I want to break up with my girlfriend today because our relationship is going no where, BUT we had s*x last night and the condom split, She said she will go for the morning after pill when she gets chance, I'm scared if i break up with her she wont go and get it, what should I do?
2006-08-17 21:42:29 · 16 answers · asked by Blade 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im only 20 and she's 19 so I dont want any nippers running around just yet
2006-08-17 21:50:40 · update #1
The reason why I slept with her last night then want to end it today is because i found out this morning shes been meeting other lads, and she would keep the baby to ruin my life
2006-08-17 21:52:41 · update #2
deffinetely wait for her to go get the pill and suffer just a little bit longer... not worth having alittle kid around because ur girlfriend is a psycho control freak
2006-08-17 21:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by alext 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok
Well, any dispensing pharmacy will sell the morning after pill, some even provide it free to young people. Otherwise, it costs about £20, you can buy it yourself and give it to her and save her the trouble of going and getting it herself. That is one solution. Just walk into the chemist and ask for emergency contraception- explain the circumstances and say it's for your partner.
I should mention that the sooner she takes it the more effective it is, the longer you leave it the slimmer the chances are that it will have the desired effect. The other thing she can do, is to have a coil fitted, if you wait longer than a couple of days, this is your only other choice for emergency contraception and it's entirely up to her whether she does that. It can only be fitted by a doctor or family planning clinic.
After you have dealt with your emergency, and you still want to end the relationship, I think the best approach would be to sit down with her and confront her about these allegations of infidelity. At least listen to her side of the story before you do anything rash. You should say that you want to end the relationship but should she find that the emergency contraception has not worked then you're willing to take responsibility for it and support her in any decision she makes subsequently.
I think it's quite a leap for you to assume that she would keep a baby to "ruin your life". I think that finding herself pregnant she would probably have far more on her mind than how best to make you miserable. A baby would effect her life in no less a profound way than it would yours, clearly she does not really want a child either because you were using contraception. When it comes down to it, whether she chooses a termination or not depends on her own sense of whether she rationalises it to be the best course of action in her own mind- or not. The choice is hers it is her body after all. All that you can do is offer your opinion and accept partial responsibility for what has happened.
good luck
S
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2006-08-17 23:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till she has got the pill ...
You shouldnt have slept with her if you knew you were breaking up .. thats low .. however more importantly it would not be fair to bring an unwanted child into the world.
On a brighter note for you ... if you suspect she is the sort of girl that would deliberately get pregnant on you then you are definitely right to walk away because
a) If its true - she is evil and should be avoided
b) If its not true and you feel that way then you dont care about her anyway.
2006-08-17 22:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take the morning after pill within 3 days for it to be effective, so just wait the 3 days to make sure!!
2006-08-17 21:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by OriginalBubble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, that's a bit off - having sex if you intended to break up with her today. Secondly, she would be very silly to make herself pregnant deliberately just to get back at you, I'm quite sure she's more intelligent than that, as it would turn hers and your life upside down, and bringing someone into the world in an unstable family. That aside, just tell it to her straight, and sooner rather than later.
2006-08-17 21:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Stephen H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What other choice have you got than to wait a bit and make sure the time is right to break away? In the meantime abstain from any further sex with her. Be patient, patience is the key here.
2006-08-17 22:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by rabb b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with her to get it. and be there when she takes it, don't go by her word..and how does a condom split, break, whatever, all the times me and my boyfriend had used one it never did that, you guys must have been doing it for a long time..
2006-08-17 23:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by korie v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your were planning on breaking up with her. You should had kept your dinker in your pants. I don't believe in the morning after pill. Just hope she doesn't get knocked up!
2006-08-17 22:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but you need to be responsible for ALL your actions. If she's preganant, you're going to have to stand by her and support her (maybe not as her partner, but certainly as the father of her child). If she's not preganant, maybe don't have intimacy with her any more...especially as you say your relationship is going nowhere. It doesn't sound right to be sleeping with someone when you want to split with them.
Good luck - for all your sakes, I hope she's not pregnant.
2006-08-17 21:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by medium_of_dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be supportive of her until she goes to get the morning after pill, then talk to her about where your relationship is going.
2006-08-17 21:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by sarah_roo03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋