This is my situation: My husand and I live in Hawaii. His exgirlfriend lives in Texas. They were together in High School that was 8 years ago, they broke up because of distance he went away to boot camp so they broke up. They stayed friends and still talk, but my husband does not tell me when they talk. Last month they IM each other she told him she missed him,he replied he misses her to. Also last month i found out he was looking at pictures of her while i was at work from her my space account. She called my husband yestarday and talked for 20 mintues, my husband never told me, she mentioned this to me today on IM. She told me she called to ask him why his sister had not called her, my husband told me she just wanted to chat. My husband has told me he does not have feelings for her, and he loves me...if this is true why is he looking at her pics? Also, this girl has a boyfriend that she lives with. Does she like my husband? Does it sound like my husband still has feelings for her?
2006-08-17 22:30:26 · 9 answers · asked by dlmvm0612 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Allen come one she lives in texas, we are in hawaii....i would like real input here!!!!
2006-08-17 22:38:14 · update #1
HE IS CURIOUS, DONT ALLOW IT TO GROW MORE THAN THAT BEAUSE THOSE ARE DANGEROUS GROUNDS, HE HAS EXITMENT AND IT FEELS GOOD AND HE IS FORGETTTING HES MARRIED , STOP IT NOW! PLUS HE HAS NO BUSSINESS CONTACTING EX GIRLFRIENDS NO MATTER WHAT! STOP IT WHILE YOU CAN.
2006-08-17 22:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always have feelings for past friends and relationships. They just don't go away. If your husband went to her myspace page of course he would most likely seem pictures of her. Looking at pictures of someone you knew from the past is no big deal.
He says he loves you. Do you believe him? Sounds like your not sure. You should be IM ing him and saying what your saying to us. If the only way to prove his love to you is to cut this off then maybe you should tell him. He just might do what you want.
Marriage is made by having good communications and some give and take. You both need to be talking this out and looking at his view point as he should look at yours. Don't fight and get mad discuss it like married adults and I am sure things will work out.
2006-08-18 06:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a possibility that your husband still has feel lings for her...Obviously he would not tell you as such so he doesn't hurt you...You need to have a heart to heart with your husband and find out where you really stand....If his heart belongs to another no matter what you do or what you say would not mean anything to him....He probably doesn't want to admit it even to him self but the fact he was looking at her pics, subconsciously he still misses her and has feelings for her...This wont be easy but if they do have mutual feelings for each then an affair will be inevitable, no matter how much you try to satisfy him...You need to realise and understand and be prepared for it....Just know that if you love him set him free, if he comes back to you his yours if he doesn't he never was....Sorry for the bad news but life was never meant to be fair....
2006-08-18 05:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant argue or fight emotions, and if he is still emotionally attached to this woman there is nothing you can really do about it the more you push it the more he is going to pull away its disrespectful on his and her part to carry on a relationship even if it is long distance and there is no way he can do anything with her, cheating on someone isnt just physical it can be emotional too. he is your husband he should be talking to you and looking at your pictures, if the talking bothers you ask him to limit the phone calls to one time week just be honest with him and try to talk about it if you two love each other then you should be able to work something out good luck
2006-08-18 07:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to quit calling your husband. He is married to you. And tell him to make a choice,You or Her. I went thru that once...it's not fair to you,it is disrespectful. If they want to remain friends,(fine) but she can only call when you are there. Her loss,she needs to get over it and visa versa.you should not have to share your husband with anybody. Sounds like your husband may care for her..but HE IS married to you. So do not blow it too much out of proportion. Tell him how you feel and if he will not stop,then do something about it. Good luck.
2006-08-18 05:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she means nithing to him he shuld cut her off and not talk to her any more if he respects and loves you. He isnt being fair to you and she is being a ***** winding you up change your phone numbers and email account. Good luck and get her out your lives for good
2006-08-18 05:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband this bothers you and makes you uncomfortable, also that you find this disrespectful to your marriage, he's in the military he knows what respect is...
2006-08-18 05:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might as well face it,your hubby is boning her!
2006-08-18 05:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand by your man...
2006-08-18 05:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋