Which is best and preferred?love or arranged marriage...is love marriage a right thing to do...?

Question

**don't u think it's like betraying ur parents who have brought you up well to a good stage stage...comment after thinking about it..
**what do u think about arranged marriage
**discuss the pros and cons of both love and arranged marriage...
**i am talking about cases where u runoff when ur parents don't accept......
**answers from teenagers a must!!!!
**parents-what do u think about it?

Answer 1

first hing first, traditionally indians were all for arranged marriage.
and they (marriages) never broke.

and you know what's the fate of most love marriages, today.

i thnk in arrranged, the spouses start to love each other after marriage
and in love marriage they had finished loving each other by the time the get wedan dthereafter they start to fight .

but today's youngsters don't understand that marriage is a completely differnt thing than love.
marriage is a responsibility, adjustment, giving up your ego.
that's why love marriages tend to fail quite early.when loving each
other they are completely on their own and suddenly they have to
face the responsibility, adujustment. their ego comes in between
their lov after marriage

i don't say that arranged marriage people don't have differences.
but they don't talk for few days or weeks but again they go back to normalacy. and that's exactly what should be done.
like you do with your brothers/sisters/friends when you are childrn.
but they have social pressure, so they can't break up easily.
and reasonable social pressure is must.


1.yes, u are betraying ur parents.cause there are hell lot of other
girls/ boys(equally good to your love) who you can marry other than the one u love.


2.there is this thing which should not be called arranged marriage
,i think. but it is called. marrying for money, status, etc.
this is bad.

3.love marriage gives u the chance to select ur partner.
but with the adrenaline runnig high in youngsters body, they mostly make wrong choices. and break up with parents first and
then with their so callled love.

love is a pure thing.how many lovers can claim that their love is pure. i mean love somebody else for their charecter.and why don't they understand that they neeed not marry
only to their love.

4.in today's scenario i think u should know how the boy/girl u r going to marry is.and both u should also have both parents' support.cause marriage binds two families.that's a great purpose a marraige must serve.

Answer 2

Sometimes I can't help but wonder if it's not a better idea for arranged marriages as opposed to 'love marriages.' You hear horror stories about the cons, but really, there are many pros to it. With arranged marriages, your family does the arranging (not going to go into detail here, because I'm actually supposed to be working), sometimes the details are worked out well in advance, and from what I understand, if upon meeting the person, you do have the option to not go through with it. I think often when people are in love or believe they are in love, they tend to go rushing into things without thinking them through and realize later that they have made a mistake.

There are a few docs that I work with that are in arranged marriages (mostly from India). Many of them are quite happy...but in talking with the younger ones, they said that even though their arranged marriages work, they will leave the decision up to their children on whether or not that is what they want.

Answer 3

Arranged marriage of love.
Love marriage is not proper in view of the fascinations only attached to it beyond the realities of life which is after marriage.
Cases of runoff are betraying the parents of both sides, forcing them towards a situation of breakdown socially.
The institution of marriage being traditional and customary (subject to the cultural back-grounds), an arranged marriage could take into account every points related to it whereas the institution of marriage developed with the so-called love and subsequent runoff will not stand on any un-pleasantries supported by the family, which is required for all practical purposes.
This is parental view...

Answer 4

I think you misunderstand the concept of the arranged marriage. An arranged marriage is an agreement made by the boy's parents and the girl's parents usually when they are very young, for the boy and girl to get married at the agreed upon age. There are lots of other details involved, so you might want to get more info from your local library or look it up on the 'net.

You should marry someone only if you truly love them. If the parents did not accept it, they most likely never will. This happened to my mom. Her parents eventually became friendly with my dad, but as far as I know he was never truly accepted by them. My mom was 25 or 26 when she married my dad.
I'm not a teen btw.

Answer 5

superb question. those 2 words are standard in the Indian subcontinent only i assume. whilst a guy and a woman fall in love and marry it is pronounced as love marriage. Which additionally skill that they comprehend one yet another sufficiently properly before marrying. In arranged marriages a guy and lady who have not generic one yet another till now are delivered jointly to be married off. Couples do fall in love with one yet another deeply upon getting married in the arranged technique. some arranged marriages fail as carry out a little love marriages. in my view i think of that love marriages are extra rational. So the adaptation between the two platforms lie in the era of your falling in love i.e. notwithstanding if it is pre-marriage or submit-marriage.

Answer 6

Arranged marriages are the worst! how can you love and trust someone you have never been able to get to know! married life should be about spending your life with that someone you love and cant imagine being without it should not be about getting to know a complete stranger and living a miserable life with because you have nothing in common and do not know them! marriage is about two people who love each other coming together not about making your parents happy!

Answer 7

i think arrange marriage is best coz u dont have to suffer any problems.wt in different in love and arrange.in lovemarriage u love the person before marraige and in arrange u start love after marraige so its better to do arrange coz u will be happy and ur parents also iam rite naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa...............

Answer 8

You should take your parents intoconfidence-and have a love marriage only if you have faith in your partner.There is no question of betrayal.Love marriages do work out GREAT if there is adjustment between the two

Answer 9

Happiness does not depend on whether it was arranged marriage or love marriage.

It depends on tuning of both the life partners.
Blessings from elders always beneficial. So if possible seek blessings from your parents in advance. (even if love marriage).

Mine was a love marriage but I continued compelling my parents for their consent. It took 1 year for me. They had to oblige me.
LOVE MARRIAGE WITH PARENTS'CONSENT IS BEST.You please give the situation more time. Everything will be fine.
Donot treat it as betrayal to your parents. You still intend to respect and support them. Please donot runaway and give more time to self to reconcile.
Then most important is God's blessings are also required. Please pray to HIM for spouse, your married life and parents. If still confused please IM to me.
One thing more - I have added my experience above. My age is 54 years. Our marriage has worked fine.

BEST OF LUCK

Answer 10

arrange marriage is the best, because we have take experience from our elder father/ mom and family because we are going new our life after marriage, arrage marriage is best. love marriage likeshort-term course. if u become susscefull for your father or mother oryour family, then ok.