MEN Respond only PLEASE ......sorry.. Girls,women.?

Question

Can you tell if a women has given birth when you have sex
Reason I am asking is I met this great woman and we might move in together and get engaged.But someone told me that she has 2 kids and left them with her ex and never contacted them again
I confronted her and she told me it was an absolute lie.so I told her I believe her....but I cannot help but have my suspicions so maybe I can tell through intercourse if she has had kids .IF i found out she has kids that she abandoned than i don't want to be with someone like that...So can you tell if a women has given birth before??

Answer 1

why is this question for guys only?
i mean we now better about this...

Answer 2

I'm sorry that I had to answer this. YOU CANNOT TELL BY INTERCOURSE IF A WOMAN HAS GIVEN BIRTH OR NOT!
The uterus contracts to its natural size after giving birth. I don't exactly know how long it takes but it does.
One way you could tell is if she had a c section she would have a scar.
Or if she has stretched marks in her tummy , breast or back. Although it is true that not all women get stretched marks and not all stretch marks are related to pregnancy.
It is also true that many 1st time moms do get an episothomy and that it may leave a scar but that's not necesarily true in all cases.

Either ways only a doctor could tell if she's given birth. Or ask her parents or relatives if you think she's lying, or confront her with the person who has told you she abandon her kids.

BY THE WAY I THINK THAT YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO KNOW if she's had kids or not! This is the woman you plan on marrying.

I have a son and I cannot imagine myself without him. Even if for some fu--ed up reason I was forced to leave him in someone else's care I would at least be in touch with him.

Answer 3

Sorry to say this, but you were better off asking "Women Only"
for this Q. Most of the Women's answers are the most truthful.
What do Men know about giving birth and the after effects of it?
Angel Baby, was most accurate about the Kegal theory and such.
There are NO sexual tell tells, and stretch marks are a dime a dozen for all women. But there are some signs that MAY indicate
child birth, and they are: Dark pigments around the nipple area and a dark line up the lower abdomen. Also her vagina area might be a little darker too. (women who haven't had children are more pink in all these areas) So there you have it: All the best-truthful answers are from the Women.

Answer 4

Hey, I have to reply. I'm a midwife.
You actually have some well informed answers already!
Well done gentlemen!!
The only way to know is to check out the cervix.
You'd need specialist equipment (which you can get on ebay)!
And the knowledge and skill to use it and interpret the findings.

You could tell by touching the cervix..... if she's had children it will feel quite large and have a rough opening in the middle.

If you are this suspicious, it's not a good start to the relationship is it??

You sound a bit on the young side to be so easily swayed by someone else's comments. Are you sure about all this?

Answer 5

Woman here. Find out who the ex is and ask him.
As a woman I can tell you that you need a gynae to answer that question. Many women don't have any outward physical scars to show they've had babies. Does Penny Lancaster look as though she's just given birth? Whereas Dawn French looks like she's had a few. Stretch marks are because there is a sudden weight increase. It might be because she's had a baby but it could be because she's grown too suddenly - as my daughter has. As for vaginal slackness - well, some say yes, some say no. Like men, we're all different.

Answer 6

Bobby,
The better question is why are you considering marrying someone if you don't trust them. She gave you an answer, yet for some reason you still don't believe her. If you can't believe her and you suspect otherwise - you should do the smart thing and not marry her. A marriage must be based upon trust, obviously she does not have yours - do yourself and her a favor, as this marriage will end in divorce, if not from this, then something else... don't start the marriage to begin with. Go with your gut instinct, move on and find another woman.

Answer 7

I know you said "men only", but I think we females know our bodies a little bit better and could help you out--furthermore, I've had a kid....

1. Some women are fortunate enough to NEVER get a stretch mark, no matter how many kids they have.

2. Furthermore, women commonly get stretch marks on their breasts and hips without ever having children!

3. Look for a c-section scar. It will be horizontal and about 2-3 inches, about 5 inches below the navel, right above where the pubic hair is supposed to start. If she has one, she will have given birth.

4. If she's given vaginal birth (no c-section scar), she will be a bit "looser" than you are used to, or extremely responsive without too much manipulation, if you catch my drift...

5. Furthermore, she MAY HAVE had children, but either gave them up for adoption, or the father has custody. That doesn't necessarily mean she has "abandoned" them. Both of those choices are honorable choices made for the sake of the child/dren. Please take this into consideration.

P.S. For the idiot above: One would only produce milk WHILE currently breastfeeding--if she doesn't have the kids, she wouldn't be producing milk!!

Answer 8

Go to the courthouse and you can find the records of any births, that is a way more accurate way of finding out.
I know I am a chic, and you wanted answers from guys, but I figured I would at least let you know about this resource
You could also ask the person who told you what the ex's name is and see if you can find out from him.
Doesn't she have any family that you could ask?
*I just typed "birth records" into google and got a ton of hits, it should not be hard at all to find out if she has had children.

Answer 9

not all womenm get stretch marks and not all women have problems down below after giving birth so physically it may be almost impossible to tell.

you're best bet is to check birth records. I'm sure that by using her name you can do a search of publicly available data whether she has filed a birth (or two). you may need an old address or place that she used to live in and probably need to know her maiden name if she had one.

look in a search engine for many different sites with which you can search for births. a free one is 'ancestry.co.uk' you may need to know roughly how old the child is and where it could have been born

Answer 10

If you can't trust this woman's word on such a major issue and feel like you have to do detective work in her vagina (which will not work, btw), why are you even contemplating moving in together and getting married? There are 6 billion people on this planet---surely there are other great women who you will actually be able to believe when they tell you whether they have children or not. Of course, if you have a habit of being suspicious of everyone you get involved with, the problem may lie with you, in which case I suggest therapy.

Answer 11

I have to respond to this one even though I'm a woman. I don't think you can tell through sex but I agree that this is something you feel strongly about needing to know so I would definetly go and find records to confirm or deny the truth to this. If she did abondone her children and you want children you may want to really consider marrying her. If she didn't make a good mom to her first to children there is a very slight chance that she'll make a good mom to your children. It has happened but it is unlikely. Go to your local health department and find out where you can go to research marriage licenses as well as birth records. You would more than likely need to know her marital name to find the birth records and it makes it easier if you know he social security number, birth date, and place of birth so do some research at her home before you bother going to find records.