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How old are you and what ages are your children? Please explain your reasons for choosing to have children at the age that you did.


I am 25 and have a five year old and a nine month old. My husband and I chose to have children at an early age because we wanted to be sure that we would have the energy and the health to take care of them and so that by the time we are 50, they'll be out of the house so we can spend our golden years traveling by ourselves.

Answer 1

Sounds like a good plan. I am 37 and have a 6, 5, 3, and 2 year old. And yes, I do feel tired and less able to keep up with them. I started late because I went to law school out of college and didn't care about having a family until my late 20's.

Answer 2

Some times it seems like I have always had kids. I have 2 older brothers and 12 younger siblings [mom had "issues"] I did a lot of the child care. I have 3 children of my own ages 37, 36 ,33. For some reason people have always left their children with me when they needed a break or the child need to be put back on track! Over the years 15-20! Right now I am taking care of my friends three grandchildren,[ she was raising them but she is now terminal] they are 15, 16 ,17 so I guess I love kids and I am good at it. Never had the time to stop and think about it.


Each one has been a JOY!!


Never collected a penny from the state either, we just work and suck it up!!

Almost forgot I am 56 1/2

Answer 3

I'm 35 and have 3 boys ages, 14 (15 next month, that I gave up for adoption at birth), 6 and 3 (will be 4 in Oct.). I wasn't ready for my first child, I was still in college (and still living with my parents). I was able to join the Military, see 2 foreign countries during my tour of duty, marry and divorce and marrying a second time (with whom I have my 2 children by).
I'm rather glad I gave my first child up, he has had a great life and has great parents (I have an open adoption). I'm also glad that I waited for my other 2 children as my youngest was born with Down Syndrome. I am a more well rounded person now than I was 15 years ago. I've also grown up a whole lot more in 15 years LOL and I don't think at the young age of 21 I would have been able to handle a child with or without special needs as well as I have done today.
I'm also 4.5 years older than my DH so I think I was more ready for children than he was by the time our oldest was born LOL

Answer 4

My husband and I had 3 daughters all 3 years apart very early in our marriage. We figured that we would be done raising children and be on our own at the age of 45.

We made it and had 2 years alone in our home before the state brought us a grandchild and said we either had to raise the child or it would be put into foster care. So we took the 3 month old child and have started raising him.7 months later the state brought us his sister and we are raising her too.

It has been hard but we love every minute of it. He is now 3 and she is 2 and our den is a little girls room and the spare bedroom is no longer spare.

Answer 5

I'm in my early 50s and my children are 33 and 32 and I have 3 grandchildren, ages 13, 10, and 6. I sort of felt the same way you did too about having them young. But having kids isn't the end of the story. Mine had children and so I spend a lot of time with them too. Some people prefer to have children when they are older so that they can spend their younger years, when they feel good, to travel. Unless you take very good care of yourself, you won't feel real good in your older years.

Answer 6

I had my first child at 31 and my 2nd one 3 years later. I am 52 and one is just finishing college and the other starts in 2 weeks. I may not have as much energy as a 40 year old...but I am able to pay for both of my children to go to college. And I had the patience to see them through their teen years and keep them heading in the right direction.
Since you already have your children, it is past the point of when...so, make the best of it. Enjoy everyday...it won't be long until they are grown.
My marriage ended, but I was able to support and raise my children.

Answer 7

I'm 34 i have a 13 boy 12 girl and 9 boy i wasn't suppose to have any says a Dr so we thought the first was a blessing by the second we realized the Dr who said i couldn't have children was an idiot and our third came from to much rest and relaxation on a trip in Mexico but i love them and when I'm 43 they will all be grown and i will be young enough to still do what i want in life

Answer 8

I have two step children and one child that is our own together. I sort of went backwards and had teenagers first (try that once!). My husband is 45 and I am 37. Our youngest son is 7 and we have no qualms about having yet another child. Sure, it is tiresome at times, but I feel strongly that children add to our lives and even lengthen them. We certainly are kept more on the move and that can't be anything but good. Kudo's to both of you! Enjoy your children and don't worry about having the energy you need. God will supply it!

Answer 9

I'm 29 and my husband is 33. We had our first child in January. We both hadn't previously been with people that we would have even wanted to have kids with, I suppose. I'm glad I waited a little longer than all my friends. I've got a wonderful man who's drop dead gorgeous, faithful, funny, smart and all that. My friends, however, all have loser guys who either have dead end jobs or are cheating. They're struggling financially, too. Now, we're not rich at all, but we both make a good living and can enjoy our child instead of stressing out about bills.

Another thing, both of us got the opportunity to have fun while were were younger. We got to party, travel, go to concerts and have a blast and now can settle down and enjoy maturity and focus with our beautiful daughter.

Answer 10

I'm 29 and i have an almost 4 year old and a 14 month old. I liked spacing them because I had special time with my first and now my first helps me alot with my second. She gets me diapers and other things i ask her to fetch :) The only drawback of having them that far apart is that it's going to be a while still before they can really play together. But I'm still glad i spaced em how i did.