Is he my soul mate?

Question

I am married, have been for 6 years, my husband is great, he really is, but recently I have become in contact with the love of my life from when I was sixteen. We were best friends and we had everything in common, I messed it all and we went our seperate ways, I know that with him, I would never want anyone more, anything better, he was my soul mate. I do love my husband, but there has always been something missing! I get butterflies when I think of my first love and I don't know what to do?

Answer 1

Hi how are you.you know sometimes things come our way that cause to stumble.and i think what you should do is walk away from this stumbling block.you took vows to love Honor,and be faithful to this man that you married.this other man came to late.he is your past.you need to keep him in the past.you are dealing with the past and now trying to mess up 2 lives your husband and yours.you've heard that song thank God for unanswered prays.i am sure that we all have past loves that sometimes cross your paths sometime.but you can't run in the past it's gone you live in the future.and that means today.not tomorrow BC you are not promised tomorrow.so love your husband,don't destroy him for your past that is dead,you cant change yesterday its gone so live today as if it may be your last.one more thing it is hard to forgive someone that hurts you like that so don't do it.pray about this god can and will help you remember you said that you have a good husband.may god bless your marriage,as he has blessed mine.

Answer 2

First off, you are married and you really have no business getting involved with this guy who appeared back in your life. As you stated, your husband is great. Why would you want to jeopardize your marriage?? True, this guy that came back into your life after 6 years but honestly sweetie, everyone changes in 6 years and some change in less time than that and he may not be the soul mate you once thought he was 6 years ago. You should put all of your focus and your attention into your husband because you sound like you have a great catch. You need to stop talking to your old flame or you will have major problems.

Answer 3

If its been a long time since you have talked to this first love than let me just say that he isn't the same 16 year old BOY that you remember. And you are just feeling bored right now, butterflies don't last forever and if you leave your life now you might regret it in a couple of months. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Everyone has there first love, and they will always mean something to you forever, but to leave your husband for something that probably wont be as your remembered it might not be smart. But in the end its up to you and i hope that everything works out for you :)

Answer 4

This is not nice, you are married now. Let him be, you have a husband now. I am sure you marry your husband for love. And this thing that is "missing" just appear to be missing now since you ex lover came back. If you really love someone, let that person be happy. What if you leave your husband and things with your bestfriend messed up again? Go back to your husband? Think hard before making your decision. How sure are you that it will work out now? And doesnt mean you have alot on common/everything in common means you are soul mates. Wake up please, how childish can you be. Sometimes you can be the opposite side of each other, but make each other more happier than those couples who have alot in common. In a relationship, its not what things the both of you like or dislike, its about communication and caring for each other, its about love, about how you make each other feel and trust. The heart is important. You are married for 6 years, and you want to blew it away for a bestfriend you used to have feelings for? How you think your husband would feel? So, like i said, think hard and careful before you make your decision. Dont be selfish.

Answer 5

You need to first make a decision and clear your mind. Just because he was the love of your life then doesn't mean you two were meant to be together now. Think about why you married your husband and how he makes you feel, what still attracts you to him. You can only be with one, and it's not cool to be with your husband and lust for another man. Who doesn't get butterflies when they think of their first love, I do with mine but I also think about the different paths we've taken. He was meant to be in my life for that particular season, not a lifetime. There's a reason you married your husband and there's a reason you messed things up with your first love? You're not the same sixteen year old.

Answer 6

He was your first love (probably) and you'll always have those wonderful thoughts (at least I do), but in reality you're married to a great guy, which is hard to find. There's nothing wrong with reminising but truth be told, your ex probably is an entirely different person now (time does that).

It sounds like you're just bored in your marriage. Every marriage goes through ruts occassionally. Try to spice things up with the hubby or go out and do something you guys wouldn't normally do.

Trust me, if you throw away your marriage for your ex you will regret it. leave the past in the past.

Answer 7

You would be best to dump your first love and make your marriage exciting again. Sometimes couples will have children and go on about life. They forget to nurture the marriage. You will get butterfiles with most any man that gives you attention right now. Eventually the butterflies go away. You say you love your husband, continue to love him and forget the other guy.

Answer 8

Talk about this with a friend you trust. Write out your priorities and look at the possible outcomes of decisions you might make.

If you enjoy your relationship with your husband, you had better have a lot of confidence that the other guy would be a sure thing before doing anything rash.

If you have kids with your current husband, be sure to think of how your decisions may affect them.

Answer 9

You are married. Therefore, you walk away from this contact and pay attention to your husband and your marriage vows. You should have never married a man who you weren't totally commited to and completely in love with. Shame on you for the deception. If you want someone else, have the decency to divorce your husband before ever contacting this old flame again.

Answer 10

He was not your soul mate. You were living in a fantasy. If this alleged boyfriend would have given you everything, then you would not have grown. Don't ruin your marriage over a fantasy. WHen people think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, they forget that it must get mowed as well.

Your responsibility is to your husband and his is to you. To help one another reach your ultimate potential in this life.