this is complicated but x girlfriend got in contact and we have been chatting for 8 months on msn.feelings have come back from me but big time from hear.she lives 12000 miles away and has visited my country.we met and the inevitable happened.this is the part you girls start to hate me.shes married now and im in a long term relationship.shes gone back home but were still in contact.oh and her hubby is gonna leave her soon.but doesnt know anything about us.she was declaring her love for me long b4 she found this out and shes not that bothered.i have expained to her im not available well only as a friend but i know shes hurting inside how do i make her understand what happened that night was great and want to remain friends.but thats all.there is a lot of history from the past ie she was sexually assaulted by my then best friend but i only found out 20 odd years later had known it happened but she never told me who, as she knew i would have killed him.thankfully he was murdered a year ag
2006-08-18 02:28:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can relate to this completely. It sounds like you really care for her deeply. If you do care about her no matter what is going on her marriage-let her know that you cannot be the reason for her divorce and that you would not be able to live with your self if she got a divorce because of you. You should tell her to do everything that she can to try to save her marriage- counseling and tell her to try being honest with her husband no matter what! If you have a marriage full of lies you don't have a marriage and it cannot be saved. If she tries everything and she still gets a divorce then you can go from there. Tell her you want to remain friends and make sure it is clear that you only want the best for her and you just want her to be happy.
2006-08-18 04:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Tahnya M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend through this hard time of hers, she will look toward you to replace the needs that are not being met but this will be the opportunity to let her know what is acceptable and what isn't considering your current situation, which is behavior you should have demonstrated all along...but to keep you from being less then a friend, be up front about your intentions so neither of you gets hurt anymore than you both already have.
2006-08-18 02:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with corie m it sounds like you still love this woman. if your not ready to let go of the new girl then tell your ex that you don't want to loss contact with her but that for now all you can be is her friend. By doing this your not abandon her and you are leaving a door open in case your relationship with your new woman doesn't work out. but if i were you i wold also tell your new girlfriend that you are talking to your ex as friends, if its the mileage htat has you not wanting to go and be with your ex see if one of you moving to the other country would be posssile.good luck.
2006-08-18 02:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you have is a flake[her] unfinished business[you] let it go, along with all the baggage...so you had a one night stand, now her husband is leaving[ could it be you are not the only one night stand]
get out while the getting is good, or your next Yahoo will be, I left a wonderful relation ship for a woman I thought I loved now I find out she's having long and short affairs with everyone to weak to crawl away...what do I do?
2006-08-18 02:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by curious115 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must do the best thing for the situation...she is married...let her go....move on....until she is legally divorced stay away...u do not want to be the reason her marriage broke up....and that is exactly how the hubby will look at it...and if there are kids involved...daddy will make sure they know YOU were the reason...move on...and stay away...until the divorce is final....some say they are getting divorced but it never seems to happen....AGAIN MOVE ON---STAY AWAY--no more contact
2006-08-18 02:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you play with fire your gonna get burned. Trust me and dont even stay in contact as friends. Women who are scorned can be very dangerous. She might even mess up your current relationship if she is that hooked on you right now. My advice back off.........good luck....=0)
2006-08-18 03:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by texaslonestar37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with fire,you need to back off or you might wind up meeting your murdered friend in a hot place
2006-08-18 02:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep her as your friend sounds like she may need you mentally . And let her know that what happened was great but it can and will not not happen again. let her also know she is a beutiful person so she wont feel like she did something wrong. And again be her FRIEND
2006-08-18 02:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man, you said you are in a relationship right now?! are you really serious with her or you're just making her as your RESERVE?! you are being unfair to her! there's nothing to be guilty about what happened between you and your ex since you both liked it! i suggest, you cut your communication with your ex if you really don't love her anymore! which one do you really want to give up, your ex or your present girlfriend!? MAKE YOUR DECISION NOW! choose only one and goodluck!
2006-08-18 02:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by xieri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get loss u idiot u break up with her then u said the feeling is comming back there no such thing ur just been carried away with ur feeling coz u been talkin for long!!1
2006-08-18 02:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by ur highness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋