hi all,
I am 27 yeasr old man ,and I started love relationship with a girls 4 years ago, we still are together but I really dont love her, I tried 3 or 4 times to end this relationship but I couldn't because she love me and I think it is unfair to cut this relationship ,so, what do you think it is right to continue this relationship or it is better to cut it now,? how can I end this relationship?
many thank
kev
2006-08-18 01:17:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her what you just told us.
Do it soon or else it will end up hurting you both even more .
2006-08-18 01:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things wrong in this! First of all, you have just wasted 4 years of this girl's life by refusing to be honest with her. You don't love her. Let her have her cry and her meltdown so she can find someone who does and have a happy and beautiful life with him. Let her have the dignity in her life of having children with a man who adores and honors their mother.
Second, if you have to ask if you're obligated to "love" someone, then either english is not your first language- in which case it's just an issue of verbal semantics- or else you have no clue what love even is. Do you really think you can be compelled to love? You could be compelled to marry her in some situations, you could be compelled to financially support her or her children....Actions can be compelled. Heart matters can not. You already said you don't love her, so has that worked for you in the past? Why do you think it will work in the future. If you don't love her, you don't love her. Be a man. Be honest. Let her live her life. Quit wasting her time. And quit using the word "love" so casually.
2006-08-18 01:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you wait, the harder it will be. She will be wanting more commitment soon, and you shouldnt do it if you dont love her. What happens if she gets pregnant and then finds out that you didnt' really love her? How would the child feel? It's not fair to her, or you. You are denying yourself the chance to find true love by staying in a relationship for her.
2006-08-18 01:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but finish it. If you are with her and you don't love her, you are still being unfair with her. You'll have to explain how your feelings changed, that you can't really continue with her...
She might be hurt but it's the best for both, after all.
2006-08-18 01:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You appear utterly confused. So I don't see any point giving you suggestions. However, ultimately it's your baby, and you mustn't (ideally) pass it around to others. You have to own responsibility and take your own decisions, in such sensitive personal cases.
2006-08-18 01:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dnt love her anymore,u shouldnt be wit her,how wld u feel if someone satyed wit u just bcos of pity cos that is what ur doin to her.just end it once and for all
2006-08-18 01:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by avril m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trsut me you should stop it now cause if you don't love her by now you never will. You comfortable with her that's the real reason you hvaen't left yet.
2006-08-18 01:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by 98ta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her your not in love with her. It is not fair for you to continue this relatioinship.
2006-08-18 01:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you want to end it and don't see her again. Or show her how bad you spell and she'll leave you on her own.
2006-08-18 01:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I understand correctly, you should break up with her.
2006-08-18 01:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by TheSkeptic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋