My wife's having an affair so I'm leaving her. How should I tell her?

Question

As she's been seeing an airline pilot, do you think a bi-plane with a banner over the shopping centre tommorow, or the Red Arrows writing it in smoke in the sky would be best?

Answer 1

Send her a postcard? Save the money from hiring the red Arrows and take a long break away, where the sun shines, the booze and drugs are cheap, and the women attractive and friendly. I suggest you think about Thailand or Vietnam as destinations, where you can live as a king for months on a fiver (a bloke told me that down the pub).
Don't do a gary though.

Answer 2

I don't know how you can still make a joke out of it, that's good because it means that you are actually open of the things and accepted that your wife has an affair, so I think you already know what and how you will tell her, just tell her in anyway you want it, but I don't think renting a bi-plane with a banner is actually useless not unless you are willing to spend money just to tell her huh lol, I wouldn't spend such money just to tell her she was having an affair, she don't deserve it!!!!

Answer 3

Make sure that all of your evidence is accurate and that you're POSITIVE that she's having an affair. If you've already done this, don't make a big scene and stoop to her level. Just pack your things when she's gone and leave a note. Recruit a friend or some family so you can be sure that packing is a speedy process. Make sure the note says something that shows that you're hurt, but that you can do better than her. Don't waste the money for writing in the sky! She clearly isn't worth it...even if it's for revenge. Hang in there.

Answer 4

Find somewhere quiet, private and comfortable where your wife and you can go for a face-to-face conversation. Tell her that there are some important matters that need to be discussed and some important decisions that need to be made. Start a normal conversation about banalities but then quickly move on to the first main matter. Tell her that you have found out about her affair with an airline pilot and that you are devastated. Tell her that you don't know what to do. Then make space for her to say whatever it is that she wants to say or whatever it is she needs to say. Listen in silence to everything she says and wait until she has said everything she wants to say. She may ask a question or two. You don't have to answer these unless doing so serves your purposes. At this point you will probably have a little bit more information. Decide what you want to say next. What you say next should really depend to some extent on what she has just said. The primary questions that I think that you need answers to are, "Does she want you?", "Does she want him?", "Does she want both of you?" or "Does she want neither of you?". You then have to think very clearly and deeply about what you want in the light of what your wife has just said. Then tell her what you want (your main preferences). If your wants and her wants are compatable in some ways, then you may have something to work at together. You may want to consider this option, but I think that you should feel free to change your mind at any time. If your wants and her wants are incompatable, then you obviously have to go your own separate ways. My recommendation is to try to do this amicably, but if this proves really difficult or impossible, then you should try to keep out of each other's way.

Then there is the matter of dealing with all of the hurt and pain that is always associated with this kind of dishonesty and betrayal. My own response would be to take every opportunity to talk about my thoughts, my feelings, my plans for everyday living and my plans for the future with a caring, loving, intelligent and supportive person who I feel is totally on my side most of the time. It also helps if supporters remind us that when we make an effort for our own benefit we are asserting that we deserve a good life, now and forever more. Start investing in the rest of your life right now.

It is important to get the help and support that you need. If finding the kind of support that I have outlined above proves difficult, then consider counselling. Are there such things as separation and divorce counsellors? If so, then get one!

Martin Camden.

Answer 5

Because, she has not been nice with you, doesn't mean you have to be nasty. If you don't want to tell her in person, give her a call and say "I am leaving you, because you are having an affair
". Have a nice trip.

Answer 6

Before you do anything, you should smash all her 'Precious Moments' figurines & poison her hamster. Call her mother & tell her in detail, what her daughter's been up to.

Take a full page ad out in the morning paper, preferably with a picture of her & her pilot, & leave it at her place at the breakfast table with her Cheerios. THEN have the plane with the banner fly by her office so her co-workers can get a look.

Finally, change the locks on the house & get a restraining order.

Good luck, & have fun.

Answer 7

Don't leave her !!! Marriage is what it is UNTIL DEATH. When you speak those words " Till death do us part " THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT IT MEANS. Honor the sanctity of your marriage , your wife is not but you can . God will honor you for honoring & keeping your ordained marriage pure.Remember your lifetime commitment.No one fells out from love, they fell out from commitment. Marriage is a commitment - bottom line , for better or worse.When we marry, we make a commitment to stick by our ordained lifetime soulmate through thick and thin.If our spouse screws up and makes mistakes , forgive them , work it out and maintain your commitment. Divorce should never be an option no matter what. Divorce means quit and it's the coward's way out like is killing oneself is. Hey I know how you feel , 5 years ago my husband cheated on me with my x-best friend. Yes he is the quiter here and took the coward's way out by filing for divorce 4 years ago. Well he could care less for our children & me because he is where he is now. My counsellor told me if my husband truly care deeply down in his heart for me , for our 3 children and for the commitment to me , he would be back with all of us. I know it is true in my heart that if my husband was truly born again , he would not be where he is now ..... he would be back with me. God will bring my husband back to me when he is truly born again.The problem is we live in what I call a " Fast Food Could Care Less Society " .... it's me , myself & I { I want what I want and I want it now } . The problem is marriage is not fast food. It takes years of cultivanation , nurturing and God centered. A Happy marriage is not a destination - it is a journey. Hang in there and get a good christain counsellor. Don't give up on anything.

Answer 8

Book a flight on his plane and let the entire crew and population of the plane know that their Captain is screwing around with a married woman and they should consider a different airline. You might get to join the mile-high club with one of the stewardesses or another passenger. If the pilot is married, make certain his wife knows. You might get along with her very well.

By the way, make sure your ticket is a round trip and your soon-to-be-ex's ticket is a one-way.

Answer 9

Make sure that all the finances are secure, empty out the joint accounts and put all the money into an account in your name only.
Remove her name as beneficiary from all the insurance policies.
Change you will.

When the money is secure then you can consult a solicitor and divorce her.

You could always tip off the police that HE is involved in a terrorist plot to blow up airliners.

Answer 10

Be the mature adult here and just tell her you are going to file for divorce. Why subject yourself to anymore pain by acting childish? But, before you make this decision ask yourself if this is what you truly want? I understand she has hurt you by having an affair, but do you still love her? Do you want to try and make your marriage work? If you have children together think about the impact this will have on them. If you want to try keep your marriage together sit down and talk to your wife and see if she feels the same way you do.