I think that the concept of 'true love' does not exist. I fear it is just an enigma! How selfless can it be?

Question

I think that no human is capable of loving another unconditionally. There seems to be a 'gain' factor behind every 'root' of love. One may aruge that mothers are selfless but aren't they doing so to satiate their emotional need or guilt! It is hard to believe that there exist a human who sacreifices in the name of love, if so then why aren't they equated to GOD? Are we humans capable of such profound and pure form of love!?

Answer 1

I think a person might sacrafice in the name of love, but it's still selfish--which is fine. For example, a man might leave a good job and a city where he has an entire life, in order to follow the woman he loves to somewhere else. But he does this because he thinks he will be happier in a strange place with her, than alone at home, which is selfish. Or a woman might break off a relationship with a man she loves because she thinks it will be better for him for some reason, but she does this for him, which satisfies her heart, which is selfish. It's really okay, though, because everything is (or should be) motivated by selfishness. Ideally, two people love each other, and in this situation it is almost always in your own best interest to be kind and generous with your partner, so there's no reason not to be.

Answer 2

Answer:
Let's look at this in terms of antecedent*behavior*consequent.
Antecedent)Presence of a person that elicits a love response, Behavior)We sacrifice to that person's benefit, Consequent)Our behavior is positively reinforced.
A positive reinforcer is a stimulus, event, or condition that is presented contingent on the basis of some response and causes an increase in the frequency of that response. SO-it's all relative.
Our self-sacrificing behavior can be reinforced by anything from extra attention from the person we love to the augmentation of our comfortable fantasy of their love, or even the anticipation of a reward in heaven for our self-sacrifice. (anything that increases the response).
SO....
If you are (A) a big enough fruit snack that your delusion can keep you hanging on,
no matter what
(completely unconditionally),
(B) you are motivated intrinsically,
or (C) you are "in love", meaning all the love you have, you give, and it is reflected back at you (damn big reinforcer, when you can keep it going):
than yes, it exists for you
and if it exists for you...
it exists (period).

Answer 3

True love does exist otherwise enormous energy could not have emitted or released from the nulear fission in atom bombs.Let me be straight.Love I explain as below:if you break a material to smallest part it is called "Atom" and inside atoms you find Nucleus(protons + Neutrons) and Electrons circling at various orbits round the nucleus.You consider yourself (mind the word "SELF") as Nucleus of the atom and your freinds and aquaintences as the electrons revolving.Now as per physics the electrons at the outermos orbit(= your slight aquaintences) can move out with the smallest amount of energy, and inside orbits (near the nucleus )requires higher energy to get out.When Nucleus breakes the amount of energy released is immense and here comes the love ,when you accomodate a person inside yourSELF equivalent to Protons with Neutrons inside the nucleus and if they part away, immense amount of pain or energy is caused respectively which even compels the person affected to commit suicide /homicide ... .If a person likes another person in such a way that (he incorporates inside his/her nucleus i.e SELF)any breaking of these relations breaks the nucleus your SELF and it might lead to suicide/homicide etc. then either or both are in true love.And in my view "True love" does exist and yin and yan are destined to be associated.

Answer 4

We are capable of unconditional love.

Consider this... as a mother, I have struggled with my children from the time they were little, in an effort to raise them right. No matter how many times they disobey me, no matter how many times they tell me "I hate you", no matter how many times they throw their fists upwards in anger towards me, or whine and cry because they did not get their way...

... I still love them. Why? Because I can do no less. It is not out of guilt that I still love them (because what reason have I to be guilty? As the parent, I set the law of the house, and base it upon the Bible, and I am right). Nor is it out of selfish need that I still love them (for I have my husband, dad, step-mom, mom-in-law, and fish, to love as well). It is because I continue to love them, and tolerate their actions against me, for the simple fact that they are my sons.

I have been punched in the face, kicked in the crotch, been the receiver of spiteful looks, been told that I was hated, and been bitten... yet, as much as their actions hurt me, it does not change the fact that I love them. I have spent a great many hours crying over their deeds... not because they hurt me, but because they don't realize they are hurting themselves...

...that when they fight with me over schoolwork, I mourn, because they lose the opportunity to gain the knowledge and wisdom thousands of people could give to them, if only they took the time to learn it. When they fight with me over their meals, I'm saddened, because I know that without proper nutrition, they will grow frail, weak, and sickly. And when they fight with each other, I know that one day, the other won't take the arguing any more, and could come right out and deck him... or if they take that attitude to a stranger, something worse might happen.

Now, it does not mean that we have the right to be called God. We are not the creators of everything, we do not have all knowledge, we are not all powerful, and even this unconditional love can lessen if pressed hard enough. We are not perfect, and we are both fallible and mortal.

Unconditional love is the idea that, no matter what actions are taken against you, you will always love them, even if you don't like their actions.

One of my cousins did a number of extremely foul things in his life, and is never spoken of publicly. Among my other family members, he is simply tolerated. Me, though, since when I was growing up, I always respected him (as knowledge of those things were kept from me until I was older), and loved him. Even now knowing the horrible things he did, it does not change the fact that, he is my cousin, and I still love him as such, the way I did when I was but a child. Of course, I'm leery of the idea of taking a ride on a motorcycle with him... but it still does not change the fact that I love him as I always have.

Unconditional love is... knowing all the facts, and still loving them innocently as if they'd done nothing wrong. That doesn't mean you like the deed, you approve of the deed, or you want the deed to continue... far be it.

And if you love enough, it is that easy to love all people as such. Osama bin Laden and Mother Theresa are on opposite extremes of the scale of 'good' and 'evil'... but I love them both as my brethren in humanity. I vehemently abhor the words and deeds of one, and respect the deeds of the other... but if both came knocking at my door, hungry and thirsty, I would offer both a sandwich and a drink... because in the end, out of all virtues, love really does conquer all.

Answer 5

I think we are here to "learn" to love unconditionally, it is in the "striving for" that we live our journey. We may never reach a complete capacity for loving unconditionally, but in attempting to do so, we are in fact seeking to be more god-like, seeking perfection............which if you look around you is rampant in our society / culture, "trying to be" better, or perfect. We have some built in need for that don't we?

Answer 6

Hey, your right I guess we aren't.