What should a woman do, when hubby loses interest in sex?

Question

The hubby has lost interest in sex. He is 49 years old, loves me, touches me, like a hug or the odd kiss. I am going crazy. I am 45 and very sexual, and I don't want to have to stray. I miss it, it has been again months! and I don't know what to think anymore. Is someone else having the same problem, do you have some advice. Desperate!!!

Answer 1

Talk to him about the situation ... find ways to seduce him and see what he would like/or any fantasies. Also usually there maybe some missing communication between the two of you - find ways to increase the intimacy of the relationship. You can even find things that maybe a little more daring, having sex outdoors (risk of being caught). Another option is to buy the liberator set (they are amazing).

Hugs Mel

Answer 2

Sometimes couples get comfortable in their relationships and Sex is not a priority. Although it is healthy to still have an intimate relationship. Try Candles and music and dress sexy and just have fun romancing again. Try doing something different like calling him on the phone and asking him out and be Sensual on the phone. You need to rekindle things maybe. Or maybe he is going thru the mid life crisis thing. You could indulge youself with masturbation. Or just try talking to him. Planned sex never works..Seduce him in the middle of the night and then go for what you want!!!! Good Luck...

Answer 3

Talk to him without pressuring him. Ask him if he has lost his sex drive. This happens for many reasons and can be fixed if he is willing to see a doctor. Viagra will not fix loss of interest. Low testosterone does lower ones sex drive, so he should have his level checked, since as men age, this hormone does decrease. If his testicles are shrinking in size, this is a sign that he is producing less testosterone. . check them out. Good luck. . .don't stray. . .just get the hubby fixed. . .he's just a bit used up and needs to be recharged.

Answer 4

I am 41 and husband 50, we are also having the same problem, I honestly feel that men go through some kind of menopause, and there sex drive changes. Just be open with him about your feelings, if that dosnt help go to a sex therapist by yourself to understand then on another visit take him with you to express how you feel in front of the therapist, good luck!!

Answer 5

Alot of men lose interest in sex the older they get. It could be alot of factors, to include health issues. You might suggest he go see a doctor for a physical. Stess is another big factor. It's a big killer of libido. Work with him and figure out the problem.

Good luck

Answer 6

You need to hold his hand and talk to him ! That is so sad ,, I feel for you... If sex plays a big part in your life you will start to feel frustrated. and even angry... you need to find a "friend" like a younger guy who is just looking for sex - but don't tell your husband - stick a Rampant Rabbit in your knicker drawer and tell him you are happy with that... and give him a kiss.. or you could even try a female friend - and double dunt her ... Good luck.

Answer 7

well, the best u can do is talk to ur hubby about it. set the mood, make nice romantic dinner, do whatever u can, then wen its time to make luv n he denies, calmly tell him how much u miss it, remind him of the good old days. he may have a problem n might open up...talk to him like a friend who cares n agree to see a specialist...
Hope this helps.

Answer 8

talk to him and see what is up with him, why he doesn't want to have sex anymore. that is the only way to find out how to interest him again.

Answer 9

i am but it's the opposite. sometimes you have to look outside the box. unfortunately it gets old asking the same question day in and day out and getting the same answer. no

Answer 10

mmm ... Try having sex or being hot with someone in front of him ... If he says that he dun like this tell him the rezon that he can't make u happy. ;)