Omg im 15 n i just found out im pregnant...im so scared plz help me. I havnt told anyone, n i cant tell anyone...its to hard. I kno my dad will totally freak out (my mum has passed away), and i dunno how the father will react!!!!
Plz help me............Jaimee-lea xoxoxoxox
2006-08-18 00:38:25 · 12 answers · asked by baibee_jaimee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It wasnt planned n wen my bf n i *did it* it was with a condom, but i still got pregnant ... plz help!
2006-08-18 00:48:29 · update #1
here i go sounding hard hearted again. get a grip little girl. if you're old enough to get pregnant, you're old enough to face the music. i know it's going to be hard, but tell your dad first. yes, he's going to freak. what do you expect? you're his baby! he'll cool off and then come up with some ideas of what to do next. don't wait too long. adoption and abortion are possibilities that take time and consideration. if he's a total a-- about it go to your local pastor or someone. there are people out there who would love to have your baby....you're so young that the baby's father need only be involved if you want him to be....grow some back bone fast! you have no choice.
2006-08-18 00:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by sheepherder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell them. Sooner or later, and I suggest sooner, so they don't flip out as much as they would if you waited or they found out from someone else. You shouldn't be scared, but you should get an abortion. It will be very hard for you to raise a child when you are still a child. Think about it.....you bring your son/daughter to Kindergarten, and then you travel a couple miles down the road to your school. College. Not to mention that your mother isn't there to give advice or really help. You said it is too hard to tell anyone. All you must do is call your boyfriend, father, boyfriend's parents, and anyone who can give you emotional support, to your house. Sit them down, maybe offer them a drink. Then, simply say, "Everyone, I called you here today for something that is hard to say. I am not sure how to andle it, but I am hoping that you can all handle it without causing an uproar. What I am trying to say is......(short pause)......I'm pregnant." Be prepared for them to still cause an uproar. The emotions in the room will be mixed, but you have to stay strong. Ask about getting an abortion, unless you think you can get enough supplies to have and raise this baby properly. Good Luck hun.
2006-08-18 08:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have sex using condoms or not...you still can get pregnant. Regardless if it is was planned or not you still had sex knowing that you can get pregnant. You are just a child.
Better go talk to your dad and let him know what you have done. If you cannot take care of the baby, then give it up for adoption to a family who can provide for it.
After you have that baby, stop having sex because you have no idea what you are doing. Even the boy does not know how to use a condom correctly to prevent this from happening, that is why parents and us adults tell you kids NOT TO HAVE SEX. Sex is for responsible adults who know what they are doing, not young preteens and teens like yourself.
2006-08-18 08:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your father may freak out but it will be for the best if you tell him. I'm sorry that your mother has passed away. Please don't even consider abortion. I can tell you from my own experience that it is very painful.
It is time to sit down and have a heart to heart with your Father. Yes, he may be upset and disappointed in you but, he loves you very much and you can work it out. I would say after this that you should now longer have sex of any kind until you're much older and are married.
2006-08-18 08:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl! You are just 15 years of age, no matter how you still have to think of a way to tell you father. He is you only parent left. The only way you can go is observe and choose a day where he is in a better mood. Hint to him first and check what would he think if a girl of your age get pregnant. Ask what will he do if it happen to you. Slowly get him prepare and break the news to him. I believe in this way he will take it better.
2006-08-18 08:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you seem so surprized? Anytime you have sex can lead to pregnancy! Oh, you're 15. Well, mature enough to have sex, mature enough to deal with the consequences. Tell the father, tell your father, make wedding arrangements and have a happy baby. Congrats! ... or have the father of the baby charged for statutory rape and give the baby up for adoption...
2006-08-18 08:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm.... wow girl... well you should tell your dad... because its the best for you, your baby.... everyone!! ya your dad may a little.. ok alot upset with you but you have to be expecting it anyways!!! NEVER EVER EVER CONSIDER ABORTION... even if you give the baby up for adoption you at least are giving the baby a chance to live and be happy.. and you may be even able to stay connected with him/her!!!! you should of thought of the consoquences before you had sex.... but you should tell your dad!! if you are mature enough to have sex.. you can handle how your dad reacts
just remember... everything will be OK!!
don't get and abortion because it may leave scaring and you may not be able to EVER concieve a baby...EVER.. even when you are ready to have a kid!!!
GOOD LUCK!!
*hope everything works out for you*
2006-08-18 09:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by **~**LJ**~** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh lord, I am not going to say what I really want to coz you already know now that you are too young to take the responsibilities that come with sex ... anyway does your government have maternity centers, coz they usually have a plan for unwed mothers who have no support. there have to be teen counselling centers, you may get help there. eventually you have to take someone into confidence, these things are hard to do alone.
2006-08-18 07:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by noogney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax. everything will be OK. i think that you should really sit down and talk to your father about this.he will probably be mad at first but he will eventually get over it.he can help you out alot! he knows that no one is perfect! just take things step by step. I'm keep you in my prayers.
2006-08-18 07:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by stressed&depressed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man. i know you may be scared but you really do have to tell your father. its for your best safety and for the safety of the baby. please do not be one of those teens that leave their baby in a dumpster!!!!!!!!! you have to tell your father about this and just make it clear to him that it was a very wrong decision and you are very sorry but you need to deal with this. i really hope this helps and you NEED to tell your dad about this. trust me you can get through this i know you can. ~reb
2006-08-18 07:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by rebekah u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋