We have been engaged for 18 months and have lived together for 2 years, we've been going through a rough patch (that's life!) but nothing we can't work through. He says he's tried even though I don't think he has and on Tuesday he said, I'm off we'll sell the house.
All my friends say he will be back and that most men go through commitment phobia but it is just a phase.
I would love people who have been in the same situation to give me some advice as I am a completed wreck!
2006-08-17 22:06:19 · 24 answers · asked by DippyGirl78 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Relationships are never easy, they have there good and bad days.
You need to talk to him and find out what he thinks went wrong, if the relationship is over you need answers for your own peace of mind. If he does not want to talk to you, then any person that has that little concern for your own feeling does not deserve you.
If this is just a bump in the road for the two of you and you get back together, try and resolve the problems so they do not occur again. Just remember if you have a bad day today, it will get better :-)
2006-08-18 00:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by edcat28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you were together 7 years, but then you said you were engaged for 18 months and lived together for 2. Is this an error or were you together before you lived together?
There is not enough information to answer your question. Things like what contributed to the rough patch or what pre-existing problems you have had with him would give a better idea. If he's just sick and tired of being sick and tired, and he decided that he's tired of a yo-yo relationship or one that's not going anywhere then...... Still it's hard to say.
Personally, I feel like, life is short. It may be something that can be repaired or not. Your responsibility is to take care of your regardless of what. If you fall to pieces and he sees this, he really will not want you back, it will just confirm why he left you.
Your greatest revenge is success. Your significant other should compliment you, not "make you".
2006-08-18 07:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by TIRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this. Firstly to ease the pain I would say to you Pray. It will help you find peace in your life. Then i will say if you love her so much, let it be because she was obviously not happy with the idea of being with you. Maybe she doesn't realise it now but she may find that you were meant to be together & she may return to you. Dont fight.
in the meanwhile, try to keep your mind busy with work projects & try to change your routine. Doing things which will remind you of her should be changed. Take up new sports.
God has a plan for you. Its time for you to put it into action.
2006-08-18 05:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After seven years, I don't think commitment-phobia is the issue and it doesnt seem temporary if he's wanting to sell the house.
He's probably been unhappy for a while, and hasn't told you and maybe it'd benefit you even more if you talked to him and he explained why he made the decision. Don't cling to him or beg him back, otherwise you won't get the truth, or any answer at all.
It's really hard to offer anything more. Every situation is unique.
2006-08-18 05:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is irrelevant .. I 'put up' with a relationship (stupidly) for six years until one day something just 'snapped' .. and I left .. both my partner and I have moved on and are far happier but I couldnt tell you why it took that long or why it happened on that day.
The best thing you can do is realise that it was FAR better to happen now than after marriage and kids (my reasoning) and enjoy your freedom knowing that there are lots of nice guys in the world who will be more than happy to share your company.
2006-08-18 05:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different reasons for leaving a relationship the 7 year itch maybe? . As he already talking about selling common property it sound like he has made his mind up.
You have both been together for a very long time is there someone else in the picture??
Good luck this cant be an easy time for you
2006-08-18 05:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but you're lucky to find it out now... I was married to a woman for 17 years had two kids and she one day said right it's all over... don't love you any more...bye...she got the house the car everythiing, I got the shaft... so don't feel too bad there will be a lot more times when you can feel really bad later in life..
advice... come and see me I'll look after you
2006-08-18 05:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't mentioned if a wedding date has been set, if so committment phobia might be the cause, in which case he may come round given time. I'm inclined to say there might be things you don't know, though. You might ask someone to watch where he goes this weekend, then you'll know.
2006-08-18 05:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by hedgewizard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's realised he's had enough. If so, it's better that he does it now rather than once you're married. Sorry if I sound harsh, but getting married was a mistake I made, and after 12 years I left, which is way more messy.
2006-08-18 05:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Stephen H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well can't understand that phase too well, but mind you one of the partners do tend to visit it from time to time, now the best advice i could give is a say i heard long time ago, (love is like a bird, set it free, if it comes back it was meant to be)
2006-08-18 05:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋