We come from a long line of cops. My husband, father, grandfather and 3 of my 4 brothers are cops. So it would only be natural and not surprising to learn my oldest son has decided to be an officer as well. I'm trying very hard not to show how fearful I am of this. I'm doing a good job at hiding it. I've verbally supportive of him but deep down, I'm scared to death. Never would I try to change his mind. But he's my son. Can anybody else relate?
2006-08-17 23:45:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
In the long-run I think your attitude is going to cause you great harm. It's not so much the anxiety as the stress of trying to put on a brave face. If I were you, I'd sit down with my son and tell him about your fears. You shouldn't have to apologize for your concerns -- don't.
This doesn't mean you should try to dissuade him from his choice by whipping a guilt-trip on him. Presumably, he's an adult and can make up his own mind. I'd tell him that I was worried, that I wasn't going to try and hide that fact, but that I was proud of him for his decision and would support him wholeheartedly.
I just think you're going to put unnecessary strain on yourself if you try to pretend. Be honest about your feelings. Don't be afraid to communicate them, and be accepting and supportive about the decision.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-17 23:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Being a police officer is one of the surest methods of being put in harm's way and not knowing if you'll even finish your daily shift alive.
On the flip side, no other career offers variety and adventure every single day because no two days are ever alike when you're a cop.
2006-08-17 23:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by crowbird_52 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a peace activist in the 60's . Can you imagine my shock when my youngest son joined the military 1 week after he graduated form high school! He was later sent to the middle east and I became a flag waver. Your kids ya gotta love them!
2006-08-17 23:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Star of Florida 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to question anyone's interest in becoming involved in law enforcement; especially at a young age. I believe that the motivation should be to serve and protect the public, but as it turns out, the people who actually become cops are psychotic control freaks who just want to bully the public, carry a sidearm and drive fast.
2006-08-17 23:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you are brave and i think your son is a good man for choosing that specific carreer.
Many of the most rewarding things we do in this life have an element of fear attached to them.
2006-08-18 00:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, I have my Associates degree in Criminal Justice. You think your son could hoke me up with a Police Officer position.
2006-08-17 23:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by t-bomb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His happiness should come first. If this is what he wants to do, then let it be it... as fearful as it may make you. Good luck.
2006-08-17 23:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by Private Account 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋