what should I react with my manager?

Question

I have been working with my manager for four years. he promise me being the head of a section and I began to train new employees but after some times I noticed that he is going to put me aside and prefer to work directly and now he is going to define new project by the ideas I told to new emplooyees.I have the feeling of abusing me for his goals!? So what should I react now?

Answer 1

You should definitely speak up about it. While it's true that you may rock the boat, you should point out certain things rather than let them bother you. If you truly have an open and honest relationship, then he should be willing to work with you.

If you he is negligent or dismissive, those could be telltale signs of problems later on. Even in worst case scenario, it affirms your suspicions that this job may not be helpful for your career, it's better to find out now than find out years later after having put in so much toil and effort only to have someone else take credit for it.

One of the reasons why companies prefer to work with people fresh out of college is because they rarely complain. They're so eager to please and do a good job that they will allow themselves to get exploited even though their efforts are really valuable.

One of the problems with working for other people is that your services can be undervalued or are even intentionally undervalued to keep you passive.

It is possible to also give your boss the benefit of the doubt. However, to just let it lie will create resentment or will really bother you. Plus, there's also the problem of people overextending themselves and where they continue to keep taking.

If you don't confront him about this, he'll continue to keep doing that. Even if he doesn't mean any offense by it, he'll think that everything is okay and keep doing what he's doing. People tend to do that in just about every aspect of life. Especially when they don't think they've done anything wrong.

I've been on the receiving end where I took the nice approach where I didn't want to cause a stir or a scene. I was in a really bad financial situation, but I didn't complain because I was trying to be "supportive." Because I didn't submit those problems or grievances with that individual, he actually turned the tables on me and thought that he had leverage.

I work in the Film & Entertainmetn Industry all the time where clients will take on a position thinking that they're on a solid ground in suing you when, in fact, they've breached contract on numerous occasions. If you don't ponit those things out ASAP, they'll think they're fine but they'll turn around and have a whole list of grievances on you.

Even though it may not be the most pleasant thing to do, sometimes confronting your boss about this is good because it lets the air out. How do you know he's not keeping a tally of complaints or issues he has with you that he's keeping to himself? You may think you're doing well, but he's not saying anything.

Clear communication is best. It's also a good test to see if this is an individual you can work with. A lot of employees bite their tongue and don't say anything because they're worried about job security. However, job security isn't what it used to be. You can find yourself out of a job or no longer in your position. Loyalty in the work place isn't that solid sadly enough.

Don't forget that in the process of training those employees and staff with that information, you're giving away your trade secrets and what you've learned making you obsolete. The more you train other people on how to do things, the less they need you.

If you think things are bad now, wait and see what happens a couple months down the line when things get bad and you express your distaste and your boss no longer needs you because the other people whom you trained are proficient enough to handle your workload if you choose to quit. Right now, you have leverage.

One question you should address is whether you wrote those goals down. What are those goals you agreed upon? Bad things happen when people don't write down their goals and expectations. Bad things happen when people don't clarify what is a completed task or when you meet your objectives.

Have you met your objectives? You want those goals written down so that when you address your boss, you can show that you've satisfied your criteria and he hasn't satisfied his. If nothing is written down and enough time passes, you both can have different ideas on what those objectives are. Depending on the morals, ethics, and "forgetfulness" of your boss, things can be slanted in a way to where you haven't completed your tasks even if you had by the original verbal covenant both of you were going by.

You should at least write your list of objectives down. If you're going to confront him, do it in private obviously. The last thing you want to do is cause a scene in front of employees. It also weakens the company when there's disagreement with upper level management. It causes the employees to become nervous.

If you choose to address your manager, you want to approach him in the correct way. Go point by point listing your objectives and asking if he agrees that you've accomplished those tasks. Don't use declarative statements such as "I did this" and "I did that."

It should be questions like:

- "You wanted me to complete X amount of work in Y Days. Do you agree that I completed this task?"

- "You wanted me to complete these tasks in order to qualify for a position. I completed them in X amount of weeks with your approval. Do you agree?"

Go point by point with your stuff. Be prepared if he's the type that will try to be argumentative and claim that you haven't. You should have an answer ready to whatever objection he puts up. If you don't, at least you'll know what he's going to try holding over you.

I had a situation where I was promised a promotion, and I was looking forward to it. I was working really hard and when the day for my review finally came, I was shocked when they said that was going to be 6 months later. Since nothing was written down, I couldn't really verify what I thought I heard.

You could very well run into the same situation. It's amazing how "forgetful" people can get when things aren't written down. Especially with bosses.

The main thing is to keep your cool. You want to be prepared and have a complete list of things and you should even go a step further and prepare for any objections that you think he may throw at you so you can diffuse them.

It's really unfortunate when stuff like this happens, but it's typical of a lot of people's current work situations.

Good luck. If worse comes to worse, start your own business. If you have the Managerial Skills and know how the Basic Operations work, you could go into business yourself.

Answer 2

Perhaps you're doing your job so well that he is taking your contribtuion for granted. "New projects" and "training new people" sounds like he is already giving you more responsibility.
Make an appointment at the end of the day and "round up" the recent accomplishment both of you have achieved together. Tell him, point blank, that you feel you are ready for the section head position. If he puts you off, pin him down for a date, write it down and be prepared to leave if he backs out of the agreement.
Good luck...

Answer 3

Don't react. Pray, your manager is run over and dead by the evening. Better still, get another job and get the hell out of your present assignment

Answer 4

express your feeling......to the manager but in courteous manner. be polite and remind him of the earlier promise.

Answer 5

What goes around, comes around...

Answer 6

its high time you start your own business