please give me some advice on how to relate to these people from now onwards coz i really feel hurt.
2006-08-18 01:29:48 · 20 answers · asked by janet o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like a typical job... relax... do not stoop to their levels and just do your job the best you can. Do realize they are not your friends.
2006-08-18 01:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm retired now, but I have learned through the years that you can rarely find a real friend in the work place. It seems that everyone is out for themselves, and is all too happy to tell the powers that be what you confided in them about, because you thought they were your friends. It's just how things are in the workplace. Everyone is trying to get ahead, and generally at the expense of others. I guess that it's human nature, because the workplace is competitive.
Be careful what you say to others around you at work. It may sound paranoid, but that's how it is.
2006-08-18 15:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by virgiinia r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough! I usually would weigh the situation. I would be flexible except when i will already be accountable. I will confront them and lay my cards on the table and tell them of my trust and confidence and how I was affected by their betrayal. That I can tolerate what they were doing at a certain level. I would then set standards and enforce it. Any deviation from now on shall be dealt with accordingly. There is always a limit to tolerance especially at work. Treat them professionally. Don't worry if sometimes you'ld fail in your judgment. Even Jesus had His Judas. Good luck!
2006-08-18 11:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by jbernz16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what they are doing. If they are stealing, then you have a big problem. If you tell on them, because you want to not be an accomplice (and you will be since you know), you risk being the butt of their getting even.
If you DON'T tell, and they get found out, they might bring you down WITH them.
I was faced with that. I worked nights in a supermarket that was closed at night. I discovered that the stock crew helped themselves with lunch stuff, sandwich stuff, chips, sodas, without paying. I was lucky. They didn't know I knew. I spent a month working straight through my lunch hour so I wouldn't be seen with them.
Well, they got found out, and every one of them was fired. I wasn't.
2006-08-18 12:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dianne C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trusting them.
Stop giving responsible work to them.
When you know somebody is back stabbing, get rid of them and select the best persons and allot them work.
Before that send them a threatening memo that they will be removed from their posts for their irresponsibility and get their remarks in writing.
Take suitable action against them.
2006-08-18 08:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. This is the nature of the workplace.
This is just a job. Who cares about what they say behind your back?
And, how do you know what they are doing? If another coworker is telling you then I would take a closer look at THAT person first.
2006-08-18 08:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some good answers here, but be careful. Some of your best friends may be coworkers. Some of your coworkers may be your best friends. Most important, some of your best friends MAY NOT BE YOUR BEST FRIENDS! Don't get angry, chances are you will someday get even. This world is full of back stabbers, so be ready to heal wounds and control the damage, but never forget.
2006-08-18 14:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by lr_trotter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will happen no matter what job you go into, try not to be so trusting, i had to learn the hard way. Still talk to them and have a laugh, but don'tr tell them things you don't want others to hear.
2006-08-18 08:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in Allah that no one can do you any harm with His permission. Ask Allah to guide them to right path and if it is not for them, then protect you from theire misdeeds. Relax but be vigilant and don't get intimidated and depressed. Do what is right and don't look for their appreciation. Do what is right and be firm. In routine matters have good conduct with them.
2006-08-18 20:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by pathowiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there must be something they are not comfortable about with you . try not to be negative and let them be . instead of waiting for them do what you like and invite them to do something you enjoy , give them time to think about it and don't expect everybody to join in . in time it will all work out or you just may be in the wrong crowd try to move on .
2006-08-18 18:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by chotpeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋