It's a bit of stupid question, but for me, it's the hardest thing in the world. I've just got into my first serious relationship and I'm a month through (I'm aged 18). The thought of telling my mom I have a girlfriend makes me "cringe". I'm pretty close to my mom, and she's quite young, but just actually telling her would be the height of embrassasment on my part. I don't know why. We can talk about anything, but I've never really had to talk about this stuff before. I'm not the shy kind, I'm quite outgoing and passionate, and that's why I don't know what is bugging me so much about revealing it. I'm pretty sure she knows anyway (and when's she's asked me "do you have a girlfriend?", I always say "no"). I really want to just get it out in the air but I actually just can't bring myself to do it.
I can talk to my girlfriend's parents fine, but I know I have to tell my mom because otherwise I won't invite my girlfriend over unless my mom's out.
It's so strange. Any suggestions?
2006-08-18 01:39:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This isn't a problem regarding the nature of my girlfriend, by the way. She's perfect - my mom will adore her, I know that for a fact.
2006-08-18 01:53:44 · update #1
The reason I think it's so difficult is because I haven't had a girlfriend at all up until this point, so it's never been an issue. Now I'm older, it's not as easy as to say to your mom when you're a kid, "I've got a girlfriend!" This is the first time I've had to deal with it.
And I know my mom will be pleased, it's nothing to do with that, it's just ME - I can't physically bring myself to say anything.
2006-08-18 02:01:41 · update #2
It's not strange, it's quite normal, remember that your mom is the most important woman for you, at least until now. I had the same situation with my father when I had my first boyfriend, I could talk with him about anything but that. Just take a deep breath and let it out. She will be happy to know it from you. Just tell her it's very embarrassing to talk to her about that, she will understand, and she will make it easier for you. You'll see. Good luck!!
2006-08-18 01:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by carolina n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mother sometime this weekend: "Hey Mom, would it be okay if I invited my girlfriend over for dinner, because I'd really like you to meet her..." This opens the floor up to her to ask any questions she might have and takes the heat off of you. If your mother asks why you waited so long to tell her about your GF, tell her that you wanted to make sure it was something worth mentioning before you mentioned it - and now you are sure that it is. Good luck!
2006-08-18 08:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Trishy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, my first impression is that you're contradicting yourself. Youre not shy, but cant talk to your mom about it. You can tell your mom anything, but not this.
Ask yourself this, then: Is the girlfriend a good person, or is she really not right for you and you know your mom will tell you so?
If your girlfriend makes you happy and you really care for her, telling your mom about it shouldnt be a problem. If youre not all that happy, then maybe subconsciously youre telling yourself "This isnt the person i want Mom to meet".
Look inside yourself. The answer lies there.
2006-08-18 08:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by JusticeManEsq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to say is "Mom, I have a girlfriend. Her name is ..." I can't see where your mother would be threatened by anything like that. If anything, you will make her day. If you have acted responsibly [sexually] so far in your life around girls, I am sure your mother won't be concerned. Heck, I think your mother will tell everyone she knows that you are seriously dating! This is a feather in her cap, buddy. Don't knock it. Good luck!
2006-08-18 08:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no big deal in it, since you picked up courage to toast a girl why do you find it very difficult to tell your Mom or do you want her to hear it outside? That will bring up quarrel between your Mom and you. Summon courage and tell her that [Mom, I have a girlfriend and we have been dating for more than a month].
2006-08-18 09:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by Adababy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is easier to share personal thoughts with total strangers than with those we love--you're normal. Just say so. Most likely, your mother will be happy.
2006-08-18 09:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jamestheflame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say it by accident,''mum this food is so good, my girlfriend would've, oops'' Easy just do it, what's the worst that could happen. Does your mum have plans of marrying you? She'll probably be as excited as you about it.
2006-08-18 08:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by honey bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be fine...don't worry just say I have a girlfriend...I think your building it up more in your head than is necessary...you are 18...its ok...you may be surprised by her reaction..
2006-08-18 08:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by tweetz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are seeing someone. Don't make it a big deal.
2006-08-18 08:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously aren't that close with her if you can't even tell her casually that you have a girlfriend.
2006-08-18 08:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋