We have a long history together, almost 10 years. I used to have feelings for her in the past, but it didn't work out & she got married to someone else. She got divorced a year ago and we've been in touch for the last 6 months. She is a very good friend of mine & we can talk for hours non-stop and she seems to enjoy it. I grew new feelings for her, but a much mature ones than before. I made hints about being together but I don't think it's enough, so I figured to stop wasting time and express how I feel.
2006-08-18 01:40:58 · 17 answers · asked by Archi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hurry up before you lose your nerve.
2006-08-18 01:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, you have to know what her thoughts are on marriage right now. She's only been divorced for a year. In order for a relationship to work in a marriage you have to be able to talk about anything and everything. You have only said you have been in touch for the last 6 months, to me that doesn't really sound like you have been dating for the last 6 months.
Before you start popping the question, find out her feelings on marriage in the future, you may find out that she is ready, or that she isn't interested for a while.
2006-08-18 01:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by scare_all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Propose to her in private - if you do it in front of your families, or a crowd, you never know how she might answer. I would assume you will only propose when you know she is ready and will say yes and mean it. I would continue getting to know her and testing the waters before making such a move...in fact, discuss the subject openly with her. You could always go to the jewelry store together to pick out rings - then choose a time somewhere down the road to surprise her. Good luck!!
2006-08-18 01:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're talking about proposing marriage, I wouldn't do that out of the blue. But if you're talking about proposing to have a romantic relationship with her then, given your history, you might as well just tell her how you feel and ask how she feels. You may be hurt by rejection, but you can't get the love if you don't risk the pain.
2006-08-18 01:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by bellewhatever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you talk for hours...is there anything else going between you two? If you've been dating thats one thing but if you've just been friends you'll blow her out of the water if you skip right to proposing before you even kiss her. You sound like your in way too much of a rush, slow down, wait to see what comes of this then when your ready you'll know for sure if she is, and there won't be any fear of rejection.
2006-08-18 02:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some guys that are just friends to women r u hers? is the question u should ask first . there is no way to ask someone to marry you that wont hurt if there is rejection it is the nature of the beast in order for you to love her you have to open up which allows the feeling of love to grow or allows them to take advantage of the way you feel about them. i really hope you find your one true love but a good friend is just as important
2006-08-18 02:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by shaunnapiranha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a risk at the best of times. It's your decision if you want to tell her how you feel, but if the feelings are not mutual, bow out gracefully and time will tell if you will remain friends. I speak from experience - when I read your question I thought you were talking about me.
2006-08-18 01:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by GAB & R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure she's not on the rebound and that she wouldn't just say yes to you just so that she wouldn't be lonely. If y'all aren't dating now and you aren't exclusive now, then you shouldn't ask her to marry you. If y'all were dating, around each other everyday, couldn't be without each other, if you're not talking to each other on the phone a couple times per day, if you're not sure of her schedule and what she's doing on the weekends... you're feelings in the "relationship" are just that... they're only YOUR feelings and not her feelings or both of your feelings.
2006-08-18 01:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is your best bet, But, expect the rejection, she probably will not feel the same as before remember there was a break up already once!
2006-08-18 01:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by jefgreen237 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dropping hints, or pause by the jewelry store and make a little comment about rings, etc etc. See how she responds. If she acts strange...I'd back off.
2006-08-18 01:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by volchick2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express yourself without a ring. Save that for next year.
2006-08-18 01:53:55 · answer #11 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋