he isn't really doing anything. Try to keep an OPEN mind, and explain to him how you are feeling. If he loves you then he will understand, and he will try to comfort you and reassure you that your fears are not valid. Good luck with this. I know it's hard, just hold on, and COMMUNICATE your feelings.

Answer 4

Sad to say, he's 48 and yet he seems unstable..Actually i find that you are confused..You said he's definitely erasing his calls and mails but you claim that you don't have any prove or evidence to prove it..Just from his expression..Perhaps his expression really prove he done something unfaithful to you, but what's your thinking? Are you planning to break up with him if you really found out that he still keeping in contact with his ex? Or are you just wanna have a good ralk with him and forgive everything? If you are going to forgive him, then you might as well 'pretend' that you don't know anything and don't make yourself unhappy by suspecting him..
For me, i won't waste time on him, so what he buy me alot of things and be a super nice guy in front of me? It's the honesty and trust and respect he should have for me...He's 48..come on...he don't have much time on earth anymore..if you are very much younger than him..leave him if he's cheating on you..

Answer 5

When my husband and I first starting dating he had an out of town job. We discussed living together before we married because it would be a second marriage for each of us. We wanted a "trial marriage" so to speak. He moved in with me and this girl starts calling the house. He said all kinds of stupid stuff to cover up how she got the number, why she was calling him, etc. After about 2 weeks of this I had had enough. I put my hands on my hips, looked him straight in the eyes and told him "the next time she calls you let me talk to her. I am going to tell her never to call here again because you are in a relationship with me. If that's not cool with you then you need to pack your bags and move in with her." He picked up the phone and called her and handed the phone to me. She never called again and we have now been married over 16 years.

Answer 6

she probably doesn't want him back and hes trying to pursue her and does she know for sure you both are still together i would not trust this man my husband left me for another woman after he spent 6 or 7 months with her he found out the grass was not greener on the other side and behind her back before ending it he called me every night when he was at work saying how sorry he was its all up to her if she say she wants to get back your history but why would she want a cheater back,karma is a crazy thing i always tell people be careful what you wish for.good luck.

Answer 7

well first of all everyone will make mistakes. Second you need to get a piece of paper on one side you need to write all of the good things he has done and his good qualities and basically what he has done to make you happy. Then on the back of the same paper write down his mistakes and things you dislike about him . If the bad out weighs the good then leave but if it is the other way around then he is a keeper . Remember a good mam is hard to find .

Answer 8

I think that if you break up with someone its ok to remain friends when i say "friends" i'm speaking mutual, social not intimate but if you see where this friendship is too much then maybe you need to talk to your bf about it tell him exactly how you feel about it, give him a chance to explain then draw your verdict. He might might tell you the truth or he may lie but you will know exactly what to do because your heart will tell you the right thing.

Answer 9

Whoa, peaches,,, I've already answered your next question before I read this one....

I see control...
so I ask you...
if you control him does that = love him?

let's turn that question around to you...
What do you think of someone that does (or attempts to) control you?

I don't know what you want. Only you know that. You'll figure it out.
Good luck with whatever you decided to do.

I'm divorced... ...and I think it has a lot to do with "I let her decide what she wanted to do"
"listen to her momma" or "listen to her heart"
I believe her heart belongs to momma!! (so I didn't get in the way)

Answer 10

I think if he didn't have anything to hide he wouldn't be erasing his tracks so i believe you are not overreacting. People don't erase and hide things if they are being totally open and honest they only hide them to keep from hurting you